Is a car required for a relationship?

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It seems where I reside you need a car just to live, you know with the largest city being fifty miles away, and a bus that runs only every three hours and stops running at 6:00. If it's not a requirement it's certainly something that'll make my life a hell of a lot easier. The only other option would be to move to said city, at least the bus system there runs every hour and runs until 11:00 at night on most days.

Argh! It's just incredibly frustrating, it's like god really just hates me on this one. Hopefully I'll get my driver's license soon though, that way I can at least drive my brother's car.

So any opinions on mobility in a relationship? How important is it that a partner can provide transportation, and how important must it be for that form of transportation to be a car?

For a guy, a car is required (except in New York City). For a girl, it's not required.

Where are the people you want to date? If they are in your town then I guess you don't need a car cos you don't need to travel to the bigger city. Otherwise I guess it depends if the person you date has a car and is willing to do most of the transporting.

I live ~350km from the city and that's where I date. I have a car but my dates don't have to. If they visit me they catch a train the first ~250km then I pick them up and drive the last 100km (or they could catch a bus but I'd rather pick them up). It's not really a big deal.

Don't worry about not having a car. I've owned cars continuously since I was 19 and I still didn't get into any relationships.

In California it's just hard not having a car period. In the county I live in it makes it thrice as hard with most of the population living in such a high tax bracket. It makes things like gas (3-5.00 dollars a gallon most of the year), and public transportation really expensive.

i went to med school in pittsburgh. no one had a car and we all dated. it depends on how your public transportation is (sorry yours isn't better) and on how flexible your partner is.

Well I have met up with someone a few times recently and they have a car, but to me its certainly not a requirement as i know how to use the bus system. Don't know what I'd do if I still lived outside the bus system, luckily my mom decided to get a house closer to Denver, CO though admittedly I do like the mountains away from the city but without a drivers liscense or car living there I'd be miserable(or more miserable anyways probably suicidal on a more consistant basis) and pretty sure I wont be getting either of those any time soon.

I couldn't tell you either way. I've driven since I was 16.

It probably helps a hell of a lot because without a car you're pretty restricted in what you can do and when you can do it, I think that part plays more of a factor. I mean, truthfully, society does look at people weird who don't have a driver's license in their 20s.

I found car-less girls more tolerating for not having a car than girls with cars - which doesn't make sense because both without cars have less flexibility to move.
The latter complain when they have to constantly pick up a date/bf and they would add it to big no's list for the next bf/date. - something that I've never seen guys complaining about.

Don't care about him not having a car. Public transport is excellent in the netherlands and i love my bicycle.

I made love to 30 women before I even learned to drive!

No, you don't need a car to have a relationship, especially in relatively urban areas.

and then you turned 16!

Remember we don't all live in New York. Public transport can be near useless for us suburbanites.

LOL...I finally got my license when I was 37.

True....it's more difficult not having a car if you're in a relatively rural area with little public transportation.

Which is where I live. It couldn't be anymore worse of a rural area, it could be ridden with gangs and violence, but instead it's ridden with rich uppity old folk. I gotta imagine the gangs and violence must be what a dystopic anarchy state must look like, and where I live is pretty much Big Brother breathing down your neck most hours of the day.

I'm going off topic though. Most people underestimate the relative size of California, it may look like a narrow stretch of coast on the map, but it's actually very VERY big, and there is a whole lot of nothing surrounding most populated areas. Ever since the Greyhound went under, and became incredibly expensive, trains are pretty much the cheapest of cross-state public transportation. But the Coastal Ranges (which I live near the peaks of) offer a rather tough area to traverse. Going up and over the hills to commute is kind of a requirement where I live. Yet the worst part of it all though are the ridiculously high gas prices that are charged during tourist seasons, like I said before they can reach anywhere between 3.50-5.00 a gallon and in one special case all the way up to 6.50! It's the large community of elderly rich people who like to hoard a lot of their wealth for big houses (Hearst Castle being a prime example of what a hoarder can do with too much money), as well as yachts, private planes etc., they pretty much have the first and final say on all things political and economical, and they always say "find ways to make us more money, cause where gonna die soon anyway, and screw those who suffer at our expense."

Truthfully, you have to try to do the best you can with the resources which you already got.

If you could save a couple of thousand dollars, you could get a decent car from an auction place.

I lived in a rural area with no public transportation option & I cant drive. I feel being dependent on my parents to go anywhere limited me with getting out & meeting people but I met my girlfriend online who also didn't drive. She lived across the country & her parents brought her places. We moved to a city further away from her parents but has bus service so we're more independent.