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28 Oct 2014, 9:45 pm

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GHF, I see nothing wrong with your interpretation.

That woman is crazy through and through.

You people saying "she got too many dick pics/lewd messages/etc. sent to her" need to realize something. If, like some of you guys say, this happens to "every" woman, then why don't all these women have similar vitriolic statements on THEIR profiles? Hmm? Care to answer that one?

It's more likely that this lady got one picture of a dick and decided to lump all guys together.


The fact that everyone's thresholds and reactions to unpleasantness are not the same, nor are their life circumstances which might be making them less able to just shrug it off.

Something something, lumping everyone together...

People here pretty much read what they want to read, though. If they get flack for the way they talk about others, they complain about how they're not allowed to vent or be confident. I don't care whether or not men in this section think they're the best thing to ever happen to women or just an average guy, my criticisms here are of people who are nasty in their attitudes towards others but think everyone should be kind to their own flaws.

As far as I'm concerned, you can think you're Jesus Christ himself as long as you don't sneer or denigrate others because someone had a frustrated outburst in their dating profile or uses chatspeak.


As many times as I've been denigrated (hint: many times more than most people on this forum, I can guarantee that), I'm allowed to denigrate others for their blatant stupidity. If you type in "chatspeak" when people like me actually make an effort to construct a well-written sentence, then that is willful ignorance. The only excuse would be dyslexia, but dyslexia isn't that common.

This woman deserves what mockery she gets, because it's stupid to delete an ENTIRE DAMN PROFILE and fill it with terribly-worded demands of what you don't want. It will scare the decent guys away and, guess what? She'll still get messages from as*holes. They see it as a challenge. It's just like when women wear wedding rings to keep creeps from hitting on them. Sounds good in practice, but the creeps will still hit on them, and any guy who is at least halfway decent will avoid trying to ask them out or advance past the friendship stage. It's counterproductive. Hell, GHF ran for the hills when he saw her profile. That's gonna be the reaction that she gets from now on.

On top of that, she reinforced the old stereotype about women being hard to deal with. But you don't see anybody else addressing that little elephant in the room, do you?

Oh, one more thing. I AM Jesus Christ himself. So, thank you for pointing that fact out. :wink:\

EDIT: blunnet said it pretty well, and in a shorter manner.


Yes, because not sending creepy messages and dick pics is so hard. Please never leave the house unsupervised.


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28 Oct 2014, 11:11 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
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Oh, one more thing. I AM Jesus Christ himself. So, thank you for pointing that fact out. :wink:\

EDIT: blunnet said it pretty well, and in a shorter manner.


Yes, because not sending creepy messages and dick pics is so hard. Please never leave the house unsupervised.

Hush, silly woman! Don't you realize you're talking to JESUS here???

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29 Oct 2014, 2:18 am

It's not uncommon for people to send naked photos to each other, some women sent me naked photos before we dated.

Free online dating sites are meat markets, if she wants a high quality website, she should pay for it.



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29 Oct 2014, 3:22 am

Silly question but how does one even send pics (nude or otherwise) through a dating site? The ones I've used don't allow it as far as I know. You can put pics up on your profile but you can't actually sent them to individual people.

Are these like ASCII pics or something? :lol:



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29 Oct 2014, 3:28 am

yellowtamarin wrote:
Silly question but how does one even send pics (nude or otherwise) through a dating site? The ones I've used don't allow it as far as I know. You can put pics up on your profile but you can't actually sent them to individual people.

Are these like ASCII pics or something? :lol:


It has been a while since I have used dating sites, maybe they have removed that feature since.

Plenty of fish allows you to embed images with your messages, I'm uncertain about OkCupid but you can use image hosting websites to upload images that aren't family safe.



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29 Oct 2014, 3:39 am

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Silly question but how does one even send pics (nude or otherwise) through a dating site? The ones I've used don't allow it as far as I know. You can put pics up on your profile but you can't actually sent them to individual people.

Are these like ASCII pics or something? :lol:


It has been a while since I have used dating sites, maybe they have removed that feature since.

Plenty of fish allows you to embed images with your messages, I'm uncertain about OkCupid but you can use image hosting websites to upload images that aren't family safe.

Oh yeah I guess you could just send a link. Can't say anyone has ever done that to me.



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29 Oct 2014, 7:32 am

Anywhere they let you send a long enough piece of text, you can encode any file in it.


