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wob182
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 Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 4:00 pm Post subject: U see a guy who u think is cute, how do u get him intrested? |
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I keep finding tips for guys to pick up girls on the site but can barely find what to do if u see a cute guy and u want to get to know him better?
For example you see a guy friend and his friend in a photo on his acount (facebook, myspace whatever) and you ask ur friend if he's single and he says yes. Now what?
Do guys have to do the chasing or is that a myth? I think sometimes im to forward...how do u be suttle?
Help! 
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Mishcana
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Supposively you're supposed to send them a "look" that invites them over, but not supposed to say anything.
Getting guys is very confusing. Theoretically, according to a lot of NT literature, if the girl chases it's unlikely the relationship will last in the long term as the guy likes to think the relatonship was his idea. |
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Hanwag
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| Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 4:15 pm Post subject: |
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| Mishcana wrote: | | Supposively you're supposed to send them a "look" that invites them over, but not supposed to say anything. |
That look can be just a simple smile to me  .
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MartyMoose
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| Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 4:24 pm Post subject: |
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| I try saying to girls "you're cute" it doesn't seem to work |
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wob182
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| Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 4:24 pm Post subject: |
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| Hanwag wrote: | | Mishcana wrote: | | Supposively you're supposed to send them a "look" that invites them over, but not supposed to say anything. |
That look can be just a simple smile to me . |
that helps if ur in a room together but what about if its unlikely ur be in the same social group. Your unlikely to see him then how would u make it happen?
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Hanwag
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My girlfriend added me to MSN and we just started talking. We shared some interests and experiences and the talking was nice. Slowly some interest grew. If there are no shared interests just forget about the guy, it won't work anyway...
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sinsboldly
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I like the idea of the simple smile. It indicates you like what you see.
However once you get that established, you could also invite him to a lunch picnic and offer to make it yourself.
I dodged a bullet once because I thought I had found a great guy once but he was not for me because I got there before I said I would and saw him stuffing himself with slices of white bread. He only picked at the food I slaved over and when I asked him why he ate all the bread before I showed up he said he was afraid that the food would not be good and he didn't want to be hungry.
I just packed up my basket and bid him goodbye. He seemed like the type of guy that would salt his food before he tasted it.
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D1nk0
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| Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 4:41 pm Post subject: Re: U see a guy who u think is cute, how do u get him intres |
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| wob182 wrote: | I keep finding tips for guys to pick up girls on the site but can barely find what to do if u see a cute guy and u want to get to know him better?
For example you see a guy friend and his friend in a photo on his acount (facebook, myspace whatever) and you ask ur friend if he's single and he says yes. Now what?
Do guys have to do the chasing or is that a myth? I think sometimes im to forward...how do u be suttle?
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My advice is to try flirting with him. Guys often dont pick up subtlty when it comes to this sorta thing; you have to be
a little bit more forward but not too assertive. Actually, I have a great idea  If you havent met him in person yet,
try to be really cutesy and friendly AND take some glamour pics of yourself and post them on your facebook(like pix of you in a mini skirt, heels, tight/revealing/provocative attire). That is defnitely the BEST way to get guys attention-and thats coming from a guy himself  . |
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SpaceCase
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As Dale Carnegie says,"The trick is NOT to get people interested in you...but for you to seem interested in people." (Taken from HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE)
Where exzactly do you keep seeing this guy at? If you want,you can PM me.
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sinsboldly
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| Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 5:44 pm Post subject: Re: U see a guy who u think is cute, how do u get him intres |
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| D1nk0 wrote: | | wob182 wrote: | I keep finding tips for guys to pick up girls on the site but can barely find what to do if u see a cute guy and u want to get to know him better?
For example you see a guy friend and his friend in a photo on his acount (facebook, myspace whatever) and you ask ur friend if he's single and he says yes. Now what?
Do guys have to do the chasing or is that a myth? I think sometimes im to forward...how do u be suttle?
Help! |
My advice is to try flirting with him. Guys often dont pick up subtlty when it comes to this sorta thing; you have to be
a little bit more forward but not too assertive. Actually, I have a great idea If you havent met him in person yet,
try to be really cutesy and friendly AND take some glamour pics of yourself and post them on your facebook(like pix of you in a mini skirt, heels, tight/revealing/provocative attire). That is defnitely the BEST way to get guys attention-and thats coming from a guy himself . |
but what if she doesn't want to tart herself up to get a guy's attention. I mean, what sort of attention does that get her? do you look at someone in provocative attire and say "wow, what a great prospective partner in parenting children! I sure would like to know her opinions on healthcare and governmental reform? I think that she is exactly the type of person I want to know mom and meet dad?
