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AussieMatt
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Joined: Jun 14, 2007
Age: 17
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Location: NSW, Australia
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 Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 7:08 am Post subject: Can't get a relationship. |
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I am 16 years old and turning 17 next February. I am currently in grade 11. I am looking forward to go to university @ Charles Darwin in 2009. I am interested in weather, science, sports and geography.
I never had a girlfriend in my life. I tried and tried in many different ways and approaching to different girls. They always rejected me. I get angry and sick and tired of this. This getting me more angrier and i don't think i ever get a girlfriend in my life. This seems those girls won't accept me at university when i go there in 2009. I think its me that have aspergers and hearing impaired. Those girls doesn't like me before because of me!
Help me out!
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tomamil
What the #$*!?
Joined: May 14, 2007
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Location: currently Paris, France, but originally Asteroid B612
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 7:20 am Post subject: Re: Can't get a relationship. |
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| AussieMatt wrote: | I never had a girlfriend in my life. I tried and tried in many different ways and approaching to different girls. They always rejected me. I get angry and sick and tired of this. This getting me more angrier and i don't think i ever get a girlfriend in my life. This seems those girls won't accept me at university when i go there in 2009. I think its me that have aspergers and hearing impaired. Those girls doesn't like me before because of me!
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man, i am 27 and never had a girlfriend!!! just relax, with the age, the girls will want more than a funny boy to show off with in front of other girls. i am more and more wanted  but now it's me who doesn't have time for them hehe. i'll enjoy this period for a while and then jump in...
just focus on the university and let it be for a while. |
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Izaak
Squeeky Bathtime Companion
Joined: Jun 11, 2007
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Location: Perth, Western Australia
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 7:30 am Post subject: |
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Hey Matt,
Comiserations on the girlfreind/date front. Remember you can only ever control the person you are, beyond that it is up to them. It is hard dealing with other peoples hangups. Just concentrate on being the best person you can be, and try not to get too angry.
When I get agitated about it I just remember the "serenity prayer." Though I am not religious the sentiment can not be more perfect...
God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change,
courage to change the things we can,
and wisdom to know the difference.
I read it that if I continue to live my life and develop my character to be the type of person I truly want to be. Then whatever will happen will happen. If I find someone to share it with, so be it. If I don't, I still have the comfort that I know I am a decent human being... and around the corner will be a woman willing to accept the things about me that are harder to accept because those other qualities are worth it.
Apart from that, i can not offer you any advice on how to get a girlfriend. I'm still working on that myself. There are some threads in the love/dating forum dealing with just such this topic. Between the recounting of near misses and the like there is some good advice there.
Hope it goes well for ya... I'll be barracking for ya. |
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AussieMatt
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 7:43 am Post subject: |
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But i want a girlfriend. I think its better to get one at university. Well i prefer a girlfriend at university anyways. Please help me out how!
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tomamil
What the #$*!?
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Location: currently Paris, France, but originally Asteroid B612
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 7:51 am Post subject: |
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| AussieMatt wrote: | | But i want a girlfriend. I think its better to get one at university. Well i prefer a girlfriend at university anyways. Please help me out how! |
well, i don't think you are in a good place for getting-a-girlfriend advice. try
here. |
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AussieMatt
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 7:54 am Post subject: |
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Yea ok i read that anytime
What about girls at university? Are any of them gonna be my girlfriend? And why?
Cause i wanted to know am i getting it seriously?
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tomamil
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| i studied very technical branch. there were very few girls there and most of them were pretty ugly. i don't know how it is in your country, but if i didn't refuse drinking alcohol my chances would be much higher although, i didn't really care about getting a girlfriend anyway. in any case, the chance to get one at university is definitely higher than at secondary school. just don't get stressed over failures. forget them and go on. you will probably have to try many times, but every time you'll be more and more experienced, so the chances will only grow. |
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Mr_Winston
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Location: Bath (Uni) Cambridge (Home), UK.
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You may well find that when you're at Uni and doing your course you'll have a number of girls in your lectures who will most likely share your interests. I found that when I went to Uni (to do Geography - my interests lie there too) there were lots of nice girls who shared my interests, one of the girls liked maps to the extent that she could have almost given my map obsession a run for it's money. The trouble I have is that all but a small handful of the girls where I am are in relationships, and i'm painfully shy - factors which don't make things easy.
Anyway, as has been said, you'll probably find it easier to get a girlfriend at Uni as opposed to school, in most cases girls of Uni age have generally lost their fickleness.
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MrSinister
Sanity Is Madness
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 9:15 am Post subject: |
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| AussieMatt wrote: | | What about girls at university? Are any of them gonna be my girlfriend? And why? |
Like the other guy said: if you find a girl who shares your interests, you'll have something in common, which is always a good start. Try joining some clubs at university, since there will likely be a good mix of male and female students you can mix with.
Oh, and I'm 27 and have never had a girlfriend either. Wanting one obsessively has never done me any good - I think it's best not to go down that road.
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Age1600
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| A lot of girls at universities aren't looking for a boyfriend, because their away at college and want to live the single life. If you keep getting rejected by girls, then it just means your not meeting the right ones. If a girl doesn't like you because your an aspie or because your hearing impaired, shes obviously too immature anyways. I know if I met a guy and liked his personality, and his heart, I wouldn't care what he has, or what makes him different, I would just look at how he makes me happy. Theres girls out there that want a guy to be this and that, and never let the guy be who he really is, so they walk all over them. Those are the girls that are superficial, and don't really care about feelings. Don't be discouraged, maybe your just haven't met that special girl yet. You may find one at college, usually college girls are more mature then High school, but not all the time. |
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LePetitPrince
Feminist activist O_o
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Age: 26
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Location: Beirut , Lebanon
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 12:13 pm Post subject: |
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first step , post your pic and tell us your physical traits : height , weight ...etc
so we can help further
ps : fear not , i am not gay lol . |
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cognizant
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Joined: May 24, 2007
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Location: Ukraine
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 12:28 pm Post subject: |
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| tomamil wrote: | | i studied very technical branch. there were very few girls there and most of them were pretty ugly. i don't know how it is in your country, but if i didn't refuse drinking alcohol my chances would be much higher although, i didn't really care about getting a girlfriend anyway. in any case, the chance to get one at university is definitely higher than at secondary school. just don't get stressed over failures. forget them and go on. you will probably have to try many times, but every time you'll be more and more experienced, so the chances will only grow. |
Our girls were not so ugly.  None the less, there was no point in competing for them.
I drank in the university but this did not help a lot. |
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pbcoll
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 12:52 pm Post subject: |
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| tomamil wrote: | | i studied very technical branch. there were very few girls there and most of them were pretty ugly. i don't know how it is in your country, but if i didn't refuse drinking alcohol my chances would be much higher although, i didn't really care about getting a girlfriend anyway. in any case, the chance to get one at university is definitely higher than at secondary school. just don't get stressed over failures. forget them and go on. you will probably have to try many times, but every time you'll be more and more experienced, so the chances will only grow. |
I know someone who did a PhD in a very technical subject, and she could easily be a model if she wanted to (I am not the only one who thinks this). She is, of course, taken.
I don't even know any girls I would ask for a date - the only two I know I would have any interest whatsoever in dating, one of them's taken, the other I don't know but I think it's unwise to date your colleagues (post-breakup issues). It's not that I'm that picky, it's that I don't get to know many people.
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CDHarris
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| Age1600 wrote: | | If you keep getting rejected by girls, then it just means your not meeting the right ones. |
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larsenjw92286
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I understand you!
Good luck!
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