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WushuTricks
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 Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 5:04 pm Post subject: Life going down the tubes |
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| Me and my brother got into an argument. Near the end he started using statements that really piss me off such as "get a life" or "get some friends". I've only had a couple of friends in my life and and even they didnt respect me. I have been teased and ridiculed every single week of my life and have never even been in a relationship or friendship with a girl. I haven't even hugged one before! He knows about my problem and he continued to use them so I pushed him and he tried to punch me. Because I know how to fight, I countered his punch and broke his jaw pretty badly. He's now in the hospital in pretty serious condition, and I don't feel sorry at all. Plus I'm not going to see him or ever speak to him again. My parents are furious and I'm most likely going to be kicked out of the house. And since I'm 17 there's a possibility of being charged with assault. So I stole the laptop and packed my most important things. I have no way to pay for school, I have no friends to stay with, my relatives won't let me bunk at their houses, and I don't know what my councellors are going to do since my parents aren't going to pay anything for me at all. I've been searching for a job for over 7 months even before this happened and dropped off serveral applications at each location. I have never had a call back or an interview at least once from one of the places. I have no idea what I want to do as a living and my math and physics marks are suffering. I wanted to be an electrical engineer or somethin like that but you need math and physics so that's out of the question. I am running out of time before I'm kicked out and they find out what I stole. I don't care what kind of trouble I get into now because all I want to do is forget about everything in my life that ever happened. |
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Followthereaper90
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 7:37 pm Post subject: |
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well basically u just did self defence and hmm i think u should talk to parents after u calm down they should be ok coz no matter what they still are your parents
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Followthereaper90
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 7:38 pm Post subject: |
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oh and u should post this in generall discussion too to get fast answers
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Peko
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I honestly am not that sure how to help you out.  But since you said that you are probably going to be kicked out of your house and you said you have no friends or relatives to take you in (I think thats what you said sorry if I am wrong)   I would try to find a shelter such as a homeless shelter near where you live. I would ask relatives and friends for help anyway if you do get kicked out! Try to cause as little trouble as possible at home to delay being kicked out. If you do apologize though (and at least sound like you mean it you may have nothing to worry about). I know that sounds difficult I can't act either. But I believe you need an address in order to have a job so you need to find somewhere to stay. Also you should get a cellphone if possible (do not steal one b/c I think they can be traced). The cellphone willl allow your boss to contact you once you get a job. For school you will have to go to the public school in your area where your parents live or where the shelter is. Hopefully, you can get your grades back up so you can get scholarships. Also, if you do get kicked out you may have an easier time to get financial aide if/when you apply for it. I have no idea what you should do about the laptop. (if you partially paid for it as in its yours and your brothers/parents it might not be stealing but not sure). I am sorry that I can't really help you as I am 17 and do not know where you are so I couldn't find you if I wanted too! All I can say is good luck and be careful! |
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jawbrodt
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You should post your location,in your profile, so maybe you'll find someone nearby who can help you. 
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MR_BOGAN
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:10 pm Post subject: |
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Ok first you need to do is return the laptop that you stole and anything else.
Also explain to you parents why you got into a fight with your brother, explain the situation. Expect them to angry at you for a start because you put your brother in hospital, so don't get into any arguments with them. DON'T MAKE THE SITUATION ANY WORSE..
They probably won't listen to you, but give things some time and things will get better.
Are you sure you are not blowing things out of proportion, I'd just keep your head down and your situation may calm down after a while. Seriously stay with you parents if you can. |
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Followthereaper90
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:17 pm Post subject: |
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yes seriously stay if u can! if not u could say area where u live so we can help out
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Zeno
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We can all understand what it is like to be pushed to the limit and beyond. Most of us have been used by others who understand our weakness and know which buttons to push to get what they want. By the time we are in our late teens, many of us are filled with rage and hatred for the people who have tormented us. And the bullies are not limited to strangers, they are often family members in whom we are expected to trust; which makes the abuse even more painful and the resolution of the conflict that much more difficult. But at times like these, it is important to think and act in your self interest. What do you need to do to get through this? Take a step back and ask yourself what is the least bad option available.
Apologizing? Taking the heat in the hope that you will not be kicked out and you might get enough of a reprieve to finish your education so that it becomes possible for you to move on to a more independent setting. You are 17 and in just a few more months you could be away at college where you will never have to meet or talk to these people again. Even if the apology does not work and in their rage you end up getting thrown out, it is at least worth a try.
There are shelters where you can seek refuge. Think very carefully about what you need and do not need and prepare in advance quickly for the possibility that you might be made homeless. Taking care of essentials like warm clothing, personal hygiene and so on is far more important now than landing a job. The most important question now is to settle where you will stay. Even if you do decide that living on the streets is what you believe to be best, you want to make sure that you have enough equipment to help you get through the days and nights with some semblance of comfort and decency.
Once you have decided on how you will stay, the next thing to do is to think about finishing your education. Chances are you probably already know enough to make it through to college. What you need at this point is to settle your mind and focus on getting the paperwork done. Do not worry about getting into specific programs at this point. You can always transfer to the program that you want at a later date.
Ditching school and getting a job is less optimal but it might be something that you have to do. And it would be okay to forgo your education for a little while just so that you can get the economic basis to make things happen. Dropping resumes is useful but it might be better to scan the help wanted ads and target the employers who are most likely to give you a job. Chances are that it will not be a great job but it will be a way to make a living.
The most important thing you can do in this situation is to think. Try your best to put aside the bad feelings and just consider as coldly as you can the circumstances. If it helps, work though your options on this board. There will be people here who are willing to listen and help you figure out what is best for you. |
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stochastic
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I can relate, I used to fight (not physically) with my sister and I was kicked out when I was 17, but fortunately I was able to stay with a friend and after a month I got a job and got a place to stay.
My sister would always lie about what happened, which is why I got kicked out. If I were you I would talk to your parents and not argue or get angry, but just try and come to an understanding.
I would also not steal the laptop, you can always use internet at the library if you get kicked out but you should never steal from your family.
Keep in touch with WP and let us know what happens, we will do our best to give you advice and help however we can. |
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WushuTricks
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| Thanks for the understanding guys. I think I'll have to find a shelter and hang out at cyber cafes so I can use the laptop to look for jobs or an apartment once I can afford it. Nobody really used the computer anyways so I guess they won't miss it. It also has some very important files which I need. It's going to take a long time before I can talk to my parents because they are REALLY angry at the situation not to mention the insurance money the injury will use up. |
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WushuTricks
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| Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 5:21 am Post subject: |
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| Sorry for the double post but I just found out my older cousin who's in his 20's will let me stay at his house untill I can find a job! Once the heat dies down I can start apologizing but it will take along time before I will take to my brother. |
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Followthereaper90
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| Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 5:25 am Post subject: |
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sounds kinda great after heat sets down its great to do like this just remember to do skool so u graduate 
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Followthereaper90
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| Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 5:28 am Post subject: |
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also getting a job is good idea
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WushuTricks
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| Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 5:33 am Post subject: |
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| I don't have grade 12 untill after the summer so I'll have to really talk them into paying for the last year. I think they kind of have to by law since I'm not 18 yet. |
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| Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 11:06 am Post subject: |
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Hang in there man. This could be a really good move for you. I left home when I was 18 and never looked back.
Make sure you keep the peace at your cousin's place and help out with anything you can while you're there. Take whatever job you can get but make sure you can still focus on school.
It may take years to get past the events that led to this, and it may never really go away, but when it's all said and done you're responsible for your own success. Go forth and kick ass.
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