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MagicMike
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 Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 9:42 pm Post subject: Do other people question your sexuality? |
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Since there was another thread on if you question your own sexuality (I'm quite straight), I figured why not a companion thread.
Do other people question your sexuality? As in have you been told "you DO like girls, right?" (when I admitted I haven't had a girlfriend [I'm 21]) or "that is DANGEROUSLY close to being gay?" (when I declined to play strip poker with some girls. My answer was "I have work tomorrow" to which the other interns said "you could have come in late for that!"). |
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pakled
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my wife, constantly. According to her, everyone thinks I'm gay (not that there's anything wrong with that - Sienfeld...
I don't like sports, don't like getting dirty, etc. Despite the fact I was such a horn dog when I met her...go figure... |
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agmoie
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It is the NT asking if you are gay who is in fact gay.NT males have a more feminine brain than us thats why they are better at girly chit chat and eye contact and interact better with females.Most gays I know have more girlfriends than boyfriends.
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Happens a lot. I have absolutely no interest in sports, binge drinking or date raping women so NT males assume I'm gay. The reality is that I am probably far more heterosexual than they are.
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jamesohgoodie
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i wore black nail polish and hot pink Chuck Taylors in high school, so everyone thought i was gay...until i got older and they realized no self-respecting queen would be caught dead wearing such an outfit.
i've been mistaken for a woman more than i have for being gay (don't think THAT doesn't mess with my head).
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Apple_in_my_Eye
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Also have no interest in sports, recreational violence, dissing/abusing women, and don't do the expected male chest-beating behaviors, therefore: "must be gay."
Also, I can't generate the cat-call/showing interest remarks (which ironically seems more about displaying interest in women to other guys, even though it's supposedly directed at the women). I think that has a lot to do with it. |
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ryry85
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ive been asked a number of times. cos i dont have a girlfriend and have not paid attention to girls who were apparenlty into me, but i just didnt see the signs. i seek a meaningfull relationship and dont particularly wanna be a he-slut and cause pain to women by not comitting etc. so it seems to others, that even i do want a girlfriend, this means i may be gay
im deffinatley not gay.  |
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No.
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This occasionally happened to me in highschool but never in the real world, as far as I know.
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"What's that? You've NEVER had a girlfriend?!? You MUST be gay!! Go kill yourself, you stupid f*g!!!"
I can't help but laugh at the sheer stupidity when people call me "gay"... like THEY know my orientation better than I do... But even if I was, I don't think it would make much difference. |
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I'm 22, straight, never had a girlfriend, but nobody has called me on it yet. I guess I just don't come off as the type. I have more guy friends than girl friends (not the same as girlfriends, of which I just want one), I make the most horrible off-color jokes, and I just don't look gay.
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MagicMike
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| Flismflop wrote: | | This occasionally happened to me in highschool but never in the real world, as far as I know. |
Lets see:
-High school: The rumor got passed behind my back, then apparently spread to other schools. My sister was in middle school, and one of HER friends said she heard a rumor I was gay. "Umm...no. Seriously" was her response.. The rumor still passed about.
-Older cousin: (I was 20) After being asked how many girlfriends I've had, I admit none. She doesn't believe me, to which I'm like "seriously, none." Her response is "you DO like girls right?" I'm like "yeah, just not most of them."
-Coworkers (this week): after admitting I declined to play strip poker because I had work the following day... |
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No_YOU_get_over_it
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This wasn't orientation so much as questioning my basic sexuality: the first time I went to couples therapy w/ the exmonster, the therapist told me I was very maternal but not at all feminine.
Thanks!
I used it as a prod to do more on developing my own sense of being a woman and escaping limits my family had set. Though I disagree with her method, and with her underlying assumptions, I'm glad I've done the work she inadvertently set in motion.
Ah, and there was a doctor who said, "so you divorced b/c you're a lesbian?" Oh, sure, that's easier than listening to and processing what I JUST EXPLAINED about my ex ..... |
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Sometimes, it seems that some "girly-girls" might think I am a lesbian...perhaps because I am not a "girly-girl"
When I was younger I was alot more androgynist and got teased and called a lesbian constantly in Jr/ High.
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I am sure many used to think that I am gay behind my back at highschool , there were so many 'sous-entendue' comments.
I remember a funny incident that proves my doubts...I think I was 16 , I was in class during an interclass break and my old best friend (who knows me very well) was sitting 2 rows behind near the most popular girl (because she was pretty and brainiac) and I overheard him tell her (translated) :
- "<MyRealName> does like girls!!!, believe me! he LOVES girls, he's even crazy about them more than me but never show it" .
I am totally sure that he unintentionally raised his voice because the girl was saying :husshh! husshh! and he looked really furious and upset about the subject.
I turned to them and said with a sarcastic smile:
- "I heard my name , is there a problem?"
My best friend looked at me and said:
-"Please! tell her that you love girls!" - the girl was red and giggling,trying to hide her face.
I looked at her with a flirty look (and I rarely do that but I had to convince her) and said:
-" Hey, you don't think that I love guys instead, do you? How someone can be a homo with your pretty presence?"
At that moment she started giggling more and her face turned into a big tomato
Then after she calmed a bit , she said: "Well... I was just asking . You rarely look at girls or talk about them"
I was like : "...." speechless for about 2 seconds..and said: "well, your assumption is totally wrong"
I think the reason for that wrong assumption is that I was never a 'guy crazy about girls' and I never showed real craziness in girls and was never that kind of guys who jump when a pretty girl passes by or talk about that girl or this girl in front of others. I had few secret crushes but they were all passive. And oh...I was hopeless in team sports.
Ironically,after years of failure with girls, sometimes I even wish if I were a gay or asexual. I am obviously belong to the wrong sexuality but this can't be changed. |
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