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Spokane_Girl
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 Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 11:19 pm Post subject: How come people don't like to be wrong? |
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I have noticed that it seems like every time I am right, that person gets mad.
I think I scared someone off of AIM when I showed my intelligence about autism. He said things wrong about it and I corrected him. Then he said he had to get off.
When I hit the nail in the head with my mother, she doesn't want to talk about something anymore what we are talking about. I am like a Lisa Simpson. saying the right things, getting my point across about something and people realize how right I am.
Why do people hate being wrong? Why can't they accept the correction? Do they feel stupid or what? Or do they not like the fact they realized we are smarter than they thought?
Heck even people get mad at the questions I ask because I had stated something right.
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Sir_Beefy
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| Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 11:24 pm Post subject: |
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| People don't like to be wrong, because it makes them look weak and inadequate, if only in their mind. Some people are just always right, no matter what. We have all met someone who is always right, and is never wrong. My mother is that way. My psychiatrist says his mother was like that too. Looks like your mother is like that too. |
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sim
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| Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 11:24 pm Post subject: |
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| Haha. In addition to that, people also apparently get offended when you don't 'know everything', despite not having implied that you do - unless having revealed some knowledge concerning the subject means by strange and unknown proxy that you are an expert? wtf |
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Ancalagon
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People are like that. They should be able to take correction without it being a big deal, but they can't.
I've taken to trying to put things in as soft and mild a form as possible. Just sort of position things in such a way that they figure out they're wrong or something. They'll be trying to do something on a computer, and I'll just let them flail for a minute, and if they don't figure it out by themselves, say 'maybe you could try X?' as if I didn't know absolutely for a fact that that's the right thing and that they should have done it in the first place.
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pakled
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| Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 11:52 pm Post subject: |
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well, I can't stand to be corrected... I feel like a complete idiot every time it happens...
just have to be careful with it; the way you correct someone can be a big part of it. |
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slowmutant
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| Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 11:56 pm Post subject: |
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| The dynamics of Pride and Humility are to be understood before you can comprehend why people do not want to be wrong. It's a fundamental of human nature. Since we're on the subject SG, do you hate to be corrected, or are you never wrong? |
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Spokane_Girl
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I can be wrong too. If I am not sure I am right, I say so. I say "I think...." "I heard..."
My ex did say I always have to be right. We'll, I do research. If I am not sure about something, I always say "I think."
Yes I hate to be corrected when someone is a jerk as they do it instead of doing it in a nice way.
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Mw99
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| Posted: Sun Jun 15, 2008 12:33 am Post subject: |
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| I like to be wrong about certain things. |
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Warsie
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| Posted: Sun Jun 15, 2008 2:15 am Post subject: |
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Often people are dicks in how they show the person is 'wrong'.
And losing face, respect, etc by being shown wrong.
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slowmutant
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| Posted: Sun Jun 15, 2008 10:36 am Post subject: |
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Being wrong can mean a loss of face. Someone can make a fool of you in public by correcting you.
But if you cease to have opinions, you'll never be wrong about anything. |
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VMSnith
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Why don't people like to be wrong?
*Note : NT- bashing alert. Statements unabashedly derisive of neurotypical culture follow : *
The NT's tribal vocbulary is based on aggression and fear. When they raise their young, they correct mistakes through aggressive domination,
"that is NOT how you put your toys away, now you march yourself up there and do it correctly."
As adults, intelligence is seen as an instrument to power, and higher tribal ranking. In the US, people actually put their university affiliations on stickers on their cars. All the following are insults meant to reduce a person in tribal stature : idiot, moron, retard, etc, etc. People join in tribal 'classes' and try to best each other in 'grades' until they attain their tribal 'degree' which they carry with them afterward (when they stop learning, of course.)
The Aspie mind usually has incomparable advantages in memory, language, imagination and abstraction. The NT's experience this as diminishing their tribal stature, especially where the Aspie seems to have circumvented the tribal educational system.
When it's a female Aspie and a male NT, it is much worse. NT's are always competing, and deeply fear to lose.
It's like the old joke. "People who think they know everything are very irritating to those of us who actually do." |
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CockneyRebel
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| Posted: Sun Jun 15, 2008 2:14 pm Post subject: |
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The reason that people don't like to be wrong, is because society thrives on competition. I also think that people are threatened by disabled people who know more than they do.
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slowmutant
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| Posted: Sun Jun 15, 2008 10:24 pm Post subject: |
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| I know I would be. My self-esteem is pretty shaky. |
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Warsie
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| Posted: Sun Jun 15, 2008 10:37 pm Post subject: |
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| VMSnith wrote: | | "that is NOT how you put your toys away, now you march yourself up there and do it correctly." |
hehehe. yeah I remember that crap.
| Quote: | | The Aspie mind usually has incomparable advantages in memory, language, imagination and abstraction. |
when they are focused and skilled/obsessed over a certain subject, yes. It's a sort of intense specialization
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slowmutant
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If your parents had no authority over you as a child, if no one had any authority over you as a child, what would have ensured your survival? Think about that one. Can we have any kind of human society without authority? Without hierarchy?
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