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autismthinker21
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15 Sep 2014, 5:53 pm

if he was real, us people on here wouldnt be having problems getting things done the way we want them to.


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17 Sep 2014, 2:54 pm

I'm going off topic, but isn't the problem that a few people are actually doing what they want, taking advantage of others and ruining the world for the rest of us... Mugabe, Putin, Abu Bakr al-Baghdadi, Kim Jong Un etc.



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17 Sep 2014, 4:44 pm

hurtloam wrote:
I'm going off topic, but isn't the problem that a few people are actually doing what they want, taking advantage of others and ruining the world for the rest of us... Mugabe, Putin, Abu Bakr al-Baghdadi, Kim Jong Un etc.


No, the real problem is that such people have followers.



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17 Sep 2014, 5:52 pm

I don't know your spiritual persuasion but in general there is not much in religious writings about God getting involved in people's personal business in that way. That is one of the things you have to do on your own.

In another thread it was discussed that statistically people with ASD do not have as many relationships or get married as much as people without it. So it is, or can be an obstacle and is not really your fault. It is often just more difficult. But the statistics also show many do establish relationships and get married and especially at older ages. Perhaps people with ASD just take longer to get to the point of being ready and able to do it.

So I would say consider it a normal thing, that it is difficult, but that it is not hopeless and being older does not mean it less likely.



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17 Sep 2014, 10:16 pm

hurtloam wrote:
Why would it be God's job to pair us up with someone anyway? I believe we have free will to choose our own destiny, God gives guidance and support, but he's not Santa, nor a genie sitting waiting to grant us wishes. We still have to put effort into what we want.

That's my perspective of the universe anyway.


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17 Sep 2014, 10:41 pm

With all due respect I feel like a dozen of these threads on this board are about the same thing and can be compiled.


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18 Sep 2014, 2:29 pm

we are screwed for life.


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18 Sep 2014, 2:35 pm

italstallianion wrote:
With all due respect I feel like a dozen of these threads on this board are about the same thing and can be compiled.

I have thought that about several other topics here. Apparently, moving topics to different subforums is possible, but merging two or more topics into one flummoxes everyone involved. Other forums do this all the time so that topics don't spawn clones which only confuses users and results in duplicate posts being published.


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18 Sep 2014, 3:18 pm

I know six AS men; two of them have already had sex (and they're 24 and 23, respectively), another's in a relationship, one had a relationship before me and was choosing to abstain until marriage for religious observance (although he's undiagnosed), one of them is trying online dating and found a match, and the last one's more profound than the other five but he's doing alright all things considered and will probably find someone as well.

Two of them are still in a relationship, the other four are not.

So, no, I don't think anyone's "doomed" to be forever alone.

But apparently AS men are pretty lucky over here, based on the observations I've made about the anecdotes of other users. RDU's apparently rather kind to AS individuals. The most profound one of the six is in Kentucky, but he's got a heart of gold and I'm sure he'll find someone.

I'm an AS female and I've been in two relationships; both of them are part of the list above. It's really a "luck of the draw" sort of thing.

I think a lot of the region's flexibility with AS is the fact we have engineering schools coming out of our ass, so they figure they're just supposed to be weird anyway. All of the people listed above are also in STEM fields, which I'm not sure if that helps them or not.

That is just my experience, though. ^^