IQ, EQ, and Two Positions in the Pecking Order

ouinon · chemical reaction Joined: Jul 11, 2007 Posts: 3124

Pecking order; where you fit in the social heirarchy. From Alpha to Runt.

Mismatch/gap between our IQ/purely-intellectual grasp and our EQ/mixture of emotional understanding and/or appropriate emotional "reflection"/response ( as expressed with body language mainly) .

Two different positions in the pecking order?

How to reconcile those two?

Does anyone else feel this? As if they are split between two roles.

My intellect feels ( relatively) powerful, ( IQ around 145 ) and as if it were high up in the pecking order, but unless I abandon that intellect to concentrate all my energies on it, my emotional responses/body language is that of someone way down the line, clinging on, a hyper-sensitive, "slow" "runt".

For a while from late teens to mid twenties, with the help of a lot of alcohol and dope, I managed to keep up a relatively persuasive "attractive woman" performance, but since rediscovering my inner life, and relaxing my grip on the roleplay, ( having better/more interesting things to do suddenly), I have slid back down the line, which is ok if stay home, but whenever I expose my self to the outer world in any potentially professional context this schism becomes painfully obvious again; how much I am expected to play/accept a certain part in the pecking order which doesn't match my intellectual capacities.

And it is painful. Does anyone else get that?

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