What to do when you see a cute girl?

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I look at it this way... If you are put in the friend zone, you are a victim of it. If you put others in the friend zone, you are the master of it.

Begin by putting all women in the friend zone on the bottom level. Every interaction you have with any given woman will nudge their status with you either outward or upward. Those you spend the most time with will either be close friends or they'll be someone who shares a mutual attraction with you.

I think a woman is more likely to spend good time with a man who makes her feel safe. It's easy to feel cozy with friends, regardless of gender. You'll find yourself in a good, close friendship with a woman, and as the friendship becomes more intimate, one or both of you will wonder if you two really still just friends. Someone steals a kiss and you both wonder what took so long. Once that happens, you can't be just friends.

Maybe you're right. I guess it just took a while for that concept to sink in. Anyway, who ever said girls don't want to date their friends was probably a lamo PUA, right?

As per usual with this stuff, everyone is different. Some women find it difficult to become romantic with someone after a friendship has been developed (like me), while others find it difficult to have romantic feelings for someone they haven't yet developed a friendship with.

- I'm wracking my brain trying to think of an occasion when somebody has asked me on a date, in person, having just met me. I can think of two occasions when I myself have done it, and I was rejected. I'm not sure this method works that well but this is just my experience so I don't know.

- I can think of a number of occasions where I have met someone at a social gathering, spent a bit of time with them and built a rapport (but we are not friends yet because we only met once), and then they asked me out afterwards (by email or similar). And vice versa. This has worked fairly well for me.

- What I observe most often in my friends is the situation of knowing someone for a few weeks, then hooking up. I'm not sure I've ever done this but it seems to be a common approach. The beginnings of a friendship are there, both parties have learned enough about each other to see potential for a good emotional connection, and the lust hormones are still kicking around, allowing for the romantic side to happen.

- Occasionally people hook up who have been friends for a while. I think this works best when they "see something in the other person they hadn't noticed before". That allows the right hormones to kick in. I've tried to date a couple of guys who were good friends for a year or two prior, and it was really odd. I think it is hard to get romantic feelings happening when there is nothing new to work with.

I see. I think I sort of get it now.