don't know if I want a woman anymore

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You don't need a woman all you need is your car, if you take care of your car it will take care of you, if you take care of a woman there's no guarantee shell take care of you she might even bail on you for someone who makes more money or she seems better than you and discards you like an obsolete model! Your car will always be there but when it comes to a woman there is no guarantee! At least you will be able to get another woman with your car depending on what car you drive!

A car will eventually break down.

A couple can have a happy marriage, a family, and stay together their whole lives.

Being loved and cared for by a beautiful girl with a good heart is the greatest feeling in the world.

A car can be fixed with the right tools and know how and also will be less likely to break down when properly maintained, and I don't know what being loved by a beautiful girl feels like, I used to think I did but was lied to and betrayed and discarded for something better. That's life romance is a thing of the past as romantics are an endangered species doomed to extinction I was a young romantic who was utterly destroyed now im just a soul less husk barely living on and clinging to reason of existence.

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I am willing to love and care for my guy but no guy wants me
22 and never had a serious relationships

How much is the divorce rate in your country?

rather doubt that. im sure tons of guys would want you. i would. its more likely non of the guys you see as worthy want you. even then you're probably find one eventually.

That's not fair Sly and a bit of a back-handed compliment. I know that you are not deliberately being unkind, but it's not a fair comment. If we were all in a an actual physical space and able to spend time with each other and not in fact spread out all over the world then some of us would maybe become friends or develop relationships with each other in person, but you don't really know Cafeaulait in person, you don't know her social circle, you don't know who she meets as she goes about her general day.

She could be like me and not really meet many single men. (mind you when I do they tend to be about 10 years younger than me, but that's another issue) A woman (I am talking about any random woman now and not Cafeaulait) can be quiet and shy and get overlooked by men. They may not notice the woman exists or feel that although she is attractive that she comes over as aloof and not all that interested in him, so not worth the effort. Some women really do slip through the cracks and don't have several men looking for a relationship with them. Or even if we are not shy, we are a bit too forward and come over as inappropriately "in-your-face" when all we're trying to do is be friendly.

It isn't fair to put someone down when they are trying to express how they feel, especially when that person is making a comment with a symbol. Don't kick someone while they are down.

Autistic women have social skills issues too. Our issues can be a little different in their nature, but we share that "little-bit-off" vibe that can make NT folks take a step back and question whether we are relationship material, no matter how attractive our physical appearance may be.

I wasn't intending on putting her down. just sayint theres likely guys who want/like here but are like me far to shy to approach her.

having guys want you is far different then guys showing interest outwardly or having a relationship. I was trying to make her feel better about herself because she seems really cool and sweet kind person. If we lived near each other and i met her requirements in a guy , i would certianly slowly work up the courage to ask her out, which for me is prefered weeks of text communication.

sadly the shy quiet women are just as hard if not harder to approach. i mean if theres a woman talking and if i am for some reason brave that day i could try to slip myself into the converation/group. but the girl alone not talking requires me to start a conversation.

I kinda like the in your face too foward type women <blush> i'm submissive so tend to feel attracted to them.
aloof-not friendly or forthcoming; cool and distant.. oh not at all what i thought it meant.

sorry if it came accross as bad. I really meant good and real compliment. I quite fancy her personality that she shows on this site. plus the cat picture is cute.

I really meant that i am sure there are guys who are interested in her and want her. maybe they walk by her work somtimes to glance at her or if she has a dating profile they might look at it be be too afraid to message. while this isn't great news, it still means shes wanted and I really think she'll find someone. she already had one guy, he won't be the last. the right guy will lover her personality and quirks and see past any bad things. I really liked women that had a lot more bad stuff going for them then what i'd heard about her. it didn't matter to me though perhaps the lying and minaplulating one should have, other one had medical issues that would make most men run away likely. but i was willing to be ok with them.

oh probably the worthy wanting her part? i just meant some times we aim too high, like when i had a crush and wanted to date my high school class president. she had no interest in me. I do think being more open to other types of guys wouldn't hurt. and yeah i am a bit sensitive about those things being im unworthy of 99% of women it seems.

sorry :'(

I'm so sorry Cafeaulait, if I upset you. i didn't want to. :'(

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pgrj_IXuEGY[/youtube]This song makes me feel better I may not have a woman but I got my car and it will always be there and I feel free!

unfortuneately the desire doesn't go away

I am not looking for a brad pitt or orlando bloom with a 170 IQ and a 6 digit yearly salary. I just want an average looking guy that looks taken care and has a tiny bit of a fashion sense (because, so do I). I lke a guy that shares some interests and i can keep a good intellectual conversation with. And the rest is just chemistry.
So I am just not being the 'too critical' crap.

And you didnt upset me sly it is okay

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I recognize this so much, Hurtloam. I am nowhere near to Beyonce or Jessica Alba, but I do look decent (long hair, not overweight, decent face). I went to a party last night all dressed up because it was halloween themed. I recieved a lot of compliment about how beautiful I looked and was shot by photographers many times. I get told I look good regularly, that I have an impeccable sense of style and that I have amazing hair and skin, but still I feel that I am not seen as relationship material by many men. Off course this could also be my own insecurity and I have to admit that I rarely meet new men. It's just really annoying when you know there is something 'off' about you but you can't quite decipher that nor can others. Thanka for your comment hurtloam. I am not a victim at all, but I felt like I needed to speak my heart.

I didn't think you meant celebs,
what do you consider intelligent? or intellectual conversation?

also I've told you before about that stuff about attractive girls and how its assumed they are A.taken. B. probably get tons of messages(too much competition) C. too good for the people looking.

so they might be thinking such a awesome amazing and gorgeous woman like yourself must already have a bf. or get tons of messages from guys far better then them(men) or c. or could be mix of any.

unfortunately people like you can also seem scary as in fear and anxiety about approaching you cause you have so much going for you. I don't bother with this type on dating sites the ones who say ( I have a degree and working on another, i speak 3 languages, vacation in europe,) how can I be good enough for a person who speaks 3 languages. that and 99% of these women/attractive women are red dots on okc.

do you have a dating profile? I'd like to see and probably rate you but its ok if not I understand desire to remain anonymous.

Yes I have considered that option, but I am no Beyonce just cute/average with gorgeous hair and nice eyes. I couldn't really imagine myself being intimidating to people and guys in particular. And I never tell guys that I am about to pursue a third degree or anything straight away. I look stylish but not intimdatingly so. I wear high heels but also all stars. I'm pretty sure it's something about my personality AND the fact that I am not meeting much men because also average guys don't really seem to approach me.
And an intellectual conversation would be one where my partner could offer me new points of view and could analytically reason with me. I guess I also look for a kind of depth in a conversation: is a guy willing to think further than the average person? Is he able to reflect on societal events and morality? Etc.
And I prefer to be anonymous

But to be honest I feel like I am hijacking the topic, where has TS gone?