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29 Oct 2014, 8:10 am

AlexanderDantes wrote:
It's not uncommon for people to send naked photos to each other, some women sent me naked photos before we dated.

Free online dating sites are meat markets, if she wants a high quality website, she should pay for it.


Do these guys have the idea that women are going to be impressed that they have a penis? Because we're all pretty much aware that a penis is standard issue if you're a man. You don't need to prove it to us (not you personally; the guys who send pictures of them).


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29 Oct 2014, 11:09 am

yellowtamarin wrote:
Silly question but how does one even send pics (nude or otherwise) through a dating site? The ones I've used don't allow it as far as I know. You can put pics up on your profile but you can't actually sent them to individual people.

Are these like ASCII pics or something? :lol:


Want me to demostrate it on okc?



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29 Oct 2014, 8:41 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Silly question but how does one even send pics (nude or otherwise) through a dating site? The ones I've used don't allow it as far as I know. You can put pics up on your profile but you can't actually sent them to individual people.

Are these like ASCII pics or something? :lol:


Want me to demostrate it on okc?

Thanks for the offer, but tempting as it may be, I ain't on there :P



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30 Oct 2014, 12:51 am

As a woman myself, I can entirely see where she's coming from.

I've been sexually harassed on Facebook, Gaia Online, and other relatively innocuous websites multiple times. Neopets. From a young age. (Early teens, sometimes even younger.)

Just for being female.

I have been sent "dick pics", rape threats, sexually explicit messages, etc. just for having "F" as my gender on a profile- a picture was not necessarily needed. Most even knew my relative age- at very least they knew I was a minor.

It's a lot worse on dating sites. I feel that if you are not interested in something, you should be free to state such. It's hardly a bitter attitude- if anything I'd say the attitude you're displaying is somewhat bitter. :roll:



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30 Oct 2014, 8:32 pm

AlexanderDantes wrote:
It's not uncommon for people to send naked photos to each other, some women sent me naked photos before we dated.

Free online dating sites are meat markets, if she wants a high quality website, she should pay for it.

'It's not uncommon for people to be as*holes. Some people have directed assholery at me, but I liked it. If she doesn't want to get messages from as*holes, she should pay for it.'

Orrrr... maybe.... she should post something on her page that cuts down on the assholery directed at her, eh? It's free.



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30 Oct 2014, 8:34 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
AlexanderDantes wrote:
It's not uncommon for people to send naked photos to each other, some women sent me naked photos before we dated.

Free online dating sites are meat markets, if she wants a high quality website, she should pay for it.


Do these guys have the idea that women are going to be impressed that they have a penis? Because we're all pretty much aware that a penis is standard issue if you're a man. You don't need to prove it to us (not you personally; the guys who send pictures of them).


Men don't seem to understand that women, in general, are not as fascinated by penises as they are. Even if women are straight and rather like penises, they do not seem to hold the same fascination for women as they do for even straight men.



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31 Oct 2014, 2:54 pm

Why are you saying women do it? Everyone does it on dating sites. (Well, I don't, but a lot of people )



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31 Oct 2014, 3:23 pm

ITT: Complaining about women being direct, honest and open about their expectations.

Which is a nice contrast from so many other romantic threads where the gents are complaining about women not being direct, honest and open. :roll:


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31 Oct 2014, 5:18 pm

LKL wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
AlexanderDantes wrote:
It's not uncommon for people to send naked photos to each other, some women sent me naked photos before we dated.

Free online dating sites are meat markets, if she wants a high quality website, she should pay for it.


Do these guys have the idea that women are going to be impressed that they have a penis? Because we're all pretty much aware that a penis is standard issue if you're a man. You don't need to prove it to us (not you personally; the guys who send pictures of them).


Men don't seem to understand that women, in general, are not as fascinated by penises as they are. Even if women are straight and rather like penises, they do not seem to hold the same fascination for women as they do for even straight men.



" they do not seem to hold the same fascination for women as they do for even straight men...bla bla." what a nonsense.

Let me shock you with this: We are not fascinated by closeup photos of vaginas either that so many of your gender like to share while having a horny chat with a man.

I have received so many pics of close up vagina and honestly I don't find them arousing by the slightest, not even visually, and I bet most straight men don't - I dunno why many women think otherwise. Now, a good full body shot is something else...