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NeantHumain
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 Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 2:07 am Post subject: List Strategic Blunders to Avoid |
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Dating and romance requires strategy and planning. Experience has taught me some things can destroy chances for a date, relationship, or something more casual. Please feel free to add to the list.
- Calling her back in less than three days or so (makes you seem needy or desperate)
- Showing too much interest early on (makes you seem needy or desperate)
- Letting her know that you are physically attracted to her at all (possibly seen as desperate; moreover, the majority of women seem irresistibly bent on f*cking with guys they know physically desire them)
- Ignoring her friends
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velodog
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Not striking while the Iron is hot. If you don't respond to a women's signals in a timely fashion it may be viewed as a rejection.  |
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Mishcana
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Admitively I'm not neurotypical, but if I guy didn't call me back in three days I'd probably assume he wasn't interested, or simply was calling me because he failed to get with someone else.
Admitively that might not be the norm, but . . .
Simple solution is to leave with asking if they had fun and if they'd like to go again. If yes, tell 'em you'll call them later with further arrangements. |
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jkrane
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 11:42 am Post subject: |
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| 9 times out of 10, it's the girl just being awkward, not you. |
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weather1man
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Age: 19
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Location: Atlanta, Georgia
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 12:00 pm Post subject: |
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1. Asking her out on a social networking site.
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"But in general, at first shy guys may seem interesting and cute, but it DOES get old really quick. Gets too boring." |
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aaronrey
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 1:05 pm Post subject: |
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i asked someone out over MSN. she said yes. we went out for about 3 months then she decided she still loved her ex so... |
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AlteredEgo
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Age: 24
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 1:08 pm Post subject: |
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| Mishcana wrote: | Admitively I'm not neurotypical, but if I guy didn't call me back in three days I'd probably assume he wasn't interested, or simply was calling me because he failed to get with someone else.
Admitively that might not be the norm, but . . .
Simple solution is to leave with asking if they had fun and if they'd like to go again. If yes, tell 'em you'll call them later with further arrangements. |
I agree with Mishcana, not her back in less than three days or so would frighten me off for sure. |
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JohnHopkins
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- Refusing to hang out with his/her friends. You don't have to like them, just tolerate them every now and then as s/he should be willing to do with yours.
- Telling them you've got Asperger's straight away. People on this forum seem to think that backing off from this means they aren't worth being with, but come on people. You don't go up to someone and tell them your biggest problem straight away. 'Hey, I've got terminal cancer, but chemo doesn't start until next week so I can still get a hardon. Interested?' Tell them a little further down the line when they already like you. If they balk then, maybe it is okay to dump them. |
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windscar15
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Age: 19
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Location: San Jose, California
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 5:06 pm Post subject: |
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Ok
I just met this girl yesterday and we talked for awhile and we both seemed pretty interested in each other. I got her e-mail and I gave her my number, now today I sent her an e-mail saying that we should hang out again sometime.
Did I do something wrong? |
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KimberKenobi
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Location: Kentucky
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Here's a blunder: not letting go...
It's really hard for me to give up on a relationship that is either not healthy or not going in a good direction because 1) I feel like I'm giving up on them as a person and 2) (as I've just realized) I really hate the whole 'social event' of finding new dating material... |
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