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No_YOU_get_over_it
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 Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 7:30 am Post subject: Maybe it really is the AS ... |
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Hi, new here. Was dx'd in 98 or so, but didn't take it that seriously - I figured there was just a lot I had to work on.
So I've worked on a LOT of stuff. Social skills, motor coordination, appearance. Focused more on taking responsibility than on getting support. Have been pretty hard on myself for how challenging it all is. Developed empathy while neglecting skills for taking care of myself.
In the last week or so I've been realizing I don't have to be so bloody courageous, strong, hardworking etc. all the time with no credit for it. The more "normalo" I appear, the more isolated I feel.
So I'm coming around AS support places to check out whether connection is possible on this level, from others who get it.
Last week I outed myself to an acquaintance who seemed Spectrum ... well he quickly said he was, too ... but it was a mistake to come out - he apparently felt that gave him license to be a jerk. He seems not to work on himself much, and gets very angry when he's asked to consider views, needs outside his own. So it's an awakening for me that there might indeed be ASers who are also jerks. I'm pretty naive, eh?
Thanks for being here. I look forward to looking around and getting oriented. |
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Tim_Tex
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Nice to meet you, No_YOU_get_over_it.  
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| Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 8:21 am Post subject: |
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Welcome,
One thing we have is lots of points of view. |
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Chaotica
Granted with powers, gifted with magic
Joined: Jun 29, 2008
Age: 25
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Location: Hyperborea, buried under the ice and snow
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Hi there everyone!
I'm new here. I come from Ukraine and may be my English is a bit poor,sorry)
I'm writing to you in order to get acquainted or just to communicate with those who would probably understand me. I'm not sure if I'm an Aspie, but some things point to that. There are too many things that irritate me, like society chats, standard behaviour, stupid curiosity to the one's life and world outlook.
I deny authorities, especially if they don't deserve being respected, I'm not afraid of truth and of telling the truth to anyone.
I prefer loneliness, and that's why I'm often told that I am a snob. But the more I think about it, the more I become convinced that I'm right.
I have two real friends who can understand me and support me any time,but still I need your opinion because I'm not sure that they can explain to me who I really am.
Thank you for attention, friends.
Hoping for the answer and advice, Chaotica. |
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Tim_Tex
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| Chaotica wrote: | Hi there everyone!
I'm new here. I come from Ukraine and may be my English is a bit poor,sorry)
I'm writing to you in order to get acquainted or just to communicate with those who would probably understand me. I'm not sure if I'm an Aspie, but some things point to that. There are too many things that irritate me, like society chats, standard behaviour, stupid curiosity to the one's life and world outlook.
I deny authorities, especially if they don't deserve being respected, I'm not afraid of truth and of telling the truth to anyone.
I prefer loneliness, and that's why I'm often told that I am a snob. But the more I think about it, the more I become convinced that I'm right.
I have two real friends who can understand me and support me any time,but still I need your opinion because I'm not sure that they can explain to me who I really am.
Thank you for attention, friends.
Hoping for the answer and advice, Chaotica. |
Welcome to WP!
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richie
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Location: Lake Whoop-Dee-Doo, Pennsylvania
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| Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 2:11 pm Post subject: Re: Maybe it really is the AS ... |
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| No_YOU_get_over_it wrote: | Hi, new here. Was dx'd in 98 or so, but didn't take it that seriously - I figured there was just a lot I had to work on.
So I've worked on a LOT of stuff. Social skills, motor coordination, appearance. Focused more on taking responsibility than on getting support. Have been pretty hard on myself for how challenging it all is. Developed empathy while neglecting skills for taking care of myself.
In the last week or so I've been realizing I don't have to be so bloody courageous, strong, hardworking etc. all the time with no credit for it. The more "normalo" I appear, the more isolated I feel.
So I'm coming around AS support places to check out whether connection is possible on this level, from others who get it.
Last week I outed myself to an acquaintance who seemed Spectrum ... well he quickly said he was, too ... but it was a mistake to come out - he apparently felt that gave him license to be a jerk. He seems not to work on himself much, and gets very angry when he's asked to consider views, needs outside his own. So it's an awakening for me that there might indeed be ASers who are also jerks. I'm pretty naive, eh?
