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blessedmom
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 Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2007 12:33 pm Post subject: HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!! |
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HAPPY FATHER'S DAY TO ALL FATHER'S THAT MAY BE ON WP TODAY.
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hartzofspace
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It's nice to see this thread. I was reading the other, where people are ranting at their fathers. Not that I object to it. But I'm in a different place today,thank God. I have had a lot of intensive changes in my psyche, over the last year, and after years of estrangement and rage at my father, I was able to come to terms with it.
Now I call him on the phone and chat. When I heard that he'd had a stroke, I called him with names of Acupuncturists in his area. He improved greatly. (But nobody wants to hear this in a thread for expressing rage). If I was still in that space, nor would I. I guess there comes a time when you are sick and tired of being angry at people who aren't going to change. This was the first Father's day when I could say, "Happy Father's Day", and really mean it. Hope this okay to post here, Blessedmom!
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blessedmom
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I have a father that up until just recently I avoided as much as possible. I still cringe with guilt when I see his number on my phone because he rarely calls unless he is angry with me. But he is my father and he raised me with the only skills he had. His mother passed when he was 7 years old and his father was a mean and nasty man who kept his family on a farm and was a hunter/trapper. They had nothing. My father did a better job than his father and spent way too much time at work but he thought he was doing right by us. And now add the Asperger's that even he says my children get from him and his brother and his mother's family.... it was a recipe for a real disaster. If you look at it in that light, we did rather well.
My son (the NT one) has the best attitude about his father and people in general that I have ever seen. He sees his father every other weekend and talks to him by phone on a regular basis. He knows that his father was a jerk when we were married and he knows that his father is still fairly selfish and lies about alot of different things. His brothers won't go with him to see their father because they have AS and are extremely rigid about how people should act. The NT son however says that even though his dad may be a jerk, he is only a person and nobody is perfect. He says his father is still his father and he loves him. It is as simple as that. No one is perfect. I wish I could see people in such a non-judgemental fashion.
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DeaconBlues
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Geez, I had a great father - he took me hunting, he taught me about history (not the sanitized crap you're exposed to in school, but what almost certainly really happened), and most of all, he taught me that my mind was nothing to be ashamed of. AS didn't exist as a diagnosis back in the Dark Ages, of course, but we all knew I was different. He helped show me how my difference could be a good thing. He also taught me that actions have consequences, and if I wasn't prepared to face the consequences, I shouldn't perform the actions...
...Gods, I miss him...
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| Quote: | | ...Gods, I miss him... |
I know the feeling.
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Yeah Deacon, I did too. Sure he didn't get it all right, but what the hell, I didn't either. The odd thing? I think he was Aspie and I know he had PTSD. The reason I can be sure of the PTSD is his war record and my Grandmother speaking about him when he first got home. He was a wise man. I can't get his council on my new discoverys, but in a way I can, I hope. He taught me one of the greatest things you can ever teach, the gift to think and to try and do it well. I don't really believe I'll get near what he could or did, but you know what? That's ok, and he knew I would try. I don't really think they ever leave us, there will always be a part of him in me.
My kids, lol. Didn't hear a peep out of em. But they're pretty pissed at me, their mother put that in em. It's cool, my Grandson (not biological) came by and he really is a son. He will never know his dad, I got it right with him 
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| Posted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 8:30 am Post subject: Re: HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!! |
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[quote="blessedmom"]HAPPY FATHER'S DAY TO ALL FATHER'S THAT MAY BE ON WP TODAY.[/quote]
Thank you very much.
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| Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 3:57 am Post subject: Re: HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!! |
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| blessedmom wrote: | | HAPPY FATHER'S DAY TO ALL FATHER'S THAT MAY BE ON WP TODAY. |
Hah! I'm a day late, but thanks...!!! Still daddy'ing here 365 a year times three.
How 'bout we dispense with a day for Father's and Mother's, and have two 'Parent's Days'.
Thanks for the "Happy..."
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Thanks, I was waiting for a call or a card from my daughter, but got neither ....
My wife and I spent a luvly day together anyway ...
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blessedmom
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| Prof_Pretorius wrote: | Thanks, I was waiting for a call or a card from my daughter, but got neither ....
My wife and I spent a luvly day together anyway ... |
I'm sorry to hear that! My dad and I are not close but he kept me fed, clothed and educated so I figure the least I can do is mark that in some way.
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Prof_Pretorius
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Thanks Blessed, I only wish me daughter felt the same ....
(Rotten kid)
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| Beenthere wrote: | | Quote: | | ...Gods, I miss him... |
I know the feeling. |
Yes, me too. I had a great Dad and I miss him, especially on Father's Day.. Luv ya Dad. God Bless. |
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Starr
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| Posted: Sun Jun 24, 2007 4:26 pm Post subject: |
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| Prof_Pretorius wrote: | Thanks Blessed, I only wish me daughter felt the same ....
(Rotten kid) |
Yes, sorry Proffy...glad you and your missus had a nice day together though. |
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blessedmom
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| Sedaka wrote: | wasnt it the other week?
oh well, my dad had it early this year lol |
 Yes, it was the other week. Apparently this thread just isn't going to go away. Maybe it should be Father's Day and Mother's Day everyday. I am a mom, I could handle that!
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