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Jollygood
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 Posted: Thu Jun 26, 2008 5:36 am Post subject: Both parents with aspergers |
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| Does anyone have both parents with aspergers/autism? I do:I think its probably not that uncommon. It is hard to have no adult with social sense in your family: and you feel like you are betraying your parents to talk to others about social issues(eg, uncles and aunts). |
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Rainbow-Squirrel
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No, my mum is definitely an Aspie, my father instead is WAY too much NT...maybe I would have benefited from him being an Aspie...
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Jollygood
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| Posted: Thu Jun 26, 2008 6:18 am Post subject: parents |
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| Yes: but it is probably only helpful if the aspie parent has some insight (whether or not they have a label) and is able to do some intellectual social analysis: if they have no ideas about these things its hard. They don't get along in the usual way spouses do: they have a routine, and talk about concrete issues (money, the roof needs fixing) and often don't talk at all: eg. if I tell one something its very unlikely they will tell the other. They also argue a lot, but could not take the stress of separating, and are happy in their own unusual way, I think. |
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mysterious_misfit
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| Posted: Thu Jun 26, 2008 7:55 am Post subject: |
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| I think my mom is HFA. I think my dad may be slightly on the spectrum. All of their kids are Aspie. |
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kaytie
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| Posted: Thu Jun 26, 2008 8:57 am Post subject: |
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i think my dad does have AS plus he is
obviously ADHD which plagued us most
of our childhood. |
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ImMelody
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| Posted: Thu Jun 26, 2008 9:11 am Post subject: |
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| I'm most likely AS, and my husband is ADHD (I think that's considered on the spectrum now, right?) Our kiddos are autism and HFA. So far, for their learning, it seems to have helped having both of us on the spectrum. We don't push them like I see a lot of NT parents do to their ASD kids. We flow with them. |
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cursed_brunette
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I think their is something wrong with my mom but I can't pinpoint what it is.
My gramma probably was AS & my granddad (her husband) was dx'd with "schizophenia" but I don't know that was accurate. He is dead now so we can't find out.
I think just about everyone in my family has some sort of disorder... 
My moms sister (my aunt) was dx'd schizo but who knows. I think all of the drugs they have had her on have messed her up even more, so it is hard to tell I think she actually had severe AS. I know she was Dx'd with Schizo AFTER the Psychiatrist put her on some heavy duty anti depressants that caused her to hear voices. But they changed the med & she didn't hear them anymore, but they still dx'd her as schizo, even though she doesn't and hasn't heard voices except for that one time.... yeek 
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Jollygood
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| Posted: Thu Jun 26, 2008 11:59 pm Post subject: |
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So lots of Aspie families:
Curse brunette, many Aspies were diagnoses with schizophrenia: eg, if they had psychotic depression. The author Janet Frame was later suggested to have AS or autism: she was put in mental hospitals for years with supposed schizophrenia (she did have some psychotic signs at times).
As for ADD being on the spectrum: I know this is commonly said, but I'm not so sure. Surely the key thing in the autism spectrum is social skills: ADD, I think, is another related type of developmental disorder (but maybe all developmental disorders do have some common ground). I feel I have little in common with most people with ADD; they want more action and excitement, i want quiet and peace. |
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I am no expert, but I seriously think that ADD is someplace on the spectrum...either that, or there are alot of people out there who think they have ADD, but actually have AS, or both. I have symptoms of both, but for years I thought I was just a particularly messed up ADDer.
I am not diagnosed, so maybe I am....but I can definitely connect with the autistic spectrum, as there are too many similarities to ignore.
Umm.....neither of my parents are diagnosed. My mom is the most AS-ish between my two parents...she has symptoms of AS and depression...with possibly just a smidge of schizotypal thrown in for good measure. She has only worked sporadicly and does not drive a car (gee! just like me!) She has very strong and narrow obsessions, is an extreme introvert/wallflower...always wears the same baggy dark clothes and whatnot...
My dad, though the more neurotypical of my parents, is not exactly completely neurotypical and there are members of his family who are/were definitely on the spectrum.
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spudnik
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I know I was dx with ADHD when I was 10, and was also labeled with dyslexia when I was 7 or 8, I am sure my dad was ADD and defiantly had some aspie traits, my mom was NT as far as I could tell. I am sure some of my ancestors were somewhere on the spectrum to.
