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21 Sep 2014, 8:43 pm

Damn I never got the memo to this magical world where getting laid is easy. It must be a different world than the one I live in. If you told me that girls don't like sex then based on the world I see around me, I'd have half a mind to believe it.

(Yes, I am aware that the proper reality is that women don't want to have sex....with me, but since my world is based on my perceptions/realities, then they are the same thing)


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21 Sep 2014, 11:53 pm

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Its really easy to get sex if you want it. You just have go out and learn to talk social and read body language....


Oh, is that all?
Really? :lmao:


Well, that's one way.

I do agree it's really easy to get sex if you want it, though. The latter part of metalab's statement is certainly easier said than done for many of the people here.

IMO it's much easier to email people on dating sites/personal ads etc in order to arrange hooking up to get laid if that's your thing. Way easier for aspic's to communicate via text vs. face to face interactions.


what o.O I really want sex. yet I never get it. so I don't think how much you want something changes your chances of getting it.
besides trying to pay whores i suppose.

women seeking just sex or fwb are way more picky about body and looks then those seeking a relationship. they want a athetic guy with a good sized penis, also handsome. I mean there's probably 20 guys looking for just sex per 1 woman. so they do have the ability to be picky.



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22 Sep 2014, 12:32 am

sly279 wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
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Its really easy to get sex if you want it. You just have go out and learn to talk social and read body language....


Oh, is that all?
Really? :lmao:


Well, that's one way.

I do agree it's really easy to get sex if you want it, though. The latter part of metalab's statement is certainly easier said than done for many of the people here.

IMO it's much easier to email people on dating sites/personal ads etc in order to arrange hooking up to get laid if that's your thing. Way easier for aspic's to communicate via text vs. face to face interactions.


what o.O I really want sex. yet I never get it. so I don't think how much you want something changes your chances of getting it.
besides trying to pay whores i suppose.

women seeking just sex or fwb are way more picky about body and looks then those seeking a relationship. they want a athetic guy with a good sized penis, also handsome. I mean there's probably 20 guys looking for just sex per 1 woman. so they do have the ability to be picky.


I suppose I should remind you that I'm gay. I also live in the suburbs of the city with the largest gay population in all of Canada... sooo, in case you haven't done the math: horny guy + horny guy = easy to hookup if you want to.

I doubt it's quite as easy for heterosexuals, however, I do have straight friends who've used internet sites to arrange hooking up w/ someone for sex. So, it happens just the same. I'm not sure which is easier, but from my own personal experiences and observations I'd guess it's plenty easier for gay guys vs. straight. BUT it's still entirely doable for straight guys. I know several straight guys that have used the internet to arrange getting laid and I'm sure it happens incredibly frequently.

Also, why assume you're not some girl's type? People have all sorts of different looks/body types they're attracted to. You might find some girl who's looking for a guy just like you to hookup with.


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22 Sep 2014, 1:11 am

I know you're gay you say so in your posts.
horny guy +horny guy doesn't = not picky guy. the gays here seem to be just as picky as the women. not that I check often but i made the mistake of posting my ad in the men looking for men section once.
seems to just be false sexist idea that all men are horny and will sex anything they can.

I know people that found 100 bill on the floor once, doesn't mean I will. I'm sure it happens but not to everyone. i'm willing to bet your friends aren't like me in looks and personality. I think for a handsome, athletic guys its quiet easy regardless of if they are gay or straight.

I don't assume. I tried the causal sex route for a while, falsely thinking they would be less picky then those looking for love. it turns out they are way more picky and stuck to the wanting it all. something about having sex just for fun means they want to have the best sex possible. where as if you're looking for love you are willing to settle for good sex. hence why they want a handsome/athletic guy(sexy looking) and big penis(assumed more pleasure) needless to say I was rejected 100% of the time based solely on my face and not being athletic. so i leave causal sex to the handsome athletic guys as it's what its for.

here's a question why does a woman who just wants a guy to giver her oral and leave also limit it to guys with 8" penis? is it for looking at the few mins before he goes down on her?

while there are no doubt women who might like a non thin guy, they are quite rare. most are already taken.



