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grinningcat
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 Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 7:06 pm Post subject: Go to the movies on your own? |
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NTs look at me with great horror when I tell them I go to the movie theatre by myself. I figure it isn't "supposed" to be a social event anyway, everyone just sits in a big darkened room eating and staring forwards.  Granted, I go on a matinee time and don't go see the movie the first week its out, otherwise I have to deal with crowds of people, but what is wrong with seeing a movie by yourself, I wonder?
I went to Indiana Jones today (kind of milk toast, sigh, lots of in jokes, but there are just some movies one has to see in theatres). I was the first one there, and I was wondering if they were going to show the movie just for me. Four other people did eventually show up, two groups of two, and they basically huddled nearly together on the right side of the theatre. I had the whole left side to myself. It was nice, I could hear the movie, not other people eating/crackling/commenting, etc. My only regret is that I couldn't turn the volume down a titch, sigh.
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j2xj2x
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Wow, sounds great.
I'll never really understand the concept of going to a cinema to meet new people for social activity.
I was watching a movie once, and apparently; my friends (who I wasn't sitting with because I wanted my own special seat, to put my legs up on the other seat too!!) told me this; some girls were giggling and looking at me. My friends were telling me to go for it, yet I hadn't even caught sight of the girls, and I was too busy watching the movie, the whole time, to notice. How could something divert my attention from a movie on a massive screen with high volume, in a dark room?
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I've been told that the new Indiana jones movie is good, although not as good, and it is more like a group of loosely tied together sketches. |
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sluice
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I have done this a few times fairly recently. The surround sound is a bit much. I don't think people really notice someone alone. I think it is more paranoia than anything. I know I feel that way too. I'd suggest going to the matinee. It is less about dating and
socializing at that time. It is easier to sneak your own food and stuff in at that time too.  |
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CockneyRebel
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| Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 7:34 pm Post subject: |
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I did that, once in the summer of 1997, to see Batman. There was a group of kids sitting behind me, who were making Austin Powers cat-calls. Yes, I know that I had to be pathetic enough to go to the theatre, dressed in a bright green suit and a laced cravat. I didn't have any fashion sense, back than. I've kept laughing it off, and when everyone got out, I've asked those kids, "That was a groovy movie, wasn't it?" making a joke about how scared those kids were of me, because I was different.
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sinsboldly
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| Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 7:51 pm Post subject: |
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I go to matinees, I take my foam earplugs and it takes the edge off the sound pretty well. I sit by myself and laugh in the wrong places mostly by myself.
The biggest problem is when someone comes in late and SITS RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME when there are dozens of other seats all around. I asked one guy once why and he said 'so you wouldn't be alone!' and I thought he was nuts. of course, I didn't know any better to just move.
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LabPet
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| Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 10:36 pm Post subject: |
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I do. If I want to see a movie, I go. Alone. I don't like or watch TV, but I like an occasional movie.
I attended an opera (fairly recently) alone.
Sometimes, for a very rare treat (expensive), I go out to dinner. Alone.
Maybe this looks strange (?), but I do. If I want to go somewhere, anywhere - I do!
I take myself on dates. I'm very good company, just ask me.
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Shelby
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| Oh I'm the opposite, I don't like to do anything like that alone because I feel like I'm alone in the crowd and I need "protection" from the strangers. But I have gone to the movies alone and enjoyed it. |
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MishLuvsHer2Boys
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| I never go to movies or many places by myself... anxiety just gets too much at times. |
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Anemone
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| sinsboldly wrote: | | The biggest problem is when someone comes in late and SITS RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME when there are dozens of other seats all around. I asked one guy once why and he said 'so you wouldn't be alone!' and I thought he was nuts |
That is strange. Maybe HE was the one who didn't want to be alone. But right in front of you? Blocking your view? To me that's just rude.
Right behind you is almost as bad. The theatre is practically empty, people. Go breathe down somone else's neck (and jiggle the back of their chair, and talk right behind them, making them jump out of their skin). Grrrr.
I always go to movies on my own these days (no one to go with) and I always go to matinees (cheaper, less crowded). I've gone to teen chick flicks where there are a bunch of us solitary women sitting by ourselves in the dark. I'm assuming they're not all autistic too, and that there are plenty of other people who like to go on their own. Depends on the movie, of course. |
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ducasse
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| Years ago when I was unemployed there was nothing I liked better to going to movies in the afternoon, sitting in a practically empty theatre... except sometimes I'd get fidgetty thinking, 'is the projectionist just sitting up there looking at me?' |
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silly_rabbi
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Absolutely nothing wrong with doing things on one's own. I think of all the positives of going to events/dinner/theatre on my own:
-not having to talk to someone constantly
-not having to stay somewhere if I don't want to
-not having someone be touchy-feely (esp. in movies.)
-being able to go to what I want to
-being able to be myself and not worry if the other person thinks I'm idiot
-etc, etc.
Plus going to matinee shows lets me avoid all the noisy/making-out teenagers at the theatre. And no one tall sits right in front of me!
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ouinon
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I have always preferred going to the cinema alone.
That way I can:
buy all the nibbles/snacks I want to without feeling embarrassed,  
choose my seat to within a millimetre, ( I tend to be near the front of the line, early, because I hate to be too close, too far to the side, too close to other people, etc etc me an aspie, never! ),
watch without thinking about what anyone else's reactions to it might be,
eat snacks without having to organise sharing,
don't risk anyone asking me stupid questions about what's going on, or making comments,
stay as long as I like at the end savouring the after effect,
leave in a daze of satisfaction without having to engage in idle chatter and lose it all, or in blank frustrated disappointed dissatisfaction and not feel it sticking to the person I'm with as a result.
and choose when and where I go, etc.
But haven't been for a while. I have lived in France the last 10 years, and since moved away from a town which had an arts cinema putting on films in their original english language version I have preferrred to watch DVD's, which got invented just in time for me, with their integral language options.
But I love the whole solitary cinema going experience.
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SabbraCadabra
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| Posted: Sun Jun 15, 2008 2:30 pm Post subject: |
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I'm too afraid to go to a movie by myself
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Greentea
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The only time I ventured to a movie alone, I met 2 acquaintances who made me feel like hell for being alone. I go to the movies alone an awful lot, but only at the cinematheque. Many people go there alone. It's lovely. You wouldn't catch me dead in a mainstream cinema alone or with someone else, anyway.
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pi_woman
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| Anemone wrote: | | sinsboldly wrote: | | The biggest problem is when someone comes in late and SITS RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME when there are dozens of other seats all around. I asked one guy once why and he said 'so you wouldn't be alone!' and I thought he was nuts |
Right behind you is almost as bad. The theatre is practically empty, people. Go breathe down somone else's neck (and jiggle the back of their chair, and talk right behind them, making them jump out of their skin). Grrrr. |
These are the main reasons I never see movies in theaters anymore. I wait for them to come out on DVD. The worst part of someone sitting too near you just when the movie starts is when the theater is just crowded enough that there's no longer any quiet area to move to.
I've had similar experiences in restaurants. I like to read when I eat, so I always choose the most quiet, distant table (asking the hostess specially when there is a hostess). But all too soon someone comes over and sits near me, and proceeds to have a conversation as loud and uncensored as they would have at home. Or worse, brings a shrieking toddler. I can understand a hostess seating people together for the waitstaff's convenience, but there's just no excuse for it in a fast food place. It's narrow-minded (or mindless) "herding" in people who just don't "get it" that not everyone is as codependent as they are. |
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