Is being over 25 too old to still be living at home?

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I am in the same boat. I am in my 30s and still living at home. I have never been able to find steady work and can't find any now due to my aspergers. I have trouble finding relationships as well and this I am sure is a big reason. I don't know what else to do though. I have applied for SSI still waiting on a hearing.

I have a job and a car at least but my job is minimum-wage, although I recently got a raise since the minimum-wage in California went up a little bit, i'm making $9.10 an hour now

Amazing double-standards go on in society (including with Aspies), and one of those is: it's okay to be a deadbeat, as long as you're attractive. If you're poor and trying to work, and you live with your parents, that's not okay, but if you're leeching off your parents and not doing crap, it's fine.

Just something I notice that goes on a lot.

If you're supporting elderly and/or disabled parents, I don't have a problem with you living at home. It's the right thing to do. What I have a problem with is parents expecting their kids to take care of them when the burden of caring for parents if the burden is unreasonable. If kids can take care of mom and dad and they WANT to take care of mom and dad, then AWESOME.

And I don't REALLY have a problem with kids staying with mom and dad and mom and dad supporting them after a certain age. What I have a problem is an adult expecting mom and dad to carry them and not contributing anything in return. If any or all of my children want to stay with us indefinitely and support the household through our collective work in the music business, they can bring husbands/wives and grandchildren in for all I care. I'd be thrilled. But you you're going to live at home for the rest of your lives, not contribute to what WE want you to do, live a lifestyle we don't approve of, and ignore household rules, you gotsta go. It's nothing personal. If independence is what you want, we aren't helping you if all we do is enable you by tolerating basement bum behavior. If you can get your own job and support your family, what do you need us for, anyway? Get outta here, get rich, and make us lots of babies already!! !

thread makes me depressed.

In this day and age, I see nothing wrong with still living at home as long as you help your parents with things around the house, run errands for them, etc. I anticipate that after I'm done with college I'll be moving back home. I can just about afford my car insurance, there is no way I could afford to live on my own with my sources of income right now. Things are really tough financially right now, especially for people in my age range.

ya I would imagine

I'm in the "live with mother" boat. I get SSI and I do chores around the house. I pay for my bills (doctor copays, my treats, etc.) I would like to get a job but unlike most people, I didn't work when I was a teen and I'm afraid potential employers don't want to hire someone with no experience. I also have no car which makes it more difficult.. I feel kinda weird since most people my age already live on their own and a car.

Yes 26 is too old to be living with your parents........however I lived with my parents till I was 29

If they are happy with it and you are happy with it what is the problem, there is no right or wrong.

I suggest simply lying on your resume, then.

ya basically men have to do everything and live life for themselves

No it's pretty common for people in their mid 20s to still be at home... I don't think it's considered that strange really this day and age. I'm 24 and live at home, although I have a bachelors degree and my first "real" job beginning my career. I do wanna move out soon, I could afford it on my own, but I am trying to stick it out as long as I can because it's soo easy to save money this way. Room is free, food is free, cable & Internet is free.. Not too shabby. Oh I should maybe mention that my mom & step dad don't really want me to leave either because I do most of the yard work and shoveling in the winter along with other various chores they hate doing. So we have a symbiotic thing goin on lol
Anyway I'm sure some women would have a problem with it but I haven't really dealt w that.. I meet a lot of women my age living at home too. Most of them are just sensible tryna save money like me.

I was always concerned that at 29 I was "too late" in moving out but the girl I am dating didn't move on her own until 31. She did live with friends before but only when she worked on the other side of the country. The more I learn the more I realize that late 20s is becoming the new standard at least for singles.

It does seem that way, doesn't it?

In 1981, I left home. I was 20.

There's not nearly as much shame in twentysomethings staying with their parents as there used to be back before the 1990s. There's still the inevitable tensions, though--since twentysomethings are adults and don't want to be told what to do like kids.

I would save, save, save, save, especially if parents don't charge rent.

My mother charged me about $120 a month after I got my first job out of high school. that was about 1/3 to 1/4 of the rent back in the early 80s.

Try to put a positive spin on it. "Yeah, times are tough, so I moved in to help my parents." Try the dutiful son angle.

good sort of news is I started going back to school last week, community college