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the_falling_frog
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 Posted: Sun Jul 22, 2007 6:58 pm Post subject: Should I call her back? |
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A friend of mine last week had a female friend of his up from DC, and although she was gone during the day while we were together in the evenings we seemed to hit it off. I played a song for her that my band had recorded recently, and she really liked it. Anyways she left this morning, early, but before she did she knocked on my door and when I showed up, groggy and half-awake, she says, 'Well, I'm leaving now. Can you do something? I want you to kiss me.'
I had no idea we'd hit it off *that* well!
Now, for some background, I'm currently 27 and this is the first female interest I've gotten in 7 years- as a matter of fact I've always been too conversationally clumsy to pass as normal so I've been alone for quite a while, and I'm not used to having people touch me. I'm pretty sure that people who don't know me well enough think I'm retarded. I'm a computer programmer, I keep to myself, I have circular obesessive thoughts about the same thing most of the time, I have to admit that I fit a really hopelessly autistic pattern of behavior. I desperately hope that I won't always be alone like this.
So what do I do? I get a panicked expression on my face and after 30 or 40 seconds of glancing around, mumbling things, etc, I kiss her... on the cheek. Good going, romeo. God damn it.
So my question is, do I call her and try to explain myself, or am I now permanently on her list of creepy individuals? |
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gwenevyn
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Aww! That's so cute!
Yeah, give the girl a call and tell her you were just too stunned to kiss her properly, but you'd like to make up for it later. If that's how you feel, anyhow. ^_^
There's no way you're on the creep list. Rest easy.
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0_equals_true
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Can totally understand your response. I think I would have done the same. But it is probably not too late to caller her, I wouldn't put it off.
Are you ok on the phone? Maybe you could make it short and sharp. I guess knowing that she likes you can help, just kept that mantra. |
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Redrocket
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| I can relate to most of your feelings. I would feel kind of shy calling her myself. Does she have a boyfriend? If you do decide to call explain to her that you were surprised about her wanting to kiss you and that you were half asleep. Mention you like her company and had a good time and take it from there. |
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Beenthere
10 Miles South of Sanity
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| Posted: Sun Jul 22, 2007 8:38 pm Post subject: |
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Call her...tell her you where in shock or something.  Seriously, go for it.
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subatai_baadur
Really the Last of the Dodo's
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| Posted: Sun Jul 22, 2007 9:03 pm Post subject: |
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You're not on the creep list, but she may very well think you're a total pussy. Figure out if she's into that, and if she isn't, then rectify that problem very quickly. I suggest you call her, have her come over, and the second she shows up at the door, just kiss her.
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fernando
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Age: 27
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| Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 12:45 am Post subject: |
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| Call her. else you will spend 7 years wondering what would have happened had you call. And judging from your quick resumé you havent had this kind of experiences so why let the chance go. |
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criss
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Age: 43
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Location: London
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| Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 2:39 am Post subject: |
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| gwenevyn wrote: | Aww! That's so cute!
Yeah, give the girl a call and tell her you were just too stunned to kiss her properly, but you'd like to make up for it later. If that's how you feel, anyhow. ^_^
There's no way you're on the creep list. Rest easy. |
Hi Gwenevyn, my name is chris, Im in the London Catholic Worker community, I see in your profile you are a Catholic, have you read much about Dorothy Day.
In peace
Chris
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Crazy_Ben
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| Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 3:03 am Post subject: |
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Calling her certainly wouldn't hurt. Be aggressive until she shows you that she's not interested. That's what NT women always tell me. They say that many guys they ended-up dating, and I'm not saying that will happen here, now, for you, but, anyway they dated guys they never thought they would EVER date, because they kept pursuing them, and finally they give the guy a chance and turn out to be interested in them. You just never know, but, uh, yeah, if a girl asks for a kiss there's not clearer sign!
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Crazy_Ben
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Calling her certainly wouldn't hurt. Be aggressive until she shows you that she's not interested. That's what NT women always tell me. They say that many guys they ended-up dating, and I'm not saying that will happen here, now, for you, but, anyway they dated guys they never thought they would EVER date, because they kept pursuing them, and finally they give the guy a chance and turn out to be interested in them. You just never know, but, uh, yeah, if a girl asks for a kiss there's not clearer sign!
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Pandora
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| Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 9:53 am Post subject: |
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If you feel too shy to call her, maybe you could e-mail her. But I think if she wanted to kiss, she must have been interested.
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Woman
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Definitely call her!!! I agree w/ everyone who says for you to tell her you were in too much of a state of shock to kiss her properly & request an opportunity to be given another try.  |
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juliekitty
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| Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 9:50 pm Post subject: |
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| fernando wrote: | | Call her. else you will spend 7 years wondering what would have happened had you call. |
If not longer.
CALL HER |
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juliekitty
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| Crazy_Ben wrote: | | Be aggressive until she shows you that she's not interested. That's what NT women always tell me. They say that many guys they ended-up dating, and I'm not saying that will happen here, now, for you, but, anyway they dated guys they never thought they would EVER date, because they kept pursuing them, and finally they give the guy a chance and turn out to be interested in them. |
Yep -- that's happened to me -- that I haven't really been interested, but a guy pursues me until he wins me over. |
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calandale
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| Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 1:47 am Post subject: |
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| juliekitty wrote: |
Yep -- that's happened to me -- that I haven't really been interested, but a guy pursues me until he wins me over. |
Wow, I just can't imagine that.
If I don't feel a surge of attraction
nearly immediately, it's just NOT
going to happen. If they show interest,
and that doesn't spark mine, they're
just going to look pathetic to me, if
they persist. |
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