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Ana54
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 Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 8:39 am Post subject: Do people care more about your diagnosis than your feelings? |
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It's like they don't have to treat me like a human being with normal human feelings or motivations, once they find ouit I'm diagnosed with AS. My mother usually doesn't bother to think or tell people about about what I might be feeling like and how or why; she just tells people I have a condition or disorder or diagnosis that makes me do this or say that. It's stupid and it sucks. And that's all she says. It's all surface stuff. She never says "She did that because, I don't know, but she might have felt like this, this is just a guess though." That's why it's useless to tell people I'm diagnosed with AS and I don't like doing it. Whenever I do something "stupid" or "bad" my mother thinks of the diagnosis, not what feelings I might be having that made me do it, which is what she would do for a normal person. "she does it because she has AS." Forget any other motivation I might have; I'm diagnosed with AS! That means I don't have any otgher possibly normal human motivation!
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I had a teacher that was like that, in high school. One time, I was really upset and I was crying. My resource room teacher told me that I wasn't going to my English class, until I calm down. I told her that I hated her for doing that to me, and to consider my feelings, instead of my diagnosis. She didn't want to hear anymore of it, so she let me go to class. I've apologized to her a couple of hours later, when I came back there, for math, because she really was a good teacher, despite that one incident.
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| Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 8:53 am Post subject: |
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no idea,
couldn't care less if they do,it's their ignorance.
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many people do that to me but since they cant remember asperger syndrome they change it to "retarted personality" 
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Only people who are uninformed.
When I first got my diagnosis of AS, whenever I would do something my mother would say to me..."I wonder if thats a part of AS?".
Although thankfully she has stopped doing that now.
I can't think of anyone else who does it as i'm never around many people anyway.
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Ana54
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Brittany, my mother does that too only she doesn't say she wonders; she thinks she knows!
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| Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 9:23 am Post subject: |
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| my parents think because I have AS, I take EVERYTHING seriously. But in reality, I can get some sarcasm! |
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| Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 9:34 am Post subject: Re: Do people care more about your diagnosis than your feeli |
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| Ana54 wrote: | | It's like they don't have to treat me like a human being with normal human feelings or motivations, once they find ouit I'm diagnosed with AS. My mother usually doesn't bother to think or tell people about about what I might be feeling like and how or why; she just tells people I have a condition or disorder or diagnosis that makes me do this or say that. It's stupid and it sucks. And that's all she says. It's all surface stuff. She never says "She did that because, I don't know, but she might have felt like this, this is just a guess though." That's why it's useless to tell people I'm diagnosed with AS and I don't like doing it. Whenever I do something "stupid" or "bad" my mother thinks of the diagnosis, not what feelings I might be having that made me do it, which is what she would do for a normal person. "she does it because she has AS." Forget any other motivation I might have; I'm diagnosed with AS! That means I don't have any otgher possibly normal human motivation! |
Oh, I only put up with that from everyone in high school and my aunt.
That's why I moved to Burlington where I wouldn't be judged because of what a few pricks kept telling people. |
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| Man, sometimes I think I must be uncommonly lucky. My mom and the people around me have always supported the confedentiality of my condition - it's always been at my discreation on whether to tell someone or not. When I do something wrong, I get treated like everone else, unless I choose to bring up my disablity. |
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My family only did this the first couple of years or so after my original diagnosis. The worst of it was one time when my little cousins told my that my grandma (whom they live with) said I had a chunk of my brain missing. I told my mom that and she blew up about it at Grandma (who has never been a nice person).
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Ana54
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The worst thing is that my mother calsls ME indiscreet because I spill my guts on WP about everything about me.
It's not that she shouldn't tell anyone that I'm AS or whatever. It''s that she ONLY tells them that and doesn't tell them about anything else I'm feeling or thinking and makes them think that everything I feel or think or say or do is my AS talking. Most of it is not. I don't even know if I am./have As, or what it is or what it means to be or have AS. She thinks she KNOWS.
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| Lightning88 wrote: | | The worst of it was one time when my little cousins told my that my grandma (whom they live with) said I had a chunk of my brain missing. |
Wow, thats harsh. And I thought that I had it bad... 
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deathchibi
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besides... only 18% of the world is NT... so it would be easier to cure that much of the world than 82% 
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dont know does my mother remembers i have as..suchs long time last we talked about it 
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