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22 Sep 2014, 2:32 am

sly279 wrote:
I know you're gay you say so in your posts.
horny guy +horny guy doesn't = not picky guy. the gays here seem to be just as picky as the women. not that I check often but i made the mistake of posting my ad in the men looking for men section once.
seems to just be false sexist idea that all men are horny and will sex anything they can.

I know people that found 100 bill on the floor once, doesn't mean I will. I'm sure it happens but not to everyone. i'm willing to bet your friends aren't like me in looks and personality. I think for a handsome, athletic guys its quiet easy regardless of if they are gay or straight.

I don't assume. I tried the causal sex route for a while, falsely thinking they would be less picky then those looking for love. it turns out they are way more picky and stuck to the wanting it all. something about having sex just for fun means they want to have the best sex possible. where as if you're looking for love you are willing to settle for good sex. hence why they want a handsome/athletic guy(sexy looking) and big penis(assumed more pleasure) needless to say I was rejected 100% of the time based solely on my face and not being athletic. so i leave causal sex to the handsome athletic guys as it's what its for.

here's a question why does a woman who just wants a guy to giver her oral and leave also limit it to guys with 8" penis? is it for looking at the few mins before he goes down on her?

while there are no doubt women who might like a non thin guy, they are quite rare. most are already taken.


True. Gay guys still have their types & standards. I certainly won't have sex with anyone just because they're a gay guy. There are only certain types I'm attracted to, like anyone else.

So, then why not get more active & fit if you think that's what constrains you from getting either sex or a relationship?

One question to ask yourself is: Would you date you? If not, why not? Once you figure out what makes you unattractive, work on improving those things about yourself whether it's physical fitness, hygiene, knowledge, employment, finances, attitude, social skills etc. Become someone you would date and guess what, someone else will want to date you.

As for the woman wanting oral only from a guy w/ 8".. could be a fetish, could be her type/criteria for attraction, could be a control thing.. could be that she could get almost any guy to go down on her but gets off knowing the guy is well endowed and she's not going to have intercourse with him. Could be that she just likes seeing an 8"er. Any number of reasons, really.. but no matter what the reason, that's what she wants & it is what it is.


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22 Sep 2014, 5:31 am

I guess going to a hooker is the only option



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23 Sep 2014, 12:19 am

Some do; some don?t. Well, if you count those who die virgins as losing their virginity at infinite age, then the average aspie loses their virginity at infinite age, which sort of can be interpreted as meaning we all die virgins, more or less like you can argue that, since the probability of choosing at random an even prime number is zero, two doesn?t exist.

But I think everyone who?s had a partner knows it very much does.


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23 Sep 2014, 1:08 am

sly279 wrote:
I know you're gay you say so in your posts.
horny guy +horny guy doesn't = not picky guy. the gays here seem to be just as picky as the women. not that I check often but i made the mistake of posting my ad in the men looking for men section once.
seems to just be false sexist idea that all men are horny and will sex anything they can.

I know people that found 100 bill on the floor once, doesn't mean I will. I'm sure it happens but not to everyone. i'm willing to bet your friends aren't like me in looks and personality. I think for a handsome, athletic guys its quiet easy regardless of if they are gay or straight.

I don't assume. I tried the causal sex route for a while, falsely thinking they would be less picky then those looking for love. it turns out they are way more picky and stuck to the wanting it all. something about having sex just for fun means they want to have the best sex possible. where as if you're looking for love you are willing to settle for good sex. hence why they want a handsome/athletic guy(sexy looking) and big penis(assumed more pleasure) needless to say I was rejected 100% of the time based solely on my face and not being athletic. so i leave causal sex to the handsome athletic guys as it's what its for.

here's a question why does a woman who just wants a guy to giver her oral and leave also limit it to guys with 8" penis? is it for looking at the few mins before he goes down on her?

while there are no doubt women who might like a non thin guy, they are quite rare. most are already taken.


