Parenthood article compares grieving over ASto grieving over

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19 Oct 2014, 8:04 pm

PlainsAspie wrote:
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Well Autistic people have insights on helping Autistic kids their NT parents may not have thought about.

Some do.. but only if they have the same type of autism and that insight may be welcome only when it is actually asked for. Given the vitriol expressed towards parents generally of course many are going to say no to it.


But ASPartOfMe, Moromillas, VioletYoshi, and myself all have the "same form of autism" as Max

That still wouldn't excuse demanding parents do as you or others tell them to do and there are many variations of autism. Offer advice yes but if they reject it then that is their prerogative and that decision should be respected.



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19 Oct 2014, 8:05 pm

How am I "demanding"



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19 Oct 2014, 8:21 pm

While not as bad as death, AS can be devastating for families. I can see the grief.



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19 Oct 2014, 8:41 pm

PlainsAspie wrote:
How am I "demanding"


Condemning or judging then.

When a child is diagnosed with anything, be it a disability or medical problem experiencing grief is a very natural and normal precess. It does not make them bigots or mean they do not love or accept their child.



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19 Oct 2014, 8:48 pm

We have every right to judge attitudes



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19 Oct 2014, 10:04 pm

PlainsAspie wrote:
We have every right to judge attitudes


Actually you don't. First of all you a about a FICTIONAL character.. second of all if you do not know the parents or their child then you have NO idea what their lives are like or what challenges THEIR child faces. Just because you share an ASD label with a random child you do not even know does not make you an expert on them or give you ANY right to dictate how they should be parented.



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19 Oct 2014, 10:30 pm

and your goalpost keeps moving doesn't it



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19 Oct 2014, 10:32 pm

Nowhere thread going nowhere.

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