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aspergian_mutant
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 Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 2:18 am Post subject: Got a Job for ya! |
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Here's Home Girls Blog
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I would like you to take like 5 minutes and goto this blog,
You can even do this anonymously if you like.
read the last posting, then post your own comments on it.
I am not able to do this, I am restrained from contacting her directly,
nor can I tell you what to post as a third party.
Now she would have not posted the article you will see if she did not agree with it.
The Subjects are:
Animi/cartoons/movies/games/drugs,
if there is any kind of violence in them, even if its the good guy doing his thing protecting the innocent, it rots the brains of the children and people watching/playing them with addiction and turns them violent as well.
This ok?
Kewl, thanks to those who actually go and look into this and voice your own opinions.
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IdahoRose
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| Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 2:21 am Post subject: |
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She needs to realize that you can't escape violence in the media no matter how hard you try. Unless you want to be bound to a life of watching shows aimed at preschoolers, that is.
I'm not going to comment her blog, though, because I don't want her to get all pissed at me. Can't stand Internet drama. |
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aspergian_mutant
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| Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 2:49 am Post subject: |
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| IdahoRose wrote: | | She needs to realize that you can't escape violence in the media no matter how hard you try. Unless you want to be bound to a life of watching shows aimed at preschoolers, that is.. |
She does not let her children watch TV past preschool children's shows (if even that), she hides them from the world hoping that keeping them naive will benefit them more then harm them.
| IdahoRose wrote: |
I'm not going to comment her blog, though, because I don't want her to get all pissed at me. Can't stand Internet drama. |
You can always post anonymously.
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EvilKimEvil
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Joined: Sep 27, 2007
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Location: CA
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| Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 2:54 am Post subject: |
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| aspergian_mutant wrote: | | IdahoRose wrote: | | She needs to realize that you can't escape violence in the media no matter how hard you try. Unless you want to be bound to a life of watching shows aimed at preschoolers, that is.. |
She does not let her children watch TV past children's shows, she hides them from the world hoping that keeping them naive will benefit them more then harm them. |
My parents did that, but they also exposed me to plenty of family violence. So I learned to fear family members and believe the "outside world" was a safer place than my own home, which it was, in some respects.
My concern, based on my own experience, is that parents who are controlling enough to "shelter" their children to that extreme may also be controlling enough to abuse their children, not only verbally/psychologically, but also physically, and who knows how else.
To be taught that your family is dangerous and the rest of the world is harmless is a pretty backwards message for a young child, and it can take a good bit of adulthood to wear off. |
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aspergian_mutant
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| Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 3:14 am Post subject: |
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Well, err,
She is also trying to do this with our child,
and this is some of the reason she wants to keep trying to take him from me,
I hardly watch movies anymore (I kinda got used to doing without while I was with her)
but I do have over 200 movies, and over 20 children's movies that I do let my child watch,
and I do love watching the news, I hardly ever play games anymore but I do have a rather
large collection of those as well.
but I do not and will not try and keep my child naive to the real world,
I think teaching him how to understand and properly view the world is better then hiding it from him,
otherwise someday he will have to deal with and live in it without really understanding it.
and she gets her own oldest child video games (pocket Nintendo), while we was a couple she got pissy at me for
playing them yet she done so her self, also, her children will resent her as being so controlling when they are
not allowed to do and enjoy the same things that other children do as a social norm.
She is ranking video games right up there with drugs and alcohol and basically calling them
incurable once addicted too them.
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aspergian_mutant
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| Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 10:06 am Post subject: |
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Personally:
She created the no-contact thing just to not be reasoned with about our child while she tried to take full custody,
she kept it going basically forever through the custody papers, this creates an anxiety's that she will never stop trying.
she lied to get the restraining order in the first place, but once I pointed it out the judge let it stand because of the conflict it already started.
she is highly hypocritical and unreasonable with me, when our child loves and wants and needs us both in his life,
and her hiding from dealing with issues will never solve anything, our child needs us to get along and get our
heads out of our ass's about personal hate issues, she will never listen to my opinions but of others she may debate you.
I do not need to voice my opinion too her when I know others would agree with me on some things,
so I am just hoping that some of you would enjoy a good debate and have at it, perhaps it will soften her up
and she eventually become more reasonable with me if she could see how negative she really is being.
in life negativity, especially dealing with children, makes things worse not better, especially for the child,
and her not wanting to talk with me about issues dealing with our child is making things worse for both me and her
and our child yet she continues to do so anyways out of hate and spite.
I honestly do not know how to reach her, she is vary closed minded once she sets her mind to something,
but I do know if that I actually ever could get her to reasonably debate me over our issues that many things could and would be resolved to both our satisfactions, especially if there was others involved like people here on this forum whom has nothing to gain out of it, that way we both can gain support of our opinions and people help us understand where each other are coming from dealing with misunderstandings and communications.
You see, I am the type of person that would prefer working out issues with people and getting things resolved and over with,
instead of siting and forever brewing in negativity getting nothing resolved, having my own way is not as important as doing things the right way, the same goes for many issues, if done the right way they do not necessarily have to be revisited,
like our custody agreement, its going to have to someday be revisited, and we will end up having to do so over and over again unless we actually took the time to debate and resolve many issues and come to agreements and understandings, many times working through conflict is better then stringing things out making them last forever, and if we only done this in court or mediation then the issues of making face for others comes into play instead of complete and true honesty between both party's, and issues do need to learn to be resolved peaceably out of court otherwise we are going to end up going back to court needlessly over and over again, I feel as our child's loving parents we at least own him that much, to be able to get along good enough to resolve our own issues together out of court, or at least try to before having to goto court to resolve them.
where she is the opposite, she had rather brew on the issues and hide her head in the sand forever thinking and feeling her way is the only right way and everyone else is wrong, she runs from her issues instead of facing them in a positive manner.
then she claims otherwise to other people, where her actual actions (or lack of them) tells the truth of her.
