Observations of the BS in the human kingdom

catspurr · Phoenix Joined: Jan 16, 2008 Posts: 781

This is all what I've been gathering thus far.

You get better treatment if you are associated with someone important. People will flatter you and refrain from making snarky remarks. Not sure what they are really thinking or why suddenly people change their rude behavior once it is found out you are associated to someone "important".

Keep it short. People don't really care about alot of the things you care about. Having said that, I still can't keep things short.

People think you are weak if you can't play their game. The game is a dishonest BS game.

The difference between you and another person could be that you admit your faults maybe because other people have constantly came out to correct your mistakes so it gets stuck into your head meanwhile the other person will never admit their mistakes. If you back down, you are considered weak.

Honesty is no longer the best policy.

People always say stuff like "Well I don't encourage you give children drugs or anything but maybe you should think about it?" Insert other double speak. This is learned. It's apart of the no responsibility for your words or actions routine. Nothing is your fault and no penalties and no lesson learned. It's not that the person is trying to seem like a liar, the person just doesn't know how to be blunt and may get scolded for not being tip toey enough on the issues.

Non blunt approach. Cannot handle a blunt truth. If you give a blunt unemotional response, the other person resents you and will refuse to even listen to what you have to say even if it is insightful.

Fails to understand that you should give everyone including those who don't show the correct emotions the same emotional respect. Must have emotional cues or the person has no feelings. A kind of blind area and lack of common courtesy.

If someone is sucking up to you, it's not because they are being nice because they are nice...it's because there is something you could do for them. Their true colors will show. When the person offers several different practical uses out of you and you decline, the person isn't as enthused anymore. Don't let that bother you too much.

Teamwork with work enviroments is not about how helpful you are. It's about how much you fit in.

Feel like you've got nobody on your side? Time to meet more positive people. If these people are people you must be around, you're going to have to step it up a notch on the inside because those people want to see you fail and suffer. It's a really sad state of affairs when there are people you should be able to trust that you really can't. Ever feel overly forgiving? I do. I am feisty but still overly forgiving. Well, it's either overly or underly. Time to find the middle ground that has been out of focus for a long time. What is the middle area? Feels like that episode of South Park where the underwear stealing gnomes want to profit off of underwear and know plan A, shrug at plan B, and know the end result which is plan C.

When people say, "You've got too much time on your hands" After you have come up with something original or new or a new idea...the person is just not on the same page as you and cannot come up with such ideas in a short amount of time. It's the opt out saying. If you have difficulty saying something back swiftly then say this "Oh really...and how is your time spent?"

I've learned the best answer to those with snarky remarks is a question. I don't like not responding back on time and it hits later. Make a list of common phrases. You can do this because it's a pattern. You don't hear much of anything that will catch off guard. For example, how long have people been saying "What's up" now?

So memorize the comeback phrases and questions. Almost as if it were a tech support solution tree. If person says this...you say that. If the person does actually respond to your question, come up with a common sentence to memorize that you will say back. Something like (if you want to go along with rude context) "Wow, you are smarter than I thought." If you want a truce context say "It's pleasantly surprising when someone takes the time to answer questions." or if you want it to have a more emotional bonding truce effect (some people really do need an emotion to be there or an implication with words) "I'm pleasantly surprised with your response"

Other people can make you feel like you are in a damned if you do and damned if you don't scenerio when speaking. Everything you say can and will be held against you with some people. Let's say you tell someone you were diagnosed with autism after having a conversation. Then the person will make you feel foolish by reciting a bunch of ignorance found commonly in magazines and on the tv. If you don't tell the person but they find out later that your stimming was because you were on the spectrum, they will blame you for not telling.

When it comes to ignorance of the spectrum, keep in mind that unless one of your interests is studying all different types of psychological differences, ailments, disorders then chances are you probably don't know everything about someone else that has a rare syndrome or one you haven't studied.

Some people after making such comments may go do research or may not.

Anyways, this was long....at least it feels that way.

This is just 0.5 percent of observations of the BS in the human kingdom.