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Zara
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 Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 8:11 pm Post subject: Confused |
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Ok, I'm getting totally confused about this situation with this girl I'm seeing.
We had a date last month, it seemed to go well and we agreed to do something again sometime.
So, I know our schedules have been hectic the past couple weeks with little free time, I've had to still remind her about our next get together.
So this week, we have time on multiple days. I've let her know about this last week and so far I have not been able to get a straight answer. She wanted some time to see what she was doing that week so I let her have time to think about. The best time for us to do anything is Wednesday and that is quickly approaching. I have been trying to get in touch with her all day and still no reply from her.
I still cannot figure out if she actually likes me or not. She still hugs me of her own doing when we meet and all, but there are times I get the impression she avoids me. We can a fun conversation in person but she hardly says anything to me on the phone or in txt.
Now I'm getting to the point now where I need some answers, because this is driving me nuts. I would like to talk with her in person about these things, but she is not giving me a chance to do so. Of course I see her at work, but I don't want to talk about these things at work with her.
I've messaged her to call me back more than an hour ago and I'm still waiting. ... and just left a message again.
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| Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 9:41 pm Post subject: |
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I deleted my first response because I don't think it conveyed the point I was trying to make.
If you have done everything to contact her and she does nothing then it might be time to back off a little and see what she does. From my experience, barring some real scheduling issues (work, travel or something) then people will make time for each other if they are interested.
Give her the ball, maybe leave a message saying you would like to go out again and to call to let you know. Then see what she does. That will be a good indicator of what she is thinking. It sounds like you may be putting too much effort into trying to figure out what she is thinking when she isn't telling you anything. I would go on and live my life like normal and if she responds then all the better. |
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imipak
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| Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 11:49 pm Post subject: |
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Some people play "hard to get", which can get royally confusing to anyone on the aspie/autistic spectrum. It didn't have that feel to it. Some people get overloaded easily, but unless they have the communications skills, they'll come across as stonewalling. I'll give that a 50% maybe. Other people don't know what they want, get confused, and want someone else to tell them what it is they want. I'll also give that a maybe, but only a 20% maybe. Then there's 20% for her feeling like she's somehow not worthy of your attention. Giving more attention won't fix that, and may make the unworthiness feeling worse. That leaves 5% not knowing the schedule nearly as well as she's portrayed, and 5% other/sundry.
I'll therefore second backing off a little, but if that doesn't work, mark a piece of paper into segments matching the percentages I've outlined and pin it to a dartboard. Throw three darts without aiming. One of the segments hit is the reason. Either that, or it's one of the segments not hit. Either way, by distracting your concious mind for a brief moment, your subconcious can sneak in and give you the answer. |
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Zara
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| Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 5:17 pm Post subject: |
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Ok...
She's been sick and sleeping.
I haven't heard from since Saturday since I wouldn't have known. I guess I should have checked up on her Sunday...
So, no, I guess we're not doing anything Wednesday now.
She did realize that it seemed like she was blowing me off but said things are just too busy right now. But she does still want to get together again.
I guess I could just give her some more space... let her be some more.
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pineapple
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| Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 9:56 pm Post subject: |
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If you have done everything to contact her and she does nothing then it might be time to back off a little and see what she does. From my experience, barring some real scheduling issues (work, travel or something) then people will make time for each other if they are interested.
Give her the ball, maybe leave a message saying you would like to go out again and to call to let you know. Then see what she does. That will be a good indicator of what she is thinking. It sounds like you may be putting too much effort into trying to figure out what she is thinking when she isn't telling you anything. I would go on and live my life like normal and if she responds then all the better. |
Agreed. I couldn't say it better.
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| coded wrote: | I deleted my first response because I don't think it conveyed the point I was trying to make.
If you have done everything to contact her and she does nothing then it might be time to back off a little and see what she does. From my experience, barring some real scheduling issues (work, travel or something) then people will make time for each other if they are interested.
Give her the ball, maybe leave a message saying you would like to go out again and to call to let you know. Then see what she does. That will be a good indicator of what she is thinking. It sounds like you may be putting too much effort into trying to figure out what she is thinking when she isn't telling you anything. I would go on and live my life like normal and if she responds then all the better. |
This is frequently my experience.
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