Are most of girls after 25 married?

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21 Oct 2014, 9:42 am

Many times I heard an opinion that almost each girl in age of 25 and up (or 30 - it may depend of country a bit) who wanted to have family is married. How do you think if it's true?
I mean are there any (above 0,01% :-) ) chances to meet single girl without children in this age who wants close and long relations and who is not placing career as the main goal in her life?
Gogle search gave nothing, I failed to find any actual statistics on this topic.



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21 Oct 2014, 9:55 am

Without children? Possible but harder to find, what's your gripe with kids? Most divorcees are going to have them.

Women with a higher education or career priorities tend to put kids on hold so you could try aiming for an academic or career minded person.



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21 Oct 2014, 10:30 am

No, I have a couple of 40 year old unmarried friends with no kids, some in their late 20s and a few in their 30s. So there are still women out there. Can't say if they want kids or not, but they are kind of quiet women so I think they get overlooked a lot of the time. They're the kind of women who are busy helping out other women, so seem to have got in a rut of only spending time with women and not getting out and meeting men.

There is someone out there for you, but she's difficult to find because she's at home with her nose in a book or out with a group of her girl friends or sitting reading to an old lady to keep her company.



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21 Oct 2014, 11:00 am

I think it's more common to marry younger these days than, say, in the 1970s and 1980s.

However, I'm quite sure there are many woman 25 year old or older who are still available.



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21 Oct 2014, 11:06 am

Can't speak for all but I am 25, but doubt I'll be getting married anytime soon and I doubt I'd want kids. As for career I don't have one of those either and not sure I will attain one so meh IDK, I probably am not the best representation of a 25 year old female though.


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21 Oct 2014, 11:14 am

AlexanderDantes wrote:
Without children? Possible but harder to find, what's your gripe with kids? Most divorcees are going to have them.

Women with a higher education or career priorities tend to put kids on hold so you could try aiming for an academic or career minded person.


I can't imagine myself as a dad and really can't understand those who love children. One of my friends has three and I wonder why he loves such way of life.

The problem with career-minded girls is one - they're career minded. They don't need long relations and have no time for such a "waste of time". And I'm not sure I'll fell myself comfortable with wife having 2-3 times greater salary than I do (if her goal is career she could have mid-executive position in 30, I know examples).



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21 Oct 2014, 11:35 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
I think it's more common to marry younger these days than, say, in the 1970s and 1980s.

However, I'm quite sure there are many woman 25 year old or older who are still available.


It's the opposite here.

My parents got married at 19 & 20 years old in the early 70's. Today, several friends got married in their 20's, but many are still single in their 30's.

It's different here because it's so expensive to live here. People live at home with their parents a LOT longer and thus don't move out and start their own lives, relationships, families etc until much later.

I'm 32 and currently living with family and it's so common I'm not an abnormal freak in the least bit around these parts.

So, it depends on where you live? in some small town? Perhaps it's strange if you're not married by 25. In a major city where it's expensive to be, even if you're not career oriented, it's the new norm to be a 30 something "kid."


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21 Oct 2014, 11:57 am

I never actually wanted children myself. In my experience, it was having them that taught me that I really did want them and now I can't imagine life without them. They sort of grow on you. If you can reach a point at which kids are just as much a part of your day as regular bodily functions like eating/drinking/excreting/breathing, it's really not so bad. People don't give babies enough credit, but they pretty much take care of themselves by the crawling stage. They just need you for food and diapers. I used to think of my oldest son more like a roommate who needed occasional care rather than an infant. That mentality helped me make the adjustment.

I don't know actual stats on girls after 25 getting married. I really think everyone should be married and making babies by the time they're 30 if they really want to get any enjoyment out of it. People say they want financial/career security or stability first, but that's not really the best idea, IMO. For some people, that would mean waiting a lifetime.

[rant]Also, you can do more in your career/education IF you have a stable home life that is supportive of those goals. I'd like to eventually get my doctorate. However, I was sick of school before I even started my master's degree and my gf then was getting sick of waiting for me. If you wait, say, until your kids are grown before you get an advanced education degree and possibility teach at the university level, you give yourself time to really make something of yourself within your field, study independently, and know your subject area THOROUGHLY before you even apply. Life experience trumps education and prestige EVERY SINGLE TIME. Why not just go ahead and grow your family first while you're young enough to enjoy it and THEN score your huge career/educational achievements? You also have the advantage of growing your income over your life such that by the time your kids fly the nest, you don't have to get student loans to pay your way through school?just take 3-4 years, save every penny, and BAM?you have a $100,000 Ph.D. basically for free (i.e. you don't incur more bills you have to pay off later?and I know of at least one doctoral program in my field that really is for free?but it means 4-6 years of full time academic work in addition to a teaching assistantship. Essentially, you still have bills to pay on $0 income, but it's better than going further into debt. If you can squirrel away at least $30k for every year you'll be out of a job, you should be all set. After all, once you get your law degree and pay some post-studies dues, you should be able to make up for lost time pretty quick).

Seriously, unless you WANT to spend your entire life in an ivory tower, in education, in law, or in the medical field, you really, REALLY don't need to put your family on hold. And even if you're going into the university, teaching, medicine, or law, there are ways of getting people to pay your way through. That's a high level of dedication most people just don't have. Family life is MUCH EASIER by comparison.[/rant]

Anyway?if you're just concerned with dating girls closer to your age, it might not be a bad idea to try to let that go. The older you get and the more adept you are at supporting yourself and being able to afford leisure time, the easier it's going to be to keep the attention of a women, especially a younger woman. Nobody really cares about wide age gaps these days. If you're just about casual dating and you're not going for a serious relationship, you can find tons of young women who'll go out with you at least one time. That's never a bad idea. It's just finding someone ready to get serious and settle down at that young age that's going to be tricky, especially the older you are, the more women you date, and the more adjusted to that kind of lifestyle you are. After 25 or so, having a family is going to start taking more of a priority, and that's something you're going to have to think about.