Thanks for being here. I look forward to looking around and getting oriented. |
| Chaotica wrote: | Hi there everyone!
I'm new here. I come from Ukraine and may be my English is a bit poor,sorry)
I'm writing to you in order to get acquainted or just to communicate with those who would probably understand me. I'm not sure if I'm an Aspie, but some things point to that. There are too many things that irritate me, like society chats, standard behaviour, stupid curiosity to the one's life and world outlook.
I deny authorities, especially if they don't deserve being respected, I'm not afraid of truth and of telling the truth to anyone.
I prefer loneliness, and that's why I'm often told that I am a snob. But the more I think about it, the more I become convinced that I'm right.
I have two real friends who can understand me and support me any time,but still I need your opinion because I'm not sure that they can explain to me who I really am.
Thank you for attention, friends.
Hoping for the answer and advice, Chaotica. |
To both of you:
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Focslain
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| Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 3:15 pm Post subject: Re: Maybe it really is the AS ... |
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| No_YOU_get_over_it wrote: | Hi, new here. Was dx'd in 98 or so, but didn't take it that seriously - I figured there was just a lot I had to work on.
So I've worked on a LOT of stuff. Social skills, motor coordination, appearance. Focused more on taking responsibility than on getting support. Have been pretty hard on myself for how challenging it all is. Developed empathy while neglecting skills for taking care of myself.
In the last week or so I've been realizing I don't have to be so bloody courageous, strong, hardworking etc. all the time with no credit for it. The more "normalo" I appear, the more isolated I feel.
So I'm coming around AS support places to check out whether connection is possible on this level, from others who get it.
Last week I outed myself to an acquaintance who seemed Spectrum ... well he quickly said he was, too ... but it was a mistake to come out - he apparently felt that gave him license to be a jerk. He seems not to work on himself much, and gets very angry when he's asked to consider views, needs outside his own. So it's an awakening for me that there might indeed be ASers who are also jerks. I'm pretty naive, eh?
Thanks for being here. I look forward to looking around and getting oriented. |
Benn there, done that. Though my spouse was told of my condition by my mother, I did't believe it until a few months ago when I read the 'official' description in a friend's DMV IV (I think that is what the psych book is called).
As for an exuse to be a jerk, that's not the AS that's the person. He's using his AS as an excuse which is deplaraple.
I comend you on your hard work and I know how you feel (My extreme empathy has cause issues in my marriage because I don't act.) I wish you luck and PM/IM me if you ever what to chat.
Oh and welcome to Wrong Planet. |
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Ancalagon
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Hi, both of you.
Working on yourself isn't a bad thing, just make sure you're not doing so much that you drive yourself crazy.
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Chaotica
Granted with powers, gifted with magic
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Age: 25
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Location: Hyperborea, buried under the ice and snow
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 3:20 am Post subject: |
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 Thanks guys! |
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chrism
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This place is great, i hardly ever post but even just reading posts from other people who think (kinda) like me is great, lifts the spirit when i'm feeling blue...
welcome to WP! |
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asplanet
Phoenix
Joined: Nov 11, 2007
Posts: 1866
Location: Cyberspace, New Zealand
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 7:24 am Post subject: |
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Hi No_YOU_get_over_it welcome
I use to try and change myself to fit in some where, play the part - did I ever fit, was I ever happy NO, a circle does not fit into a square, why change who you are... I use to even feel the need to apologize for me, before I was diagnosed and understood myself.
Aspergers or what ever our symptoms are a part of who we are, once we can understand and accept this the world will make sense in our terms...
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asplanet
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No_YOU_get_over_it
Toucan
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 3:25 pm Post subject: |
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Thanks, all!
Where on the site should I look for resources, discussion of building up support/social systems? That sounds so calculating ... but I'm at an all-time low and it makes no sense to browbeat myself into doing things that technically advance my interests but make me feel worse, without chance of connecting on some level. |
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Chaotica
Granted with powers, gifted with magic
Joined: Jun 29, 2008
Age: 25
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Location: Hyperborea, buried under the ice and snow
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Asplanet, and all of you, guys, thanks a lot! It was really hard to understand myself being alone, but you helped me to believe in sense and to stop creating pseudosenses. 
I'm very glad to join WP  |
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