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Triangular_Trees
What is right is sometimes found on the left.
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 Posted: Thu Aug 14, 2008 4:50 am Post subject: If you were upset |
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If you were upset and feeling that you were stupid what are the things that your parents/teachers could do that would help you feel better about yourself?
What are the things they could do that would make you feel even worse?
How would you react to being yelled at when you said you were stupid? Would you stop thinking bad things about yourself? of would you think even more bad things but just keep them to yourself? something else?
What if someone told you that you should never say bad things about yourself because doing so was the same as swearing? Would that get you to stop feeling bad things about yourself or would it make you feel even worse? |
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Becks
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what didnt understand a word of that could you make it shorter?   |
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kornchild
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me neither
could you type that again but less gibberish-like.
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0031
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Triangular Trees I'm not a kid but a parent but I've got a point of view about what you asked.
I hope that you don't mind me joining in: and saying what I think.
What I think might make you feel better is if your parents or teachers said that it's ok to feel the way you do. EVERYONE, yes truly everyone feels inadequate, or stupid sometimes. The most succesful person in the world will have something that they don't feel comfortable or confident about. It's human, we're all human. As human beings we are fantastic, but fallible.
That's why you don't have to beat yourself up about thinking that you are stupid- it's an emotion we all share from time to time.
If someone told you that you mustn't feel that way- that is asking the impossible: that is guaranteed to make you feel worse, because it's giving you an extra thing to (mistakenly) make you think that you have failed in.
If somebody yelled at you, for being open about your feelings they are probably feeling that they themselves failed in some way to stop you feeling bad. It's something people do when they feel powerless.
It's probably best to tell someone who reacts without yelling, if you really need to.
However, the person who told you that it was wrong to say bad things about yourself has a point. The point is that repeating negative things doesn't really help.
It's hard to do, but try to be kind to yourself, and figure out what might make you feel better and tell yourself that instead. The sun often appears from behind a dark cloud. In the same way, you could be feeling happy again before you expect it. |
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LifeOfTheSpectrum
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| Posted: Sat Nov 01, 2008 5:04 pm Post subject: Re: If you were upset |
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| Triangular_Trees wrote: | If you were upset and feeling that you were stupid what are the things that your parents/teachers could do that would help you feel better about yourself?
Actually listen to what I say. Don't disregard it all. Once I'm done, not to give their opinion on it, ask if they want help, or to just vent. If I want help, I'll say. I don't need your opinion, just what you can do for me to help me.
What are the things they could do that would make you feel even worse?
Telling me I'm feeling sorry for myself, agreeing with what I said. Judging me by how I feel. Give me their opinion, unless I ask for it.
How would you react to being yelled at when you said you were stupid? Would you stop thinking bad things about yourself? of would you think even more bad things but just keep them to yourself? something else?
I would ignore them. I get the whole "feeling sorry for yourself" a lot. I ignore it, and just ride it out. Being yelled only inforces the idea that I am so stupid they can't talk to me normally.
What if someone told you that you should never say bad things about yourself because doing so was the same as swearing?
I would say I don't give a damn. If I feel bad about myself, being bottled up like that wouldn't help.
Would that get you to stop feeling bad things about yourself or would it make you feel even worse?
It wouldn't change how I feel. It wouldn't affect me. Maybe make me feel worse, but I would feel bottled up. |
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I'm 14 with Mid-High Functioning Classic Autism. |
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