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D1nk0
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 Posted: Wed Apr 30, 2008 5:56 pm Post subject: "women dont (really) want sex" |
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Im really curious to know why society[including many women themselves] promulgate the Lie that women dont actually want sex, the just use it to get things from men(like reassurance). Its like people have this ridiculous ideal of women that they somehow do not have carnal, physical desires. Scientific research conduted in the last 30 years has completely DEBUNKED this myth; yet many people still insist on it. Why? What purpose does this silly myth serve? All I can think of is its used to make women look and feel independent of men-not just physically but emotionally. Like the myth that every woman is inherently a lesbian  . |
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Poeticromance
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| I'm a total perv, so i prove it WRONG. w00t to the female perverts!!! |
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D1nk0
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| Posted: Wed Apr 30, 2008 6:10 pm Post subject: |
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| Poeticromance wrote: | | I'm a total perv, so i prove it WRONG. w00t to the female perverts!!! |
U G0 GuRL!! 
BTW-twas zee who thinks women dont really want sex(in fact, thats just her  ) |
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Viola
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| I don't really. Sometimes physically, but the idea just wierds me out too much. |
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krex
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It is just as bad as the myth that ALL men want, is sex...sometimes even some of them seem to believe that but I don't think it is true for most men. I had more male friends then females and a lot of them felt very pressured to have sex or be considered gay or a freak.
As far as females and sex...I was obsessed with sex since I hit puberty. I peeked in my twenties and now don't think about it at all...unless I can't get it 
I do think this might be true of most women..
"women dont want bad sex" and "most men don't think those two words should ever be used together",(until they experience it.)
I was a teen in the early 80's and am disappointed to find that men who like and have sex are still called studs(or players) and females who do are still called sluts(or hoes)...we have come a long way baby????
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D1nk0
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| Posted: Wed Apr 30, 2008 9:18 pm Post subject: |
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| krex wrote: | It is just as bad as the myth that ALL men want, is sex...sometimes even some of them seem to believe that but I don't think it is true for most men. I had more male friends then females and a lot of them felt very pressured to have sex or be considered gay or a freak.
As far as females and sex...I was obsessed with sex since I hit puberty. I peeked in my twenties and now don't think about it at all...unless I can't get it
I do think this might be true of most women..
"women dont want bad sex" and "most men don't think those two words should ever be used together",(until they experience it.)
I was a teen in the early 80's and am disappointed to find that men who like and have sex are still called studs(or players) and females who do are still called sluts(or hoes)...we have come a long way baby???? |
I wasnt asking "why dont women want sex?" cuz I know thats so obviously UNtrue. I was asking Why is the Myth that women dont really want sex so prevalent? Why do women promulgate it so frequently(as well as Naive men)?
The only reason I can think of is that modern women dont want to admit that they want something from men because
they already resent being dependent on men biologically when it comes to having offsping. |
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pakled
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| Posted: Wed Apr 30, 2008 10:10 pm Post subject: |
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| I know I'm not supposed to be in here...but I think it depends on the woman, who she's with, and what the situation is... |
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LabPet
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I really like sex. I suppose some women especially concentrate on relationship dynamics (whatever that means), but I really like sex too. I like a male who's a friend, sure, but sex matters. I never understood why certain women find sex 'bad' or just 'a duty' for their man.....I'm sure they're man doesn't like that attitude! Sex is a natural instinct and I feel that drive. Women aren't exempt!
Close your eyes pakled......he's lurking I know. So, how many other XX (males) here are reading this thread and pretending they aren't? You can run but you cannot hide. And they think we (XY) just post here about nylons and mascara.
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DazzleKitty
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| It's a stupid double-standard. No offense to men and I don't mean to sound sexist, but I believe it's all men's doing in the past. Men wanted control over women and in bed was one place they certainly always had it. It was better to believe they disliked it or got no feeling from it than to worry about pleasing her. After all, for women to ENJOY sex at all, EMOTIONS and LOVE MUST be involved. |
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VioletClementine
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| Posted: Thu May 01, 2008 12:31 am Post subject: |
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I admit that I occasionally feel the desire for sexual contact.
But I think a lot of my fear of it has to do with my physical awkwardness--my lack of understanding of the position of my limbs, body, et cetera. I guess I just don't want that awkward feeling.
But heck...face it...sex is an awkward thing.  |
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LabPet
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| Posted: Thu May 01, 2008 12:53 am Post subject: |
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| VioletClementine wrote: | | But heck...face it...sex is an awkward thing. |
Sex shouldn't feel be awkard - humans are sexual beings. I think some feel guilty, but they shouldn't.
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kaytie
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i want to have sex but i'm scared of choosing the wrong person to have it with.
i'm afraid of jerks, you know those who'd kiss and tell
i'd be totally humiliated to be talked about  |
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Who_Am_I
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| Posted: Thu May 01, 2008 8:09 am Post subject: |
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I am a pervert and proud of it.
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aspergian_mutant
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Its because people like men with negatively impacting social or physical flaws get rejected so much
and girls tend to be picky because of the chance of pregnancy and they have more choices in mates
to the point that to many men it seems like they do not want any sex, and in relationships by what I seen many
times the females uses sex as a tool to get what she wants or they deny the male like its not that big of a deal to them.
and women like men to pursue them earning that sex and showing interest and enjoy the flattery,
and women who have sexual interest are afraid to be called sluts on top of all this.
then add to all this the time of the monthly season for the women plays a big role as well,
and add to all these things, that a women loses much interest once she hits menopause.
its a sociological Illusion in many ways, created by women unwittingly.
Am I Wrong?
I know to me it seems women do not ever want anything either,
but I know its just me their not interested in just because I am deferent. |
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M02
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| Posted: Thu May 01, 2008 9:27 am Post subject: |
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| I think it just depends on what people think having sex with someone means to them and what they think the other person believes about it. |
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