any successful relationships in which the girl initiated?
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those type of guys make it even harder for the guys that do want girls to pursue them first
I'd love for a woman to pursue me.
for guys like me its not that we aren't interested its that we are afraid of putting ourselfs out there just to be smacked down. I've never had a woman be geniully interested in me, so I don't pursue any women I am interested in. that mindset is just that men have to pursue so if they don't then they not interested. that's wrong and old fashioned.
i look/stare every so often unless they look at me then i look down or away. that's about all I do. I taught myself not to smile when I see a woman I like. it took a few years, but now i almost never smile.
I've only been in one relationship, which she initiated. While it ended horribly many times over, I don't think that was due to her approaching me first (we had lots of other problems).
Personally, I think that many women today (at least in the U.S.) no longer dream of being wives, companions, or mothers...just as men no longer desire to be responsible, loving fathers or husbands. We've become so saturated by a "me first" mentality, and the few who honestly wish to be selfless are mocked or rejected as a result. The media and overall culture basically tells people, "you're all that ultimately matters; no one else is worth the trouble". Its a bold-faced lie, but sadly, many believe it.
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I'd love for a woman to pursue me.
for guys like me its not that we aren't interested its that we are afraid of putting ourselfs out there just to be smacked down. I've never had a woman be geniully interested in me, so I don't pursue any women I am interested in. that mindset is just that men have to pursue so if they don't then they not interested. that's wrong and old fashioned.
i look/stare every so often unless they look at me then i look down or away. that's about all I do. I taught myself not to smile when I see a woman I like. it took a few years, but now i almost never smile.
Personally, I think that many women today (at least in the U.S.) no longer dream of being wives, companions, or mothers...just as men no longer desire to be responsible, loving fathers or husbands. We've become so saturated by a "me first" mentality, and the few who honestly wish to be selfless are mocked or rejected as a result. The media and overall culture basically tells people, "you're all that ultimately matters; no one else is worth the trouble". Its a bold-faced lie, but sadly, many believe it.
Or they meet you, decide you are creepy and want nada to do with you. You're not entitled to or "owed" a relationship!
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Personally, I think that many women today (at least in the U.S.) no longer dream of being wives, companions, or mothers...just as men no longer desire to be responsible, loving fathers or husbands. We've become so saturated by a "me first" mentality, and the few who honestly wish to be selfless are mocked or rejected as a result. The media and overall culture basically tells people, "you're all that ultimately matters; no one else is worth the trouble". Its a bold-faced lie, but sadly, many believe it.
Or they meet you, decide you are creepy and want nada to do with you. You're not entitled to or "owed" a relationship!
Personally, I think that many women today (at least in the U.S.) no longer dream of being wives, companions, or mothers...just as men no longer desire to be responsible, loving fathers or husbands. We've become so saturated by a "me first" mentality, and the few who honestly wish to be selfless are mocked or rejected as a result. The media and overall culture basically tells people, "you're all that ultimately matters; no one else is worth the trouble". Its a bold-faced lie, but sadly, many believe it.
Or they meet you, decide you are creepy and want nada to do with you. You're not entitled to or "owed" a relationship!
I get called creepy all the time. Throw that sh*t in the "f*ck it bucket" and move on.
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