Try sites like adultfriendfinder if you're just looking for casual sex, it's way easier to find on the web than relationships. Not everyone looking to hook up online is a 9 or 10 themselves and some people might be attracted to your body type in particular. Inexperience can also be a big fetish for people on hookup sites. They aren't all taken, there are plenty of people out there and you shouldn't have a problem finding casual encounters, it might not sound fair to say "you shouldn't have a problem" but just hit me up if you've registered somewhere like that and can't find anything.

I'm not all that attractive either and the few times I signed up for something like that right after the divorce someone was interested in me before I even finished my profile, no kidding. On casual romance websites people are way less picky and way more picky at the same time, only it's just physical and people tend to like almost all types so I'm sure someone likes your body type. There are people out there that are picky for your particular type and they are just waiting for you to register.


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24 Sep 2014, 9:13 pm

goldfish21 wrote:
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I know you're gay you say so in your posts.
horny guy +horny guy doesn't = not picky guy. the gays here seem to be just as picky as the women. not that I check often but i made the mistake of posting my ad in the men looking for men section once.
seems to just be false sexist idea that all men are horny and will sex anything they can.

I know people that found 100 bill on the floor once, doesn't mean I will. I'm sure it happens but not to everyone. i'm willing to bet your friends aren't like me in looks and personality. I think for a handsome, athletic guys its quiet easy regardless of if they are gay or straight.

I don't assume. I tried the causal sex route for a while, falsely thinking they would be less picky then those looking for love. it turns out they are way more picky and stuck to the wanting it all. something about having sex just for fun means they want to have the best sex possible. where as if you're looking for love you are willing to settle for good sex. hence why they want a handsome/athletic guy(sexy looking) and big penis(assumed more pleasure) needless to say I was rejected 100% of the time based solely on my face and not being athletic. so i leave causal sex to the handsome athletic guys as it's what its for.

here's a question why does a woman who just wants a guy to giver her oral and leave also limit it to guys with 8" penis? is it for looking at the few mins before he goes down on her?

while there are no doubt women who might like a non thin guy, they are quite rare. most are already taken.


True. Gay guys still have their types & standards. I certainly won't have sex with anyone just because they're a gay guy. There are only certain types I'm attracted to, like anyone else.

So, then why not get more active & fit if you think that's what constrains you from getting either sex or a relationship?

One question to ask yourself is: Would you date you? If not, why not? Once you figure out what makes you unattractive, work on improving those things about yourself whether it's physical fitness, hygiene, knowledge, employment, finances, attitude, social skills etc. Become someone you would date and guess what, someone else will want to date you.

As for the woman wanting oral only from a guy w/ 8".. could be a fetish, could be her type/criteria for attraction, could be a control thing.. could be that she could get almost any guy to go down on her but gets off knowing the guy is well endowed and she's not going to have intercourse with him. Could be that she just likes seeing an 8"er. Any number of reasons, really.. but no matter what the reason, that's what she wants & it is what it is.


I wouldn't date me. i'm not into guys or super incest.
I don't think and won't change who I am to get a girl. they won't love me that is me, but my body. f**k that.
I am working on getting back to the weight I want to be at. but that isn't where most women and society think i should be, they'd rather I look like a holocaust survivor with bones showing and a trig ready to snap. no thanks. i don't have that body type. so starving myself to get to some arbitrary weight is a hell no. as for my face can't change that without surgery which insurance won't pay for. as for money sure by the time i'm 110 i should be debt free :'(



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24 Sep 2014, 9:15 pm

Lukecash12

those sites cost money to be able to message and most the women are just bots to attract people to pay.

its not really for me anyways. I need emotional connection to enjoy sex.



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25 Sep 2014, 5:55 am

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One question to ask yourself is: Would you date you? If not, why not?