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Bart21
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My dad seems to have some characteristic that seem autistic.
But hes way too social to have asperger for sure.
Mom has no characteristics like that, and has always hammered on me getting out more. |
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cursed_brunette
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| cursed_brunette wrote: | I think their is something wrong with my mom but I can't pinpoint what it is.
My gramma probably was AS & my granddad (her husband) was dx'd with "schizophenia" but I don't know that was accurate. He is dead now so we can't find out.
I think just about everyone in my family has some sort of disorder...
My moms sister (my aunt) was dx'd schizo but who knows. I think all of the drugs they have had her on have messed her up even more, so it is hard to tell I think she actually had severe AS. I know she was Dx'd with Schizo AFTER the Psychiatrist put her on some heavy duty anti depressants that caused her to hear voices. But they changed the med & she didn't hear them anymore, but they still dx'd her as schizo, even though she doesn't and hasn't heard voices except for that one time.... yeek
After thinking about it for awhile.
I think my beloved gramma may have had mild AS and/or OCD or both. I only say this because she chose to be a recluse mostly, she did a lot of Aspie things.
She didn't leave the house much, but when she did she was very obsessed about her appearance, her house was immaculately clean, everythging super organized, everything had to match, cloths on the cloths line outside had to be hung largest to the smallest, she constantly hummed when upset and wrung her hands a lot.
She did occasionally did socialize, however, it caused massive amounts of anxiety. I can remember now her social skills were not the greatest she only talked a little bit about very superficial things... weather, children, a bit about religion... Nothing in depth. And she had 2 friends if those friends weren't present then she didn't go.
She lived as though everything MUST be perfect. Cleaning, cooking her appearance. It is weird because she could function so well because in her day women weren't expected to work outside the home. She was just expected to cook & clean & take care of the kids.
I think I am happiest when I am home. I am a wonderful wife & mother. I love to cook & clean & take care of the kids. My AS problems are at there lowest when I am home. Mostly, because I don't have to socialize. I don't have to obsess about what I am suppose to feel, how I am suppose to react & don't have to think about how poorly NT's treat each other.
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Neither of my parents has a diagnosis but both of them have very strong aspie traits. My dad is extremely introverted, has no friends and doesn't want any, great with computers and lousy with people, was a completely obsessive trainspotter as a kid and now collects maps. My mum also has no friends (I think she'd like to have some but her lack of social skills drive people away), is prone to what look like meltdowns to me (screaming, crying, throwing things, when anything unexpected happens). I think she's also got serious problems with theory of mind because she expects other people always to see things exactly the same way that she does, and know what she's thinking without her having to tell them. She doesn't respect other people's personal space and is completely unable to read body language. I think my dad would be amused if I suggested that he had AS; I think that my mum would be horribly offended as she thinks her social skills are wonderful (not one other person would agree, but she doesn't know that).
My parents met at a chess club for socially awkward adults. If that isn't a recipe for aspie genes, I don't know what is....
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| Jollygood wrote: | | As for ADD being on the spectrum: I know this is commonly said, but I'm not so sure. Surely the key thing in the autism spectrum is social skills: ADD, I think, is another related type of developmental disorder (but maybe all developmental disorders do have some common ground). I feel I have little in common with most people with ADD; they want more action and excitement, i want quiet and peace. |
From what I've been told, they are actually going to be combining ASD with ADD/ADHD in DSM-V. There are a lot of similarities between the two. So I think when it's all done the spectrum will look like this:
LFA/MR -> MFA -> HFA/PDD-NOS -> Aspergers -> ADHD -> SPD -> ADD
I'm leaving out the rare types because those are tricker to "line". But yeah... |
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Jollygood
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I know you can be ADD and Asperger: I just think ADD is not on the spectrum but an extra thing (I haven't heard of the DSM5 thing: but I don't think much of the DSM-IV anyway).
Liopleuridon/cursed brunette: isn't it interesting that there seem to be more women with families with lots of asperger types: maybe girls need more genes to get Aspergers. Certainly the Chess club would be an indicator of aspergers. Cursed brunette: your grandma does sound on the spectrum. |
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