Age difference.
AngelRho
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3 years is nuthin. I remember being about 23 yo grad student when I began molesting an 18-yo college freshman. We had a lot of fun together, and having been through a 4-year program myself I was fortunate to end up with someone who felt as strongly about hitting the books as I did. I didn't try to take too much of her time but rather tried to be as much a mentor as I was a bf. It's a rare kind of relationship to get into, but it can be VERY enjoyable. Older/younger relationships can have that whole look-up-to-you vibe to them, and what made it somewhat fun for us was that I had some good dating history before her, while for her I was her first bf. We both hated breaking up, but at a certain point you have to look at your lives together and decide whether there's a future there. There was no lack of love. We were just going two completely different directions in life, and we're still friends now.
I would prefer to date someone exactly the same age as me as that would be matching and equal and that is probably a bit aspie of me.
my last bf was 5 years younger than me but cos he was aspie looked 15-20 years younger (lol), so I got lots of comments and funny looks, I was always paranoid people would think he was my son or other bad things. Now he is in his 30s he is much more haggard so I dont feel so self conscious walking round with him, we look more of a similar age now.
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I dated someone who was eight years older than me. Then, he rudely dumped me.
My current boyfriend is only a year or two older than me, and it's not really that big of a deal for me. I think three years is normal compared to most people.
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I was in a mostly online relationship with a 15year-old when I was 20 & when I was 28 I got in a relationship with a 19year-old girl from this site so I don't think 19 & 22 is a big deal at all.
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When I was in high school, i tended to fall in love with girls my age. But as a senior, i had a crush on a girl who was a year younger than me. At the time, I felt a great deal of conflict over the age difference. Now, it wouldn't matter at all... I would consider a one year age difference to be essentially the same age, but at the time, it felt like something extreme.
When you are young, one year is a large percentage of your life. You get to be my age and one year is nothing. If I live to be one hundred, I might start thinking those nubile 80 year olds might be ok to date.
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I don't think it's specific to age difference.. and by that I mean worrying. I shortened your post down to all you need to explain why you think the way you do:
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Three years is no big deal, especially the older you get. I mean if one person is say 33, while the other one is 36, that's about as normal as it gets. My brother in law is 17 years older than my sister and the women I'm hoping to date are probably around 3-6 years younger than me or 3-6 older, as age isn't that important to me.
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Seriously, Anna and I can't be the only ones concerned about this.
Molested??
Seriously, Anna and I can't be the only ones concerned about this.
Not really concerned about the age difference here, just about the use of the word "molested"....
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Seriously, Anna and I can't be the only ones concerned about this.
I believe this was a turn of phrase... take a look at the rest of the comment... Our gf jokingly uses the term molested... and we use the phrase "Doing rude and unspeakable things to each other" to describe our sex life.
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Molested??
Seriously, Anna and I can't be the only ones concerned about this.
I believe this was a turn of phrase... take a look at the rest of the comment... Our gf jokingly uses the term molested... and we use the phrase "Doing rude and unspeakable things to each other" to describe our sex life.
Exactly. Don't over think it.
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Seriously, Anna and I can't be the only ones concerned about this.
I believe this was a turn of phrase... take a look at the rest of the comment... Our gf jokingly uses the term molested... and we use the phrase "Doing rude and unspeakable things to each other" to describe our sex life.
Exactly. Don't over think it.
It's in poor taste. Very creepy and pervy. I would avoid someone with that kind of sense of humour.
Everything is permitted when it comes to humor...unless you're a hypocrite.
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Seriously, Anna and I can't be the only ones concerned about this.
Not really concerned about the age difference here, just about the use of the word "molested"....
That was my concern as well.
Saw the later responses and I'm hoping it was used as a joke, because that's only uncomfortable, not disturbing.