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aarghapanda
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 Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 1:13 pm Post subject: How do I tell how she really feels? |
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How can I tell ho my girlfriend really feels, she says she loves me but it doesn't feel that way to me, I don't know whether this is just insecurity or a genuine problem.
We had some rough time lately but we got through it and I think I'm scared she will run off with someone better. |
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sounded
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Vegasadelphia
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| Most women appreciate honesty and an open man, so talk to her, tell how you feel, say "i know we have been/were in a rough patch, and I just want to make sure you are happy being with me. if you are unhappy, what can I do to make us right again?" |
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Sopho
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 1:27 pm Post subject: |
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| There's no point trying. You can never work out what girls think. They're too confusing. |
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JonnyBGoode
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 1:38 pm Post subject: |
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| Sopho wrote: | | There's no point trying. You can never work out what girls think. They're too confusing. |
QFT! 
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aarghapanda
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| Vegasadelphia wrote: | | Most women appreciate honesty and an open man, so talk to her, tell how you feel, say "i know we have been/were in a rough patch, and I just want to make sure you are happy being with me. if you are unhappy, what can I do to make us right again?" |
That's what I want to do, but I fear she will take it the wrong way. |
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Pugly
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 3:27 pm Post subject: |
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The fear is always worse than the event itself. It is easy, if you have an overactive imagination, to create uncountably many possibilities of why it will not work.
But, if you are honest and open it'll be appreciated much more than doing nothing. So, even if you explain yourself in a way that doesn't make sense, you have put yourself out there and at least got the emotional ball rolling.
Even if it doesn't work out, it is not because you were actually honest. By doing nothing, nothing gets done.
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sounded
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 3:42 pm Post subject: |
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Pugly wrote
| Quote: | | But, if you are honest and open it'll be appreciated much more than doing nothing. So, even if you explain yourself in a way that doesn't make sense, you have put yourself out there and at least got the emotional ball rolling. |
Assuming she gives a sh**.
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Pugly
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If she doesn't care, then it makes no difference. You aren't going to make her care, by not doing anything.
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calandale
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 4:38 pm Post subject: |
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Touch her. I found that's a good way
to determine consistancy AND texture. |
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aarghapanda
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another thing...
She's going out tomorrow night for her 18th birthday party with her colleagues. I don't know how she is with alcohol, I don't know the people she's with, there are a lot of unknown qualities that make me worry she's going to do something silly at the party. |
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neverfarbehind92
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From a girl's perspective, i would say that being open is KEY.
ask her. i know it may be hard but it also may save your relationship.
communication = huuuuuge in a relationship. |
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Santa_Claus
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| Posted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 6:26 pm Post subject: |
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| Sopho wrote: | | There's no point trying. You can never work out what girls think. They're too confusing. |
Well said. |
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neverfarbehind92
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hey! i take offense to that  |
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AdrianB
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Trust your GF?
Ask her openly about it, if she answers negatively, dismiss the thoughts.
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