I am not saying I am perfect, hell I am blind to many of my own issues I am sure.
if anything as long as I am kept in the dark by lack of reasonable communications my imagination runs wild with assumptions trying to reasonably make since of it all sometimes even to the point of distortion by reaching for far reaching possibilities and explanations, becoming pre-judgemental without meaning too, but most of the time I find my first assumptions and instincts are the right ones to begin with.
If it was not for our child I would not give a damn and just move on, but just like she is with me, I am stuck with her like it or not, and if I must be stuck with her then I had much rather resolve the issues, where her way of resolving them is a big negative of just taking the child/issues resolved, and she sees my wanting to resolve the issues as me being afraid and a weakness to be ignored if not exploited, to her it means I am afraid of losing when its not about win or lose and its our child who is losing when he wants and needs both of us and for us both to get along.
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aspergian_mutant
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| Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 10:53 am Post subject: |
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Oh what the hell, many times I am wrong and view things in the wrong light when I mean well.
so your probably seeing my abstract thinking and whining in one way that I at this time do not see,
so I am probably being improper again and just ignored, so I probably shouldn't even bother.
many times I start a thread and wish I could just delete it...............
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt69022.html
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aspergian_mutant
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| Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 2:34 pm Post subject: |
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Today, within the last few hours,
a large part of me was overwhelmed with the feeling of just giving up on reasoning with my child's mother,
I don't want to have to always have anxiety's over issues concerning our child and custody,
I had much rather we come to some agreements that we BOTH can be happy with and live up too so we can at long last find resolution and peace and get on with our lives without having to go back and continually fight things out in court.
to be reasonable and willing parents of and for our child without all the conflict that our child will see and live with as he grows.
I keep hoping she will come around for our child's sake, but I am finely starting to see and realize this is never going to happen,
so I may as well give up on her, and knuckle down for the long miserable haul of dealing with her in court actions and that of our child having to live with all this that he does not and should not have to live with and deal with, any and all children would love to see their parents at least get along for their sake, but its not going to happen here, she does not love or care enough about our child to do this, she had rather live in anxiety and negativity and self righteousness and hate.
I told her when this all started that this would only make bitter resentments, she would not listen, I do not think she can see or realizes that this also apply's to our child as he grows up. to do this to me or us is one thing, but our child? so sad...
but yes, I do believe I have just finely found it in my self to give up on her.
It was not for me so much that I wanted and tried so hard, it was also for our child, and us as his parents and human beings.
I am sorry my son, I can not control the thoughts and actions and feelings of others, alls I can do is try and reason things out, and apparently even in this I have failed because your mother does not care to be reasoned with even for your sake,
she may think and claim its for you, but in truth its not, its her own foolish pride and ego and hate and arrogance getting in the way.
But I can not do this anymore, I have to let go, perhaps in doing so many of my anxiety's will drift away, and keep expecting the worst of her, to plan and prepare for it and hope it never comes to pass, and as for her boyfriends own naivety and arrogance and negativity and ignorance, he keeps pissing me off, but if I remind my self to look at him for what he really is and just start ignoring him and marking it up to him being an unreasonable blind ignorant fool and not worthy of my time or energy, then perhaps he wont be such a bother to me, he is just another negative person in a world full of them, just like her, a waste of my energy thought and time.
They are not worthy of controlling my thoughts and mind and feelings with their negativity, I am better then that,
and I need to teach my child the same when dealing with such negative people in his life, I want to teach him to live and do things the right way and be positive in and about his life, I can not do this if I am stuck in those same ruts like his mother is.
Its time for me to let just go and get on with our lives as best we can.
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rekoil
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| Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 2:43 pm Post subject: |
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| It could be that the less you try to force it to happen the better chance you have in actually getting through to her. Wise decision, and good luck. |
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Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
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| Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 11:02 pm Post subject: |
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Some of the things you said struck a nerve with me.
By what I can tell you had your bouts with alcohol same as I have.
I have been sober for quite some years now.
Although her post was for the most part about video games and the reports she read on them,
It did touch me how condescending and final she sounded about people that had dealt with addictions & such issues in their lives.
So I done as you asked and posted my own opinion.
It seems I am the only one that had posted.
I think Rekoil is right, butting heads with her trying to get her to be realistic logical and reasonable will only lead to more problems and issues, she is stuck, the only hope you have is to just leave her alone and prove her wrong about you by moving on with your own life and doing right.
Even if she never comes around, as long as you do what is right you will hold your grounds and perhaps even gain more custody in the end then you bargained for, thats what happened to me, just remember to try and remain positive and willing.
By what I seen of other earlier comments on her blog that you have apparently made you had done all you can to reason with her.
Her apparent depressions anxieties and defensiveness have left a major negative gash in her and her life.
Her way of thinking and looking at the world is all askew and negative and single minded, she wont listen or change.
If she is being that cold and closed minded then ready your self, your right, your fight I am sorry to say has only just begun.
A thousand people could tell her how negative she is being dealing with you and the issues you both share and she would still never listen, and this in the end may benefit you and your child by gaining you even more custody.
After all, if one of you have to end up with primary custody it may as well be you, the more willing and positive parent.
Accept this and move on. |
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aspergian_mutant
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| Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 11:27 pm Post subject: |
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Than you 1.
Thank you both and all who are supportive of me.
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IdahoRose
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| Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 2:40 am Post subject: |
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| Oh... So you know this lady personally? And you had a kid with her? Okay, now I'm definitely not getting involved. Y'know, WP is not your personal army. |
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