Is being over 25 too old to still be living at home?

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I would start with bankruptcy. And check out both the "Ticket to Work" and the PASS plans through social security. save every dime you can, but make sure that there is not too much in your account at one time. Find ways to supplement your income off the books [ dog walking? pooper scooping?] Hopefully, when you find that special lady, she will be able to provide income as well.

Pretty much everyone I know of my age range is renting, but that's mostly either college students or recent graduates who moved here to study. I know only one other person who still lives with her parents and she's very depressed about it. It's weird because rent is really expensive here, actually more expensive than mortgage, so it doesn't make much sense to rent. That's why I'm saving for a down payment. I don't expect anyone to understand my position, but it's not the reason why I'm not dating. There's plenty of other reasons why I'm undateble.

not really I still live with my parent and I am over 25 may move out this year.

IMO, not at all. But I do think it is the age to at least start THINKING about the future and about getting your own place.

I swear that this is related to this thread.
Today, one WP member pretty much ripped me apart for taking advantage of my elderly husband. Of course it was assumed that since I am elderly [59] my husband must be old and decrepit as well. [ 5 years younger] Yes, I am a cancer warrior. I could have been one if I were not older. Unfortunately there are MANY children even with cancer. Yes, my husband has congestive heart failure, but I guarantee it is not because he worked hard until he became ill. I do not consider either of us feeble old people. [ pics of both of us, 2 years ago,before illness, very fit and non-feeble at www.trynude.com click on ABOUT,click on ACCOMODATIONS until you get to the woman and man in the ice cream shop. Do I look like an old, evil woman who is trying to work her husband to death? No, we look like happy, fit, hard working people of "a certain age" living and loving life.[warning trigger, non-young naked people]

So, how is this applicable to this thread? Maybe because that "elderly" comment made me feel I have the right of the elderly to "spout off" with a "back in my day," opinion.

Times are harder for young people now. Less jobs at a lesser income. Blue collar jobs gone overseas. Costs for college are sinful. Is it okay for young people to stay living with their parents for a longer period of time? I think it would be foolish for most not to. So long as they are using that time to prepare for the future, and that includes economically. Save money, learn living skills. I think that can level the playing field.
A lot.

And when and if you DO move out,try to move to your own home or paid off mobile home or whatever.[ unless your disability prevents it from being an option.

Back in "my day", I,like most of my peers, if they were not attending college [which for some was for a very long time to avoid the draft] I moved out at 18 years old. I grew up in a solid middle class family. They were not poor, and though they were not typical in so many ways, they were when it came to their kids leaving the nest. My mom gave me some old dish towels, a few non-matching dishes, an old chenille bedspread and a few of the black "camping pans."

I did not have a bed, but that was okay. Many of my peers had no bed at all, just an old mattress. [ it was ussually a few years before getting that "cool"waterbed.] I did not have a mattress, but that did not phase me, especially since I had a friend with a pick-up truck. This meant that as soon as there was semester end at the university in Boulder, I would have my choice of mattresses from dumpsters in the area. That is when the moms would come to the rescue. Not with money. With a can of lysol. [ and ussually homemade cookies]

Eventually, we would hear about someone someone giving away a free sofa. We did not care about the style or color or design. It was a free couch for goodness sakes. If there were not springs poking out all over the place,it felt as though we had hit the "motherlode." It would look beautiful to us and look perfect next to the cedar block and wood bookcase one of our roommates [yes roommates] had picked up the parts for at a construction site.

We would share a meal of "poor mans tuna" sandwiches,[ one can of tuna mixed with tons of mashed potatoes, on day old bread] or beans and rice, and cherry kool-aid with 4 or 5 other people, feeling somewhat proud of our frugal culinary ability.

Just examples of how it was. We did not feel poor or deprived. We were setting money aside, some of it for the "responsible, real grown up" future, and some of it for the really cool hookah and mural we had seen at Pier One Imports.

My late husband. He could not afford to rent a house and go to school at the same time. He had moved to Colorado from New Jersey. He had called for the tuition fees before leaving NJ. The tuition he had been quoted had been the local residents rate. His out-of-state tuition was 5 times higher. He did not discover this until he went in to register. He could not afford both rent and tuition, so he moved into a cave for 5 months until he was making decent money as a stage hand. Now, while he was living, I heard at least a thousand times about the college girls who kept him warm, satisfied, and fed while he lived there, but still...

It was just assumed we would find a way. And, most of us, NT or AS did. Times are rougher in many ways. Staying at home for awhile getting ready is almost a neccessity now. And expecting to start with nice furniture, being able to go out to eat once a week, or the movies when we were not tucking at least that same ammount of money away for a house, business, whatever,was unreasonable then, and is unreasonable now.
More examples. Phone? There were no cell phones and we could not afford the 8 bucks a month for a home phone. Not to get where we we wanted without stressing ourselves out. So, a bunch of us paid a dollar each a month to the lady down the block who was home with a bunch of kids who would take messages for us. WIn-win, all around. And we did not feel deprived. We felt smart. Grocery stores did not donate to food banks [not sure if they even existed] so we would "shop", along with many of our neighbors at the grocery store dumpsters. And we did not feel deprived. We felt smart. The first bottled water I heard of, was perrier, a sign of status. Most of us found it a joke. It should be even more a joke now that there are water bottles all over the place.

So, just an "old lady lecture." Please, do not feel uncomfortable staying home as long as you need to [so long as you are welcome and all around pitching in], just make that time count.

And are you preparing financially and emotionally for it?

what about those who can't use this time to save or prepare for the future? just make enough to survive in the now time.