If you need a car do you want to date her?

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AlexanderDantes
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20 Oct 2014, 2:45 am

hurtloam wrote:
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I personally think that having a car is important, if only for the reason that you have to actually be able to see each other! If you live in NYC or some other huge metropolitan area, it's probably not an issue, but in the majority of places not having a car = not going anywhere. I stopped dating two women who didn't have cars, because it was just such a hassle to actually do anything with them - plans were dictated more by bus/train schedules and stops rather than by activities we actually wanted to do.


You can't have liked them that much then. My sister used to live a 2 hour train journey from her boyfriend and would travel up on the friday evening and stay with him over the weekend and get the train back. They both had cars, but it would have been a longer journey by car.


Exactly, women have travelled hours for me and even got on planes to meet me, if someone likes you enough, the car isn't an issue.

In any case, you could say you are saving on a car to pay to further your education or saving to invest so you can have financial freedom.



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20 Oct 2014, 2:50 am

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Also yellow, you can't compare yourself to women who are seeking to get married.

How do I know who is seeking to get married? These threads are just about relationships. What's the difference between a relationship that lasts the rest of my life, and a marriage? Should the man have a car in one but not necessarily the other?


I guess you are a voluntarily serial dater, you are not even seeking for a relationship that lasts for life, be it called marriage or something else; are you planning to have kids?

And therefore, it's normal why you won't have the same considerations of the typical LT/marriage girl.

A voluntary serial dater??? I am seeking a relationship that last for life, well at least, I would be very happy if it did (I just don't expect it so I'm not interested in making a formal commitment). No I'm not planning to have kids. So if all these threads are only for people who want to have kids with the next person they get into a relationship with, and if women expect their date to be in the same car/house/job situation when they are ready to have kids as they are on the first date, then okay my input is just wasted.


A woman whom her ultimate goal in dating is to have a family, would certainly won't have the same expectations, concerns and mindset of a woman who dates for a non-commitmental relationship at best.

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and if women expect their date to be in the same car/house/job situation when they are ready to have kids as they are on the first date, then okay my input is just wasted.


Financial potentiality can be easily measured,an unemployed guy at 30 with no experience and with no useful degree (while she's 27-30) won't magically become financially capable when she's 32-34 if she marries him, the risk is pretty high.



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20 Oct 2014, 3:01 am

AlexanderDantes wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Stargazer43 wrote:
I personally think that having a car is important, if only for the reason that you have to actually be able to see each other! If you live in NYC or some other huge metropolitan area, it's probably not an issue, but in the majority of places not having a car = not going anywhere. I stopped dating two women who didn't have cars, because it was just such a hassle to actually do anything with them - plans were dictated more by bus/train schedules and stops rather than by activities we actually wanted to do.


You can't have liked them that much then. My sister used to live a 2 hour train journey from her boyfriend and would travel up on the friday evening and stay with him over the weekend and get the train back. They both had cars, but it would have been a longer journey by car.


Exactly, women have travelled hours for me and even got on planes to meet me, if someone likes you enough, the car isn't an issue.

In any case, you could say you are saving on a car to pay to further your education or saving to invest so you can have financial freedom.


The idea of a woman getting on plane to meet me scares the hell out of me:
- I would be 1000x more nervous than I would normally be for a first meetup with a girl who came all the way from a nearby place, imagine that you didn't like her, or worse imagine the awkwardness if you could seen the disappointment in her eyes upon seeing/meeting you for real. Imagine how it would feel if she pretended enjoyig the meetup and stopped contact with you after she returned to her country.
- I would be suspicious of her real intentions, especially if she's not happy living in her country; she might be desperate to get out or to change her life.


I did get such suggestions from women, and I've dodged the idea and called it unrealistic/crazy.