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I have noticed that since I'm aspergisn (though very high functioning) I can usually easily tell when others are aspie even if they haven't been diagnosed. The same way that gays say they have a "gaydar" and can spot other gays and that jewish people can many times tell when others are jewish, can you spot other aspies???
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spudnik
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Sometimes, but its not a reliable way to view people, they may hide the condition well, I know I hide it very well, unless I am having a problem.
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mysterious_misfit
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 9:00 pm Post subject: |
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asplanet
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Yes, they are the ones I usually relate to, get on with straight away... its like we have an unsaid understanding.. but of course I never say not my place to tell anyone and anyway it can be almost impossible to know for sure that any label is correct 100%, but its important we know and understand who we are.
You do not need to be diagnosed to want to know and understand yourself, some one close to you, a friend, a colleague, a student etc.. we all know someone on the autism spectrum, understanding and embracing these differences really does change lives...
So I can not diagnose or feel the need, but can tell when differently minded...
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ClosetAspy
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 9:15 pm Post subject: |
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| Yes, I can pretty much spot someone who is "different", it may not necessarily be Asperger's, but I had very good training by my neurotypical peers on what kind of things make someone fair game, and so I can pick up little things maybe someone else might not notice. Unfortunately for me, the same people I was trying to avoid because I did not want to be further labeled or persecuted, also were able to pick up on the fact that I was not normal. For example if there was one person in a group with "problems" he or she would try to attach him or herself to me; and it was very hard for me to get out of these situations. Because I did not want to hurt the person's feelings, but at the same time I did not want to be chained to someone else, especially when I was trying very hard to pass for normal. I still am not very comfortable around other Aspies unless they are socially successful, by that I mean they more or less fit in and are not shunned. |
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 9:19 pm Post subject: |
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I don't know if I can or not. I used to be under the impression that I was the only aspie where I live, and I may be. But there has to be others around here, I just don't see them or I can't recognize them. 
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 9:20 pm Post subject: |
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| I don't think I've ever met someone with an autism spectrum disorder, and if I did, I didn't know. |
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The_Cucumber
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 9:38 pm Post subject: |
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I can spot Aspie traits fairly easily. However I prefer not to make the judgment of whether or not the person is a diagnosable aspie.
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I can't.
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| It depends if they have really strong aspie traits or not. I have a coworker who I suspect may be an aspie but it took a few months for me to pick up on it. With other people I see in passing it's obvious right away. Again, it really all depends. |
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dadman
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| The_Cucumber wrote: | | I can spot Aspie traits fairly easily. However I prefer not to make the judgment of whether or not the person is a diagnosable aspie. |
Same here. Also, my son has strong Aspie traits and is drawn to other Aspies. He was in a day camp this week and has become good friends with a girl there. It's an ordinary camp that any kid can attend. This particular girl was there last year and my son and her first became friends then, and have communicated via the internet ever since. My wife was having a casual conversation with the girl's grandmother today and found out the girl is a diagnosed Aspie. I'm not sure why they were drawn to each other, but they have some common interests.
I will say that Aspies who haven't had the benefit of a diagnosis, or at least some understanding of what makes them different, sometimes aren't as open to other Aspies. Its as if they are still trying to figure themselves and others out from scratch, and haven't read the book, so to speak. One of my son's teachers was very harsh and determined to punish him for everything, even though I'd swear she had recognizable traits herself. Just my thoughts, no real evidence.
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Absolutely not. I can't spot another Aspie for the life of me. Never met anyone whom I could even suspect was an Aspie.
In regard to spotting other Jews, yes, it's very easy for me. There are lots of things we have in common that non-Jews don't have, so it's very straightforward.
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Norah_W
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| Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 1:10 pm Post subject: Re: Can you spot other aspies?? |
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| history_of_psychiatry wrote: | | I have noticed that since I'm aspergisn (though very high functioning) I can usually easily tell when others are aspie even if they haven't been diagnosed. The same way that gays say they have a "gaydar" and can spot other gays and that jewish people can many times tell when others are jewish, can you spot other aspies??? |
Only if they are very obviously Aspie. |
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WolfyAU82
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| Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 2:55 pm Post subject: |
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For me the saying "It takes one to know one" definitely does not apply to Aspergians (an yes I am one), because I had no idea a classmate and workmates had it.
So no I usually don't spot fellow Aspergians. |
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pakled
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| Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 5:56 pm Post subject: |
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| nope. As far as I can tell, I'm the only one around here with it. I know it's not true, but I've been wrong on so many judgments. If they are, they can tell me, and if they don't want to tell me, then I'm not supposed to know. |
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