Personally, my wife and I are a team. At the moment she has the big job and I'm just kinda the playboy bum. No, I'm not satisfied with that, but that's just how things worked out. I keep my 2yo while I'm writing/recording music or doing church work, I get the older two back and forth to school. It's a full-time job, but I'm doing more what I always dreamed of doing than I did when I had a "real gig." Most women I've ever known wouldn't be that understanding or kind. Lucky for me, I'm not in the sort of relationship in which that even matters. And I'm working to change things, too, and the effort doesn't go unnoticed.



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21 Oct 2014, 12:15 pm

goldfish21 wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
I think it's more common to marry younger these days than, say, in the 1970s and 1980s.

However, I'm quite sure there are many woman 25 year old or older who are still available.


It's the opposite here.

My parents got married at 19 & 20 years old in the early 70's. Today, several friends got married in their 20's, but many are still single in their 30's.

It's different here because it's so expensive to live here. People live at home with their parents a LOT longer and thus don't move out and start their own lives, relationships, families etc until much later.

I'm 32 and currently living with family and it's so common I'm not an abnormal freak in the least bit around these parts.

So, it depends on where you live? in some small town? Perhaps it's strange if you're not married by 25. In a major city where it's expensive to be, even if you're not career oriented, it's the new norm to be a 30 something "kid."


I am in the close suburbs of big city - and most of girls are married before 25 (most of men - before 30). But you are right - in small towns people are married even earlier, sometimes in 17-18.



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21 Oct 2014, 12:25 pm

Andreger wrote:
I am in the close suburbs of big city - and most of girls are married before 25 (most of men - before 30). But you are right - in small towns people are married even earlier, sometimes in 17-18.


I live in the suburbs of Vancouver, BC, where we have the 2nd least affordable real estate in the World - next to Hong Kong - w/ real property prices vs. local incomes. It's been my experience anyways, that living in a big city that's also VERY expensive means that people delay relationships, marriage, families etc a LOT longer. So, if you want to blend into the social fabric of a city as a single late 20 something or 30 something+? consider relocating to somewhere extremely expensive & you'll find yourself part of the norm instead of an outlier. It also doesn't hurt any that we have huge Indian & Chinese populations where the eldest child traditionally stays at home with mom and dad for practically ever.. making it even more normal for adult children to live at home. Anyways, yeah, big expensive diverse city = no problems whatsoever with being single at 30.


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21 Oct 2014, 12:49 pm

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Andreger wrote:
I am in the close suburbs of big city - and most of girls are married before 25 (most of men - before 30). But you are right - in small towns people are married even earlier, sometimes in 17-18.


I live in the suburbs of Vancouver, BC, where we have the 2nd least affordable real estate in the World - next to Hong Kong - w/ real property prices vs. local incomes. It's been my experience anyways, that living in a big city that's also VERY expensive means that people delay relationships, marriage, families etc a LOT longer. So, if you want to blend into the social fabric of a city as a single late 20 something or 30 something+? consider relocating to somewhere extremely expensive & you'll find yourself part of the norm instead of an outlier. It also doesn't hurt any that we have huge Indian & Chinese populations where the eldest child traditionally stays at home with mom and dad for practically ever.. making it even more normal for adult children to live at home. Anyways, yeah, big expensive diverse city = no problems whatsoever with being single at 30.


My Moscow will beat you in non-affordability of real estates :-) Average salary is near 20k $ per year before taxes, average apartments with two rooms (not main room and 2 bedrooms, instead two at all) are 200k $. Mortgage for 30-40% yearly.

But lots of people marry and live with parents on one of them. Or parents, grandparents and so on take their money together and buy apartments for their son/daughter.



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21 Oct 2014, 2:23 pm

I met my current girlfriend a couple years ago here on WP & she's 32 now & never had kids & no career(she's on SSI, food-stamps & Section 8 housing so we get by)


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21 Oct 2014, 3:14 pm

here it hard to tell how many are married by 25, though i do meet a lot of them at work. there is also a lot of divorced women with 2-4 kids age 18-25. idk what a 18 year old been up to, to have 4 kids already but pass. I want kids but i'm not ready to have 4 kids some who are 4-5 year olds who I won't be a dad to. like what would i be the moms friend who is always around ? o.O then theres the ex/dad to worry about.

I really missed the ball it seems. most the people i knew from high school are married with kids. most the people at work are in relationships or married. and they are younger then me.

sadly nick007 there aren't many women like your gf.



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21 Oct 2014, 3:38 pm

nick007 wrote:
I met my current girlfriend a couple years ago here on WP & she's 32 now & never had kids & no career(she's on SSI, food-stamps & Section 8 housing so we get by)


I think you are lucky :-) Don't miss her )



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21 Oct 2014, 3:45 pm

My sister is 27 and has no intention to get married any time soon.

I'm 24 and like my sister, I'd rather have a job first than get married.


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21 Oct 2014, 4:41 pm

Andreger wrote:
nick007 wrote:
I met my current girlfriend a couple years ago here on WP & she's 32 now & never had kids & no career(she's on SSI, food-stamps & Section 8 housing so we get by)


I think you are lucky :-) Don't miss her )
I think I'm pretty lcuky too


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