And if yes?


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25 Sep 2014, 11:33 am

Is not Autism Spectrum Disorder considered at least partially to have a genetic origin ? If that is true, would it not be safe to assume that at least one person with ASD had sex with another person and passed on the traits?

That is to say, we got here some how, and it wasn't our parents playing chess?

I have three kids by the way.



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26 Sep 2014, 12:46 pm

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Do aspies never date, get married, or have sex? I am 21, a virgin, and never dated anyone. I don't ever see myself in a committed relationship or engaging in sexual activity with anyone. Is this typical with people with Asperger's?


You're asking several things at once.

Do all aspies not want either sex or relationships?

Some are like that, some are not.

Are aspies unable to form romantic relationships?
Some are. Some are not. Though even for the latter they are handicapped by lacking social skills in finding romantic partners. But many manage to get married, have kids, and form families anyway.



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sly279 wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
I know you're gay you say so in your posts.
horny guy +horny guy doesn't = not picky guy. the gays here seem to be just as picky as the women. not that I check often but i made the mistake of posting my ad in the men looking for men section once.
seems to just be false sexist idea that all men are horny and will sex anything they can.

I know people that found 100 bill on the floor once, doesn't mean I will. I'm sure it happens but not to everyone. i'm willing to bet your friends aren't like me in looks and personality. I think for a handsome, athletic guys its quiet easy regardless of if they are gay or straight.

I don't assume. I tried the causal sex route for a while, falsely thinking they would be less picky then those looking for love. it turns out they are way more picky and stuck to the wanting it all. something about having sex just for fun means they want to have the best sex possible. where as if you're looking for love you are willing to settle for good sex. hence why they want a handsome/athletic guy(sexy looking) and big penis(assumed more pleasure) needless to say I was rejected 100% of the time based solely on my face and not being athletic. so i leave causal sex to the handsome athletic guys as it's what its for.

here's a question why does a woman who just wants a guy to giver her oral and leave also limit it to guys with 8" penis? is it for looking at the few mins before he goes down on her?

while there are no doubt women who might like a non thin guy, they are quite rare. most are already taken.


True. Gay guys still have their types & standards. I certainly won't have sex with anyone just because they're a gay guy. There are only certain types I'm attracted to, like anyone else.

So, then why not get more active & fit if you think that's what constrains you from getting either sex or a relationship?

One question to ask yourself is: Would you date you? If not, why not? Once you figure out what makes you unattractive, work on improving those things about yourself whether it's physical fitness, hygiene, knowledge, employment, finances, attitude, social skills etc. Become someone you would date and guess what, someone else will want to date you.

As for the woman wanting oral only from a guy w/ 8".. could be a fetish, could be her type/criteria for attraction, could be a control thing.. could be that she could get almost any guy to go down on her but gets off knowing the guy is well endowed and she's not going to have intercourse with him. Could be that she just likes seeing an 8"er. Any number of reasons, really.. but no matter what the reason, that's what she wants & it is what it is.


I wouldn't date me. i'm not into guys or super incest.
I don't think and won't change who I am to get a girl. they won't love me that is me, but my body. f**k that.
I am working on getting back to the weight I want to be at. but that isn't where most women and society think i should be, they'd rather I look like a holocaust survivor with bones showing and a trig ready to snap. no thanks. i don't have that body type. so starving myself to get to some arbitrary weight is a hell no. as for my face can't change that without surgery which insurance won't pay for. as for money sure by the time i'm 110 i should be debt free :'(


Umm, nope. Something like 2/3 of the US population is overweight or obese, household/student loan debt is at record highs.... and yet TONS of pudgy, indebted people manage to have / obtain romantic partners.

2/3 of the adult population isn't staying home Friday and Saturday nights because they weigh too much. You blaming your weight is an EXCUSE.



