manly men vs vulnerable effete men

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I want a man that is not afraid to show his emotion and show himself vulnerable, but I also want him to be confident and not labile. Someone that dares voice his problems, but that has the strength to fix them.
First impression wise: confident, but not and arrogant and dismissive dick.

I also prefer men who are vulnerable Sweet Peas.

They want a sensitive caring one as friend; but a manly one in bed.

"Sensitive and caring, but manly" strikes me as a contradiction, warrior-males excel that shutting off their emotions because that's what is required for the defense of the village; you show no emotion you show know fear. That's why some women stick with husbands that beat the crap out of them. They know they've found a warrior male whose also a good provider, but the same forces that made him a warrior-male is the same one that makes him apathetic to her...Hell there was one in the news not too long ago, sure he beats the crap out of her but he's a provider and protector, while he wont kill her, she's most certainly safe from outside forces (even if the outside forces aren't real) you can't simply disregard millions of years of evolution.

He's trained all his life to feel no empathy because that is the precise thing that lets him run down his enemies without the slightest bit of hesitation.

Women are trying to strike an ideal balance that I think is quite near impossible, the best they might find are alpha males who is good at faking empathy, or a beta male who is good at faking his power, of course there is the omega-male who actually IS vulnerable, which is what makes him good at empathy, but he's not anywhere near the warrior-male that the alpha exudes, and thus he is ignored.

Omega males are the best at being sensitive and vulnerable because they've been that their entire lives. These ones make good artists and musicians, poets and actors -- if you look at art, music, movies, you will notice that all of this is trying to reach out to you from a wounded angles, something that the omega-male is quite familiar with.

If women want genuine softness, they can find that in omega-males, but they simply don't want it, because they prefer power to weakness, like all other humans.

You know the bible says something that I think comments on this, it states "The wants of the spirit contradicts the flesh; the wants of the flesh contradicts the spirit."

You see what happens? The closer she is to power, the more inclined she is to wounding her spirit, the less near, the closer she is to wounding her flesh, but which one of these is better? Society will tell her the former, the enlightened will tell her the later.

Humans are far more dynamic and have many dimensions...

Comparing us to trends and terms used in zoology to analyse our behaviours is primitive since there's a wide range of preferences and types of people, you can't just put certain people in groups.

Again, I hear this misconception that women only date alphas in sports cars with million pound bank rolls, if that were true, why are so many people in relationships? From artists to bakers to singers to dancers to male interior designers..

I can't speak to the man thing, but as a comparison I find women who possess a variety of attributes attractive. That is those that are confident at times (even to being mannish, or tomboy) but also are not too proud to show vunerability at other times. Female soldiers are one example that can often embody this range of attitude/feelings quite well.

^ Truly confident people are Jesus Christ.