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aeroz
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 Posted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 5:07 pm Post subject: Can you fake confidence? |
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I have been told that my only real undesirable trait is my like of confidence. That if I had that I'd have no problem getting women. I acknowledge this as a possibility but in truth I do not believe it. I definitely do lack confidence but I personally feel its justified. That I am simply unappealing to the opposite sex. However as I said I am not ignoring the possiblity that the only reason I am not found attractive is I lack confidence, and I do know that is a trait women often find appealing.
Even just to confirm this I would like to find out, but I do not have confidence in that reguard, so is it possible to fake it, or am I just doomed to this paradoz and should just get used to being alone |
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zghost
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| I can fake it. Can't really give you instructions though, but yes it's possible. |
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slowmutant
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| Posted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 5:15 pm Post subject: |
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| Confidence cannot be faked. Either you have it or you don't. |
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sinsboldly
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Luckily, this was a popular song when I was young. I took the lyrics literally (naturally!)
It's From a Musical called "The King and I"
Whenever I feel afraid
I hold my head erect
And whistle a happy tune
So no one will suspect
I'm Afraid.
While shivering in my shoes
I strike a careless pose
And whistle a happy tune
And no one ever knows I'm afraid.
The result of this deception
Is very strange to tell
For when I fool the people
I fear I fool myself as well!
I whistle a happy tune
And ev'ry single time
The happiness in the tune
Convinces me that I'm not afraid.
Make believe you're brave
And the trick will take you far.
You may be as brave
As you make believe you are!
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slowmutant
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| Posted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 5:28 pm Post subject: |
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The fakery of confidence is made apparent as soon as it is put to the test.  |
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LePetitPrince
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| Posted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 5:50 pm Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | I have been told that my only real undesirable trait is my like of confidence. That if I had that I'd have no problem getting women. |
That's a lie , confidence is overrated. |
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slowmutant
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Confidence may be underrated, actually.
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ToadOfSteel
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| Funny thing is, when under almost any form of physical or mental pressure (other than social pressure), my confidence actually increases, mostly because if I'm dedicated towards resolving whatever is at hand, I don't have time to think about women... |
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Rainbow-Squirrel
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I'm afraid that once again I will have to disagree with LePetitPrince, confidence is KEY, just take a look at how the world works.
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slowmutant
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| ToadOfSteel wrote: | | Funny thing is, when under almost any form of physical or mental pressure (other than social pressure), my confidence actually increases, mostly because if I'm dedicated towards resolving whatever is at hand, I don't have time to think about women... |
Bull.
Unless you are gay or asexual, you think about women.
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ToadOfSteel
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Sometimes one has to dedicate 100% of his concentration to the task at hand...
Yes I do think about women, but not ALL the time, otherwise I would be driven insane for being so lonely...
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sinsboldly
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| slowmutant wrote: | | ToadOfSteel wrote: | | Funny thing is, when under almost any form of physical or mental pressure (other than social pressure), my confidence actually increases, mostly because if I'm dedicated towards resolving whatever is at hand, I don't have time to think about women... |
Bull.
Unless you are gay or asexual, you think about women. |
I am not gay or asexual and I don't think about women, slowmutant. Or is everyone male in your universe?
Merle
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The economy is getting so bad my dog is worried.
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LePetitPrince
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http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt71545.html
most women look for social straightforwardness, they perceive this as 'self-confidence', a nerd guy can be VERY self-confident in programming yet he's socially awkward which doesn't help him in attracting women.
Anyways, looks and money always come first.
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slowmutant
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| sinsboldly wrote: | | slowmutant wrote: | | ToadOfSteel wrote: | | Funny thing is, when under almost any form of physical or mental pressure (other than social pressure), my confidence actually increases, mostly because if I'm dedicated towards resolving whatever is at hand, I don't have time to think about women... |
Bull.
Unless you are gay or asexual, you think about women. |
I am not gay or asexual and I don't think about women, slowmutant. Or is everyone male in your universe?
Merle |
Certainly not. An all-male universe would make very little sense.
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Rainbow-Squirrel
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| LePetitPrince wrote: | | most women look for social straightforwardness, they perceive this as 'self-confidence', a nerd guy can be VERY self-confident in programming yet he's socially awkward which doesn't help him in attracting women |
The fact that self-confidence is domain specifc is OBVIOUS. |
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