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28 Sep 2014, 2:35 pm

Jjancee wrote:
sly279 wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
I know you're gay you say so in your posts.
horny guy +horny guy doesn't = not picky guy. the gays here seem to be just as picky as the women. not that I check often but i made the mistake of posting my ad in the men looking for men section once.
seems to just be false sexist idea that all men are horny and will sex anything they can.

I know people that found 100 bill on the floor once, doesn't mean I will. I'm sure it happens but not to everyone. i'm willing to bet your friends aren't like me in looks and personality. I think for a handsome, athletic guys its quiet easy regardless of if they are gay or straight.

I don't assume. I tried the causal sex route for a while, falsely thinking they would be less picky then those looking for love. it turns out they are way more picky and stuck to the wanting it all. something about having sex just for fun means they want to have the best sex possible. where as if you're looking for love you are willing to settle for good sex. hence why they want a handsome/athletic guy(sexy looking) and big penis(assumed more pleasure) needless to say I was rejected 100% of the time based solely on my face and not being athletic. so i leave causal sex to the handsome athletic guys as it's what its for.

here's a question why does a woman who just wants a guy to giver her oral and leave also limit it to guys with 8" penis? is it for looking at the few mins before he goes down on her?

while there are no doubt women who might like a non thin guy, they are quite rare. most are already taken.


True. Gay guys still have their types & standards. I certainly won't have sex with anyone just because they're a gay guy. There are only certain types I'm attracted to, like anyone else.

So, then why not get more active & fit if you think that's what constrains you from getting either sex or a relationship?

One question to ask yourself is: Would you date you? If not, why not? Once you figure out what makes you unattractive, work on improving those things about yourself whether it's physical fitness, hygiene, knowledge, employment, finances, attitude, social skills etc. Become someone you would date and guess what, someone else will want to date you.

As for the woman wanting oral only from a guy w/ 8".. could be a fetish, could be her type/criteria for attraction, could be a control thing.. could be that she could get almost any guy to go down on her but gets off knowing the guy is well endowed and she's not going to have intercourse with him. Could be that she just likes seeing an 8"er. Any number of reasons, really.. but no matter what the reason, that's what she wants & it is what it is.


I wouldn't date me. i'm not into guys or super incest.
I don't think and won't change who I am to get a girl. they won't love me that is me, but my body. f**k that.
I am working on getting back to the weight I want to be at. but that isn't where most women and society think i should be, they'd rather I look like a holocaust survivor with bones showing and a trig ready to snap. no thanks. i don't have that body type. so starving myself to get to some arbitrary weight is a hell no. as for my face can't change that without surgery which insurance won't pay for. as for money sure by the time i'm 110 i should be debt free :'(


Umm, nope. Something like 2/3 of the US population is overweight or obese, household/student loan debt is at record highs.... and yet TONS of pudgy, indebted people manage to have / obtain romantic partners.

2/3 of the adult population isn't staying home Friday and Saturday nights because they weigh too much. You blaming your weight is an EXCUSE.


guess I live in the area where the 1/3 live. most women here are super fit and gorgeous. most are attending the university or graduated with a degree.

huh. don't think i said anything about my weight being the reason i stay home friday nights. though can't say I know many who go out. me and what friends I have aren't into the club scenes. which seems to be what those who go out friday nights do. going to bars and stuff.

I don't have enough money to pay gas to go to a bar and over pay for drinks while I sit alone getting a headache from annoyingly loud music.

i don't blame my weight. I have been told by many women that it or job/income, or my face is why they don't want to hear from me. I am 20-30 pounds over what I want to be, but society says I should be 200 pounds which my doctor says isn't realistic for my body type., so I will never be that thin athletic guy most women here want.



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05 Oct 2014, 10:20 pm

I don't know what the statistics are. I haven't heard of a sex survey that is exclusively for aspies. However, too many people to count post here and have had sex. I lost my virginity at the age of 21. I had girlfriends before that and did other sexual stuff. Based on my experience, having AS is not automatically an impediment to getting sex. There are other factors involved (where you live, what you look like, dumb luck).