| View previous topic :: View next topic |
| Author |
Message |
Kittygirl
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: May 31, 2006
Posts: 36
|
 Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 12:15 pm Post subject: Toddlers |
 |
|
I am currently babysitting a 2 year old girl named Hannah and sometimes she just drives me CRAZY! My father says I should be a "role model" for Hannah but how can I be a role model if I have an anxiety disorder? Sometimes I have to take my Klonopin when Hannah come over because I get so anxious and I just want to pull my hair out.
Does anyone else have this problem? |
|
| Back to top |
|
sociable_hermit
Rabbit in the headlights
Joined: Aug 26, 2006
Posts: 1270
Location: Sussex, UK
|
| Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 1:51 pm Post subject: |
|
|
I find small children really unsettling. There's no way I could be responsible for looking after kids, I'd end up running away. This is a shame because many of my friends are now getting to the stage where they're getting married and having children and I find it awkward socialising with them now.
_________________
The Sociable Hermit says:
Rock'n'Roll... |
|
| Back to top |
|
poopylungstuffing
"Ultimate Creative Oddball"
Joined: Mar 09, 2007
Age: 33
Posts: 4282
Location: not otherwise specified
|
| Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 1:58 pm Post subject: |
|
|
I am real good at working with toddlers. I kind of have a way with them. I have been a montessori assistant and a babysitter and a nanny. I am pretty good at thinking from their perspective.
_________________
Winged Gnome Goddess prevent me from killing this thread
http://www.myspace.com/wingedgnomegoddess
http://www.youtube.com/poopylungstuffing
"If the fool would persist in his folly, he would become wise" -William Blake |
|
| Back to top |
|
woodsman25
The Dude
Joined: May 19, 2007
Age: 26
Posts: 2437
Location: NY
|
| Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 3:22 pm Post subject: |
|
|
welcome to the club sociable_hermit
my friends r entering that stage too, i feel like im going to loose them all, i wanna hit that stage as well, but their r some things i need to do first b4 i can proceed, i dont know about anybody else. |
|
| Back to top |
|
Kittygirl
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: May 31, 2006
Posts: 36
|
| Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 3:53 pm Post subject: |
|
|
When Hannah comes over to my house she likes to get into my stuff and bother me constantly by running after me and calling me "Nini" I don't know what to do with her! I am at my whits end with this child!!!
Two months ago I was hospitalized for taking an overdose of a sedative to attempt suicide because I felt like this was the only way for me to get away from Hannah. The sedative I overdosed on was called Seroquel, I'm sure some of you have taken it or at least heard of it. |
|
| Back to top |
|
KimJ
Legend in my own mind
Joined: Jun 11, 2006
Posts: 2538
Location: Arizona
|
| Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 4:32 pm Post subject: |
|
|
Why on on earth are you babysitting a child that makes you attempt suicide?! No child is worth that. No job.
A 2 year old can't help being 2, you need to make a toddler-proof playroom and that's where she is. How long are you with her? Why do you have this job?
Why are you babysitting at your house and not hers? She needs to be around her own stuff? What do her parents have to say about it?
Sounds like a mess. |
|
| Back to top |
|
Kittygirl
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: May 31, 2006
Posts: 36
|
| Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 8:22 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| Kittygirl DOES NOT babysit, HER MOTHER DOES....It is NOT HER JOB. Don't worry, the child is safe. |
|
| Back to top |
|
Pandora
Cat Lady
Joined: Jun 18, 2005
Age: 47
Posts: 4684
Location: Townsville
|
| Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 6:18 am Post subject: |
|
|
Kittygirl, does your mum realise how much this situation is stressing you? There must be a way to keep this little girl away from your stuff and surely your mum would be able to divert her with some toys and books? The sad thing is this little Hannah probably likes you a lot but something has to be done to make the stress levels lower.
_________________
Break out you Western girls,
Someday soon you're gonna rule the world.
Break out you Western girls,
Hold your heads up high.
"Western Girls" - Dragon
I am banned  |
|
| Back to top |
|
Kittygirl
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: May 31, 2006
Posts: 36
|
| Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 12:05 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| My mother does try to keep the baby away from me, but sometimes it's not easy and I just can't stand being called "Nini" Everytime she sees me she cries now because I'm not nice but I used to be. My mom thinks I need to find something to do outside of the house so that the child does not bother me. |
|
| Back to top |
|
Kittygirl
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: May 31, 2006
Posts: 36
|
| Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 12:11 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| I am now with Hannah 4 days a week. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday from 9 in the morning until 5 in the evening. That's at least 8 hours. At least I had my Klonopin today. |
|
| Back to top |
|
KimJ
Legend in my own mind
Joined: Jun 11, 2006
Posts: 2538
Location: Arizona
|
| Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 12:22 pm Post subject: |
|
|
OK, you said you were babysitting and being told to be a rolemodel. But it's your mom's job.
The playroom idea is to keep her out of your stuff and occupied with 2 year old things. If your mom is watching her that many days, she really needs to have a special place that is just for them, with a schedule that will keep some order and peace.
I agree it would be a good idea to schedule something for you too out of the house. It sounds harsh, but if your family needs that money, then you should find a way to get to a safer place. |
|
| Back to top |
|
Kittygirl
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: May 31, 2006
Posts: 36
|
| Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 6:33 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| This is Kittygirl's mother. Thanks Kim J, your suggestions are very good. I let the baby have the run of the house, but I think your idea of converting one room to a "playroom" is a good one. I really don't understand why she bothers Kittygirl so much, but she does. It seems irrational to me, but then I am not an Aspie. |
|
| Back to top |
|
sociable_hermit
Rabbit in the headlights
Joined: Aug 26, 2006
Posts: 1270
Location: Sussex, UK
|
| Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 7:48 pm Post subject: |
|
|
Small children are loud, physically aggressive, comparatively emotionally unstable, demanding and have no concept of personal space.
For someone with AS, being around an energetic child is like being strapped into a speeding roller coaster, when every single bone in your body would rather be tucked in the corner of a very quiet library reading a book.
_________________
The Sociable Hermit says:
Rock'n'Roll... |
|
| Back to top |
|
Lightning88
Skunk Enthusiast
Joined: Aug 05, 2006
Age: 19
Posts: 2923
Location: Indiana
|
| Posted: Wed Jul 25, 2007 2:27 am Post subject: |
|
|
I just love kids! They're so adorable! Well, as long as they're well-behaved, that is! 
_________________
"We got the feet back!"- Ruth Cole, 'The Door in the Floor' |
|
| Back to top |
|
Danielismyname
Alone around people
Joined: Apr 03, 2007
Posts: 6033
|
| Posted: Wed Jul 25, 2007 2:40 am Post subject: |
|
|
It's subjective; I'm super autistic but I have no problems with watching and interacting with babies/toddlers. I guess I can relate to them far more than adults. ;) My nephew is adorable...even when he isn't "well" behaved; none of the screaming, yelling and running bothers me at all.
I'm like the perfect babysitter, super sensible (logical) and emotionally retarded (immature). |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
