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ways of coping with your depression and building self esteem
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Moose1132
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PostPosted: Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:26 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'll have to try some of these things (the ones I can anyway). I've been feeling worse than I've felt in a long time lately. Music helped for a little while, but I eventually realized I was just using it as a smoke screen for what's really going on. I guess thinking like that would be a problem with any tactic really.
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 05, 2008 3:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I paint, sketch or write poetry when I'm depressed (none of them are particulary good but my skill is improving)

Watch a favourite TV series episode with a character who feels depressed getting themselves out of it this helps. My favourites are Thundercats-the crysal canyon, Sherlock Holmes- The Devil's Foot, etc

I like to run when I'm depressed especially in winter I tend to find I can't think and I'm only aware of whats around me and the pounding of my feet.

I won't talk to friends I tried once and it didn't work.
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 26, 2008 9:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I write when I'm depressed, it doesn't matter what I write about I just put pen to paper and don't stop until I feel better. I find it helps a lot especially when people don't listen to how I'm feeling.
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PostPosted: Wed Oct 15, 2008 10:26 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Take a walk, read a good book, play the piano or the guitar, get in the car and drive to Borders. If I'm real depressed, journal.
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PostPosted: Thu Oct 16, 2008 4:22 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

go to special education class and start annyoing classic autistics
and make them fell bad when the teacher goes for a break
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PostPosted: Wed Nov 05, 2008 11:06 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Welll, I wouldn't say I'm extremely good at ''being down management'' more on the opposite side, but I somehow have managed to stay mostly sane so far, and that's already something.

I have rather extreme swings between ups and downs (from ''let's get all friends together and go hiking, Im making the picnic lunch and organizing transport'' to ''where is a piece of rope when you need it?'' in a couple of hours) and in the down phase my logics does not work, so I can't really use common sense to see that things are not as bad as they look. So I find it useful to get rid of any kind of thinking at all.

The best thing to acomplish that for me is doing some physical work, that does not require any complicated thinking, but requires quite a bit of coordination, concentration and mastering the technique. Cleaning bathrooms is a good one, contains a reasonable number of objects that have to be manipulated in a particular way and in a particular order to achieve results, and working with ammonia and bleach containing poducts keeps me focused, because of risc of chemical burns, so there is no time to think. And it's very purposeful as well. For me it is the best way how to get through accute self-harm phase.

For general downs IMHO it is important to find that ''It is good to be alive'' sensation, that comes, when you push your body a little bit out of it's comfort zone. Walking without shoes on a rough surface, having a little bit colder than usual swim, trying to climb a tree, when you are afraid of height, having a hard out on a bike, anything.
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PostPosted: Thu Nov 06, 2008 7:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

ChaoQuiet wrote:
go to special education class and start annyoing classic autistics
and make them fell bad when the teacher goes for a break

There are ways to build yourself up without tearing others down.
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PostPosted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 12:35 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have a very difficult time with my self-esteem, I have a bit of an inferiority complex, actually a rather big one. I'm also transsexual and was born in the wrong body so that makes this a lot worse. I have a lot of hobbies I enjoy but I still don't feel good for anything and I still really don't like myself. For several years my only method of really venting was cutting, but I stopped that months ago. I get urges to start again, since now all I am doing is just locking up the stress inside and nothing seems to let it out.

Currently I'm on an SSRI antidepressant drug but it's not working anymore and just makes me feel dizzy and nauseous and gives me really bad head aches. I'm slowly getting off it and though the headaches are going back to their normal amounts i still feel really sad a lot, and my OCD is returning again. I hate stupid prescription drugs but I probably will have to switch to another.

I don't know what to do. The only people I talk to are the ones on the internet, who don't really reply anyway. Crap.
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PostPosted: Fri Nov 14, 2008 10:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

meeting with other transexuals could be useful.

sometimes i feel like the crappiest thing on the planet other times i feel ok, sometimes good.

books are good for cheering me up and so are video games (something like patapon with happy tunes).
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PostPosted: Fri Nov 21, 2008 6:33 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Let me see.

(in no spiciffic order)

1. Be proud of who you are and the things you like. If you are hating life right now. Excape from your tragic lives and ........Predent that you were a historian on The History Network, sit in a chair and talk about the stuff you like in all detail. (It's an Aspie thing LOL)

2. SATIRE, The mother of all things spiritual and non-sacret. Go on the internet, study Satire then write or type a satirical story or a stick figure comic strip or book of what you TOTALLY HATE! Either it's your nagging questioning parents or it's that evil life partner of yours that doesn't want your love anymore, write the most EVIL and Rude story about them in a cartoonish humorious fashion. Read it back, MAKE YOURSELF LAUGH, Just have fun with it and make yourself SILLY ACTING! LOL

3. Listen to your favorite music and pretend that you are the rock musician on stage who just reunited with your band after 25 years of breakup.


