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Sora
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 Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 2:49 pm Post subject: What did I do wrong NOW? |
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So I've just made my mother go from normal to aggressive again. I just don't know what I did to cause it.
I went up to her and asked her to make a salad. She answered that I might as well cut the mozzarella. I said yes, I'd.
Went to the kitchen, cut the mozzarella. I commented that it was squashy. She responded that it she already tried to pick a less squashy one. She then said that I had the knife that she wanted to take and I shrugged, saying she could take it after I was finished.
As far as I noticed, she was still perfectly normal at that point.
So then I go about dressing and she suddenly behaves annoyed and asked when I actually would clean the knife. I asked why I'd need to clean it, but just did anyway because I didn't know what made her annoyed. I gave her the knife saying it doesn't get any cleaner (I thought: it's mozzarella man, how am I supposed to get it clean in 10 seconds?).
Then she was really aggressive, was smacking the tomatoes into the salad and saying 'this (the mozzarella) ruins the cutting edge'.
I said I'd go now, she aggressively answered that yes, I better should. Then I told her that it's (the reaction) is crazy and she said I'm crazy. And then I just went to room and after a moment I thought it made a good point if I'd smashed the door shut.
That obviously got her so riled up she was talking to nothing in the kitchen and saying whatever about me.
Now... what did I do wrong?
I'm not planning to do out of my room and get the salad. It'll just rot, because I know she won't eat it (never does).
She'll probably bang into my room in 10 minutes to force me into eating the salad or something.
I'm hungry. I wanted a salad 20 minutes ago because I was hungry. If my hunger-quotient can go up more, it's now 2x100 points.
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Ana54
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Your mother sounds crazy. She's the crazy one, you're the sensible one. Why did she want to wash the knife if she was just going to use it for the salad again? I don't understand. Maybe she's a picky eater who likes the stuff in the salad to be separate and not bits of cheese in the food. More likely, she didn't want to exert the energy it took to cut the other stuff, stating that the mozzarella dulled the knife.
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Sora
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10 minutes... as I said. Scary...
She just banged into my room and said the salad was swimming away or something and left.
Even if it looks like I care what she says/thinks... which totally gets to me, because I don#t want anybody to think I do what they say or something...
I'm going to jump at the possibility of stuffing my stomach now...
Edit:
Thanks Ana54. I wrote while you posted.
Yeah.. maybe she got because she didn't want to clean the knife herself or something.
I don't understand it...
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 3:29 pm Post subject: Re: What did I do wrong NOW? |
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| Sora wrote: | So I've just made my mother go from normal to aggressive again. I just don't know what I did to cause it.
I went up to her and asked her to make a salad. She answered that I might as well cut the mozzarella. I said yes, I'd.
Went to the kitchen, cut the mozzarella. I commented that it was squashy. She responded that it she already tried to pick a less squashy one. She then said that I had the knife that she wanted to take and I shrugged, saying she could take it after I was finished.
As far as I noticed, she was still perfectly normal at that point.
So then I go about dressing and she suddenly behaves annoyed and asked when I actually would clean the knife. I asked why I'd need to clean it, but just did anyway because I didn't know what made her annoyed. I gave her the knife saying it doesn't get any cleaner (I thought: it's mozzarella man, how am I supposed to get it clean in 10 seconds?).
Then she was really aggressive, was smacking the tomatoes into the salad and saying 'this (the mozzarella) ruins the cutting edge'.
I said I'd go now, she aggressively answered that yes, I better should. Then I told her that it's (the reaction) is crazy and she said I'm crazy. And then I just went to room and after a moment I thought it made a good point if I'd smashed the door shut.
That obviously got her so riled up she was talking to nothing in the kitchen and saying whatever about me.
Now... what did I do wrong?
I'm not planning to do out of my room and get the salad. It'll just rot, because I know she won't eat it (never does).
She'll probably bang into my room in 10 minutes to force me into eating the salad or something.
I'm hungry. I wanted a salad 20 minutes ago because I was hungry. If my hunger-quotient can go up more, it's now 2x100 points. |
First, I think there's a good chance that your mom was already upset about something else and just didn't tell you, probably because it had nothing to do with you. When you returned the knife dirty, it was just enough to irritate her further. I had to get my daughter to agree to tell me when something was bothering her. She would try to hide her irritation from me because she didn't want to upset me, but it upset me more when I knew she was tense and didn't know why. You might want to ask your mom to let you know calmly when something is bothering her before it gets to the point that she can't hide it anymore -- even if the problem isn't with you. If I know that I didn't do something wrong, I'm less likely to take Michelle's moods personally, and this approach may work for you and your mother as well.
Second, I can understand your mother's being irritated over the dirty knife. I used to live with some family members who expected me to clean up after them all the time. I don't mind clutter, but I don't like dirtiness, so I clean things as I go. They would come into a room that had just been cleaned and completely trash it and just leave, saying they'd clean up later -- but later would never come and several days later, I'd be cleaning up their original mess and the messes that had accumulated over the intervening time. So, yes, I would say please remember to clean up after yourself if you use something. It's not fair to expect others to clean up after you.
It was good that she asked you to leave the room, because that's far better than shouting, but she should have taken a few minutes to cool down herself instead of stewing in her irritation. However, everyone has off days, so give both of you a little time to cool down and maybe things will be better later.
Patricia
edit: It also sounds as if she took your comment about the squashy mozzarella as a complaint, even if that's not how it was intended. This is part of what makes me think she was already upset about something. Patricia |
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NUTLOG
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 3:55 pm Post subject: |
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Yet another case of cheese related aggression. Something evil is afoot and I Cheddar to think how many more victims will fall afoul to these nefarious energies of malevolence. Something must be done, this is not simply not Gouda nuff. God Edam them, god Edam them all to Mozzarella! 
Err, I mean, you did nothing wrong, don't beat yourself up about it. She was probably just in a bad mood. There's not much you can Fondue...I'll Just Brie going now. |
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Sora
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 3:57 pm Post subject: |
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Thank you Patricia, that was very helpful.
Both concerning my mother and the advice that I should be more careful with my messiness. I know, I just forgot it all the time, that my mother likes to clean up immediately (while I like to take a break, leave the mess and clean much later)!
It makes sense that she was annoyed before already. I just wonder about what, I doubt she'll tell me though.
NUTLOG, cheese related aggression... I love Mozzarella and Fondue, but I'll never touch any other cheese. I just knew there was a reason why I'm careful with cheese, brilliant haha
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roguetech
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 4:07 pm Post subject: |
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It is a well known fact that mozzarella can dull even the finest forged steel. I am not sure if that's true with squashy mozzarella.
Did you ask her? "Mom, you seem upset. If I caused it, I'm sorry, but I can't think what I've done that upset you." |
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Chewbockers
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| But why would it dull the surface? Perhaps there should be a special kind of knife for squashy mozzarellas. |
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