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JML101582
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 Posted: Tue Aug 19, 2008 3:20 pm Post subject: Any Aspies/High Functioning Autistics living on their own? |
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I would like to know is how do you guys plan on living on your own despite your condition which requires you to have alot of common sense and soical interaction when you move out?
I am a 25 year old male and still live with my parents so is there anyway I could move out of my parents' house and move into an Aspie community in the Seattle area or live in an apartment. Because I have slightly above average intellegence and I am a few credits away from graduating Edmonds Community College.
If you have any tips for me, I could sure use them, thanks! |
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kip
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I'm no longer residing in my mothers dwelling... but calling it living would be one hell of a stretch.
I'm more like barely surviving.
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butterflykitty2008
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| I would try to find low-income disabled housing. |
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Nan
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It would depend on how severely your AS/Autism was impacting you. I left home as soon as I could as a teen and have been on my own ever since (around 35 years).
It wasn't exactly the best start I had, made a lot of mistakes, but I did learn.
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Prof_Pretorius
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I moved out before I went to Uni. I lived with friends, and later on roomies. It wasn't easy, and I didn't like the constant invasion of my privacy.
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arkityp
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Joined: Jul 19, 2008
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Location: Toronto
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| Posted: Tue Aug 19, 2008 4:20 pm Post subject: Re: Any Aspies/High Functioning Autistics living on their ow |
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| JML101582 wrote: | I would like to know is how do you guys plan on living on your own despite your condition which requires you to have alot of common sense and soical interaction when you move out?
I am a 25 year old male and still live with my parents so is there anyway I could move out of my parents' house and move into an Aspie community in the Seattle area or live in an apartment. Because I have slightly above average intellegence and I am a few credits away from graduating Edmonds Community College.
If you have any tips for me, I could sure use them, thanks! |
i've been living on my own for almost 13 years now. i actually prefer it, as i don't have to deal with roommates or imposing schedules. i am not any more social living alone than when i lived with other people. it was uncomfortable for them, as well as me having to pretend to be involved in their lives. living alone has given me a lot of time to focus on what i want to do, as opposed to what is least embarrassing for other people.
just make sure you budget and you'll be fine. being independent is pretty awesome.
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n4mwd
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Location: Palm Beach, FL
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| Posted: Tue Aug 19, 2008 7:51 pm Post subject: Re: Any Aspies/High Functioning Autistics living on their ow |
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| JML101582 wrote: | I would like to know is how do you guys plan on living on your own despite your condition which requires you to have alot of common sense and soical interaction when you move out?
I am a 25 year old male and still live with my parents so is there anyway I could move out of my parents' house and move into an Aspie community in the Seattle area or live in an apartment. Because I have slightly above average intellegence and I am a few credits away from graduating Edmonds Community College.
If you have any tips for me, I could sure use them, thanks! |
The main thing is to have a stable income. A minimum wage job is not considered stable income. You need to earn a monthly minimum of twice what the going rate for an apartment is in your area. A college degree is not a guarantee of an income.
From my experience, roommates cannot be trusted. So personally, I think that is a bad idea. |
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Racina
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I have lived on my own for 4 years now.
What I have found is a steady income and doing good budgeting will really go a long way. |
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CelticRose
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Location: Mesa, AZ, USA, Third Rock from the Sun
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| Posted: Tue Aug 19, 2008 9:43 pm Post subject: |
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| Nan wrote: | It would depend on how severely your AS/Autism was impacting you. I left home as soon as I could as a teen and have been on my own ever since (around 35 years).
It wasn't exactly the best start I had, made a lot of mistakes, but I did learn. |
Ditto, except I did live with my grandparents for a couple of years and I'm only 35. When you don't have any other choice, you learn how to survive.
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donkort
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| Posted: Tue Aug 19, 2008 10:01 pm Post subject: |
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I am a 47-year-old man who was a late talker (5 1/2 years of age) and had many characteristics of autism and Asperger's Syndrome. There are times when I am so befuddled by people and their "signals" that I become literally dizzy. I was never officially diagnosed--but I had lots of problems in school owing (1) to "social unawareness"; and (2) my lack of impulse control. The fact of this long "reply" renders an Asperger's diagnosis a real possibility!
Now: in answer to your question as to independent living:
I moved out of my mother's apartment at age 20, and have never looked back. I made lots of mistakes; I still make some--but I survive! My ultimate ambition, frankly, is to help those on the "autistic spectrum" who seek to be independent.
I would agree with many of the others who have replied. A steady job is a TOP priority; a job with full health insurance even more of a priority; a job with a pension even more so! I've been a civil servant for the past 27 1/2 years, and will be receiving a pension when I retire. I believe one should be employed at the same job at least ONE YEAR before one considers moving out. This goes for "neurotypical" as well as for people on the autistic spectrum. Also: you HAVE to budget, and pay your bills ON TIME, otherwise your credit rating suffers, thus leading to problems getting houses, apartments, and sometimes even jobs. Also: whenever possible, do not take out a personal loan, and DO NOT co-sign for anybody else (unless he/she is a close friend or family member in really desparate straits). Don't give in to sob stories offerred up by people seeking to take advantage of you. Also: don't let anybody move in with you, unless he/she is a close friend/family member in desparate straits OR you're going to marry that person. I believe you should establish a good relationship with your "super," especially if you are not "handy." |
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QuantumCowboy
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Location: Calgary, AB
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I wouldn't exactly say that I live alone, I have my GF (who I think also is an aspie).
I have not lived with my parents since I was eighteen. It is, as is most life, a constant struggle between work and the rest of life, necessities vs. disposable income, &c.
However, I do not think that I could live my parents again (regardless of my age). With my father, there would not be enough freedom. With my mother, there would be an excessive amount of advice.
In short, my life may be a mess. However, it is MY mess. 
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Pobodys_Nerfect
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| I will be moving into my own place soon on my own for the first time soon. I'm excited. Looking forward to the peace. |
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babybear3333
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I left home at 18 after an horrendously abusive childhood and teens. I'm 40 now and divorced, but I prefer to live alone even though I still make mistakes and am hopeless with money...
Sometimes though, it would be nice to have someone to look after me now and then 
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stimpysuzie
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Keep your most secret thoughts to yourself no matter how much someone is to be "trusted".
Do not let anyone know too much about you too soon.
Only bring what you need and make sure anything that is of significance to you or valuable in a sentimental way, is kept seperate to your other belongings.
Pay rent on time always.
Always read the fine print and make sure the person or agent lets you.
Find out your rights in so far as landlords and tenants act in your area or locale.
Learn what you need to learn and take the highs with the lows because that is what it is all about.
Later Later
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brentmccartney
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Living on your own is awesome, as long as you don't have a real need for a live in support network.
I lived on my own for 5 years and only just moved back into a share arrangement a couple weeks ago due to the crappy real estate market where I am.
What has been said before is true, if you have a stable income and can AFFORD to live on your own (take into account bill, food, how much your hobbies cost etc.) then it's the way to go. You have a place to retreat to when the world is too much and you can make your own schedule.
I say go for it! |
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