(The Following is Optional)

4. Watch Spitting Image on YouTube if you can find any. LOL (not nessasary, just in my own opinion) Wink

5. Read Matt Groening's Life in Hell on the internet (TRUST ME, IT'S LIKE A SELF HELP BOOK BUT IT TELLS THE TRUTH, IT'S SATIRE, you know you want it, now open up your mouth, Here comes the Cho-Cho! LOL)

6. Watch Season 1-3 of South Park @ Southparkstudios.com and pretend that Kenny is the one you hate and cheer when he get's Killed. Wink LOL



Hope this helps you all. HANG ON ASPIES! HANG ON! SOMETHING BETTER WILL COME ALONG! Just keep your eyes out, travel, do research, and work hard to make your life better! Wink
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PostPosted: Thu Nov 27, 2008 5:39 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

claire333 wrote:
Give to someone who needs help. Volunteer work is good for the community, your fellow man, and your soul.


Sound advice. Maybe work with refugees? This may sound rather bizarre, but personally I find an apocalyptic worldview rather encouraging: one's sufferings and struggles in this time gain so much more meaning if the whole of human history is essentially a perennial conflict between good and evil... Not sure how helpful this will be for others. Maybe adopt whatever overarching narrative works for you in giving meaning and purpose, or if you prefer something freer, become an existentialist.
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PostPosted: Thu Nov 27, 2008 5:41 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

ericc wrote:
Let me see.

(in no spiciffic order)

1. Be proud of who you are and the things you like. If you are hating life right now. Excape from your tragic lives and ........Predent that you were a historian on The History Network, sit in a chair and talk about the stuff you like in all detail. (It's an Aspie thing LOL)

2. SATIRE, The mother of all things spiritual and non-sacret. Go on the internet, study Satire then write or type a satirical story or a stick figure comic strip or book of what you TOTALLY HATE! Either it's your nagging questioning parents or it's that evil life partner of yours that doesn't want your love anymore, write the most EVIL and Rude story about them in a cartoonish humorious fashion. Read it back, MAKE YOURSELF LAUGH, Just have fun with it and make yourself SILLY ACTING! LOL

3. Listen to your favorite music and pretend that you are the rock musician on stage who just reunited with your band after 25 years of breakup.


(The Following is Optional)

4. Watch Spitting Image on YouTube if you can find any. LOL (not nessasary, just in my own opinion) ;)

5. Read Matt Groening's Life in Hell on the internet (TRUST ME, IT'S LIKE A SELF HELP BOOK BUT IT TELLS THE TRUTH, IT'S SATIRE, you know you want it, now open up your mouth, Here comes the Cho-Cho! LOL)

6. Watch Season 1-3 of South Park @ Southparkstudios.com and pretend that Kenny is the one you hate and cheer when he get's Killed. ;) LOL



Hope this helps you all. HANG ON ASPIES! HANG ON! SOMETHING BETTER WILL COME ALONG! Just keep your eyes out, travel, do research, and work hard to make your life better! ;)


More excellent advice!
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 29, 2008 11:00 pm    Post subject: My greatest escape... Reply with quote

Agree with the others above that asplanet said "some alone wounded animal time" or something helps. Except that you have low times and honor that. I take LONG bubble baths, light candles, and delve deeply into some great books. There's nothing wrong with some mental health breaks in life. I believe in them so much. My DD who is probably AS (we are in the process of eval) does great when she has hermit time in her bedroom just playing with her dolls and doing her own thing. We shut out the world as necessary and that's not a bad thing. Just remember as the others said, there is always someone having it worse then you and if you forget that you should volunteer and see what misery is out there. Volunteering for my DD has been great. We took food to a shelter, volunteer with a coat drive for the homeless, and now she is working on doing a drive for the ASPCA. Go out and do something for others less fortunate than you. It works wonders! Good luck to you! Lucy Smile
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PostPosted: Tue Dec 30, 2008 3:21 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Medication may be necessary in some cicumstances however, medication alone does not take care of the problem. You need to start finding positive things in your life and accepting who you are, scream out "f*** society" and absolutely MEAN IT...and sometimes medication to help with that is necessary.. I have read "The Secret" and it's all true.. but sometimes we need to re-read it for reminders because it's not always easy to do. Everyone will have their low days, and its to be expected but as long as these occasional low days don't become too frequent.. if so then you will need to find ways to help yourself. I have come to realize that life is too short and what kind of life is it if you lived through negative thoughts all the time?
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PostPosted: Fri Jan 02, 2009 1:24 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Find a group of like minded people, whatever you share-hobby, AS, politics, and so on.
Make friends and seek feedback. We tend to be far too judgemental of ourselves.
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