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zeldapsychology
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 Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 9:13 am Post subject: Have you looked at life differently now? |
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(The subject title isn't long enough so I'll ask here.) Has knowing you have Asperger's made you take a good hard long look at your life? 
For me yes I understand now why I didn't have many friends and feel bad looking at my past behavior and it's hard to look to the future when you don't know how to behave. People have told me to go on with life be myself etc. but IMO why do that if I'm going to end up right back where I started (my behavior has lead to A) a College suspension and B)Sexual Harrassment being brought up at my first job. So IMO before I'm in another work environment or school environment (AKA an actual place NOT Online job/classes but that's cool if that's your thing.) for me now is a time to better understand my behavior and ways to fix it and NOT be myself just to have an endless cycle over and over again. |
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larsenjw92286
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 9:42 am Post subject: |
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I have been able to realize that I can learn and grow, and I have!
Absolutely!
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DevonB
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 12:17 pm Post subject: |
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Oh yeah....realizing that I have AS has led me to be far more accepting of some of the things in my life. I tend to not stress about certain situations. I know that being in a loud crowded environment isn't going to beneficial to me.
I have modified my life to be less stressful, and know that there are certain things that I shouldn't do. It helps my partner understand me, and me understand myself.
My anxiety is far less than it used to be, because I know why I was flying off the handle and having meltdowns. I'm more careful when I interact with other people, knowing that they don't get me.
I'm so happy to have discovered why I am like I am. |
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krex
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 12:37 pm Post subject: |
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I think I am pretty good at interpreting "NT speak" and I think that when they tell you to.."get on with your life"..what they are really saying is......."I don't want to hear one more word about aspergers. Actually, I don't want to hear one more word about YOU...lets talk about me."
I tried a few times to broach the personal insights I felt I had gathered about myself and AS only to be told to "shut up". I guess I CAN read between the lines  .
I have been accused of over analysing, over thinking, over intellectualizing and being self centered...my whole life. Why should now be any different. To me, many NT's have a very suerficial way of processing information and lack intellectual curiosity and self awareness...to them, the fault lies in me. You are the only one who can decide what way works for you and then try not to take it personally when they complain that your "hurting their brain". I made that decission long before I learned about AS, and have been much happier just excepting that I and they are different in this way.
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Josie
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 1:28 pm Post subject: |
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| Yes knowing that I could have AS has bought peace to me. I don't feel that crazy and am able to accept things better. |
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zeldapsychology
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| One of the best piece of adivce I've gotten was when my parents had a certain view on an old friend/bully (long story) they said I should not talk to him. When I brought this up with my Psychology teacher out of curiosity of her opinion she said "You already know what to do." My response was "I do??" she then looked at me smiled and shook her head yes. She was great at what she did and seems caring unlike Psychologist you see on t.v. or Psychiatrist/therapist/psychologist who have actaully analyzed me. |
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