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Telly
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 Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 6:02 pm Post subject: Falling for an Aspie... |
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| How can I tell if an Aspie guy likes me? I think he is great! |
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Glencannon
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| Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 6:06 pm Post subject: |
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Honesty is the best policy when dealing with an aspie.
Edit: Also be straight forward.
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KingofKaboom
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Does he talk to you and smile? essentially I send all the same signals an NT would send but have trouble reading others signals... If he's looking maybe you could try like an NT guy if that doesn't get a response just try a more forward approach.
I dunno really I'd need more info.
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Mikomi
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| Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 6:53 pm Post subject: |
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I might be difficult to tell. Aspies often prefer others to make the first move romantically. As others have said, be honest and straightforward. My husband's honesty was what attracted me most to him. I still recall our very first conversation, which makes me laugh with delight to this day.
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Telly
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| Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 7:19 pm Post subject: |
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| He seems to want to spend a lot of time with me. He's also super sweet and thoughtful. I can't stop thinking about him and I don't know what to do. This is complicated. |
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KingofKaboom
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Well maybe he feels the same way, have you seen any ackward attempts by him to get your attention? Have you ever discussed relationships with him? But yeah for the most part the above posts are the idea be a little more blunt and not so subtle b/c I know many girls miss out on me b/c I'm uncertain and I give up (which upsets them and thats how I find out I was wrong)
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Telly
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| Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 7:35 pm Post subject: |
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| thanks. I've been losing sleep over this. |
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KingofKaboom
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Tell us hows it goes yes?
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Telly
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| Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 7:48 pm Post subject: |
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| will do!! |
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Stevopedia
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| Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 8:47 pm Post subject: |
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If he spends as much time as he possibly can with you, then he probably likes you.
If he sends similar signals that an NT would send, he probably likes you.
If he seems to go to further lengths to socialize with you than with most other people, then he probably likes you.
Good luck with him, I hope it works out for you!
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Telly
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| Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 9:18 pm Post subject: |
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| thanks! |
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Telly
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| I've chickened out. I'm afraid that things will become awkward. |
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wob182
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when i dated an aspie..we were honest from the start...
ie. I'm looking for a realtionship with this...and ur looking for that
we cut all the crap and realised we fitted the critera! i lovvved it i cud tell him if we meshing and we were we took it slow and i was honest all the way no games no "does he like me aaah stuff"
it was the best...but honestly i have to say..is not always the place for a breakup..breaking up with an aspie was the hardest one EVER as he was 'too honest' and deffinetly lacked epthy.
so in conclusion there are good and bad faults for it..but seriously if u want to date and aspie just be honest..i like u do u like me?
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pbcoll
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If it's difficult for you to tell him face to face, maybe it would be good to tell him in writing. That way you have time to choose your words carefully, go over them, etc, and helps avoid confusion over non-verbal signals. Best of luck.
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ToadOfSteel
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| Telly wrote: | | I've chickened out. I'm afraid that things will become awkward. |
Aspies are the lords of awkward. Don't worry about that as much... |
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