I didn't think so |
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D1nk0
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| Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 5:50 pm Post subject: Re: U see a guy who u think is cute, how do u get him intres |
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| sinsboldly wrote: | | D1nk0 wrote: | | wob182 wrote: | I keep finding tips for guys to pick up girls on the site but can barely find what to do if u see a cute guy and u want to get to know him better?
For example you see a guy friend and his friend in a photo on his acount (facebook, myspace whatever) and you ask ur friend if he's single and he says yes. Now what?
Do guys have to do the chasing or is that a myth? I think sometimes im to forward...how do u be suttle?
Help! |
My advice is to try flirting with him. Guys often dont pick up subtlty when it comes to this sorta thing; you have to be
a little bit more forward but not too assertive. Actually, I have a great idea If you havent met him in person yet,
try to be really cutesy and friendly AND take some glamour pics of yourself and post them on your facebook(like pix of you in a mini skirt, heels, tight/revealing/provocative attire). That is defnitely the BEST way to get guys attention-and thats coming from a guy himself . |
but what if she doesn't want to tart herself up to get a guy's attention. I mean, what sort of attention does that get her? do you look at someone in provocative attire and say "wow, what a great prospective partner in parenting children! I sure would like to know her opinions on healthcare and governmental reform? I think that she is exactly the type of person I want to know mom and meet dad?
I didn't think so |
No, I dont ususally put that much thought into it the first time I lay eyes on someone dressed like that, HOWEVER you are grossly overestimating how much thought people put into judging someone based on how attractive they are. The "chemistry"-in other words the sexual attraction really has to be there-at least for me and I think for most people. Sometimes girls have a hard time getting guys to notice them because there are other , more noticeably pretty girls around-ESPECIALLY if its a guy she doesnt know that well. Tarting herself up greatly increases the chances that this guy will notice her and take interest in her . |
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wob182
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| Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 5:56 pm Post subject: Re: U see a guy who u think is cute, how do u get him intres |
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in reply to the post above this:
erm...ok no its not a bad idea...but im not really the mini skirt cleavage type of girl.. i rely more on my pretty face and personitly.... i love my body but i believe in making a guy show thta he deserves to see it before he sees my body.. (maybe im old fashioned but thats just me )
my facebook picture atm its a good one its a random moment we had with my friend were im were mid laughter...i think its a aporachble
but ermm i dont have an opinon on healthcare or governmental reform...lol im not really intrested in that
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| Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 5:59 pm Post subject: Re: U see a guy who u think is cute, how do u get him intres |
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| D1nk0 wrote: | | take some glamour pics of yourself and post them on your facebook(like pix of you in a mini skirt, heels, tight/revealing/provocative attire). That is defnitely the BEST way to get guys attention-and thats coming from a guy himself . |
Attention, probably, but will it give the impression wob182 wants to give? My own reaction would be "Party girl. Not for me."
wob182, this guy is a friend of a friend, right? You already asked your friend whether the guy is single, so your friend may know you have some interest. Simplest thing then would be to ask your friend what the guy is like. If what you hear is good, tell your friend you would like to meet the guy. I suggest you ask your friend not to tell the guy you want a date. Say you don't want to raise expectations so that if it doesn't work, you don't disappoint him. That should be true, because you don't know yet what the guy is like. If your friend is closer to the guy than to you, he might say something anyway, and it probably is better if what he passes on is an indication of low-key interest. It will be easier to back out if that is what you want, and if he's shy you are less likely to make him nervous. |
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jo821
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| Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 7:28 pm Post subject: |
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| thank the heavens someone posted this...i need a lot of help in this department too! Any guy advice (except from tarting it up)? |
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ToadOfSteel
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| Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 7:51 pm Post subject: |
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Since the guy you want to attract wont approach you on his own, there's 2 possible outcomes:
1) He has AS. In this case, he probably won't care if you approach him, since aspies are generally not bound to those pesky social "rules"...
2) He isn't attracted to you. |
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