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Scheherazade
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 Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 11:44 pm Post subject: Do you prefer a schedule? |
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I hate, hate, hate schedules. I love to make schedules, but whenever I have to live through a scheduled day I feel like I have no control. I like to be impulsive and as soon as I have to follow a schedule - even if it's something I've just set for myself, like "open this mail, pay the bills, write a draft of this letter and then put away those files," I feel trapped. But when left to be spontaneous, I tend to do the same things almost obsessively. Like I'll go to the same restaurant and order the exact same thing, or do things in the same order, or whatever. As long as it feels like I have control over what I'm doing I don't mind repetition.
I think part of the problem is that, growing up, I had a ton of free time and almost never had any scheduled activities like sports, piano lessons, dance lessons, etc after school. So I find any day with more than 6-8 hours of scheduled activities (even working at a 9-to-5 job) to be a strain.
Do most of you like having structure in your day? Does anyone else feel trapped by structure? Is there a way to make yourself more comfortable within a scheduled life? |
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Tracker
Pileated woodpecker
Joined: Jun 17, 2008
Age: 22
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I like having a routine, or a certian way of doing things. I enjoy eating the same meals, doing chores the same way, etc. But I do not like rigid, and inflexible schedules that dont allow for any improvisation.
I like to be able to spend extra time if I need it, or skip ahead if I get done early. When people make stupidly planned schedules that hurt more then they help, I get annoyed.
I have my own way of doing things which is often more efficient then the way most people do it. All I need is to be left alone so that I can do it my way. I dislike when people make up stupid schedules and plans which directly interfere with my progress. |
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Tim_Tex
WP's Resident Simpsons and South Park Aficionado
Joined: Jul 03, 2004
Age: 28
Posts: 20883
Location: Central Texas
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 1:17 am Post subject: Re: Do you prefer a schedule? |
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| Scheherazade wrote: | I hate, hate, hate schedules. I love to make schedules, but whenever I have to live through a scheduled day I feel like I have no control. I like to be impulsive and as soon as I have to follow a schedule - even if it's something I've just set for myself, like "open this mail, pay the bills, write a draft of this letter and then put away those files," I feel trapped. But when left to be spontaneous, I tend to do the same things almost obsessively. Like I'll go to the same restaurant and order the exact same thing, or do things in the same order, or whatever. As long as it feels like I have control over what I'm doing I don't mind repetition.
I think part of the problem is that, growing up, I had a ton of free time and almost never had any scheduled activities like sports, piano lessons, dance lessons, etc after school. So I find any day with more than 6-8 hours of scheduled activities (even working at a 9-to-5 job) to be a strain.
Do most of you like having structure in your day? Does anyone else feel trapped by structure? Is there a way to make yourself more comfortable within a scheduled life? |
This is my situation as well, but I generally like to be flexible with things.
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cyb0rg
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Joined: Jun 29, 2008
Posts: 56
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 1:29 am Post subject: Re: Do you prefer a schedule? |
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| Scheherazade wrote: | | I hate, hate, hate schedules. I love to make schedules, but whenever I have to live through a scheduled day ...... I feel trapped. But when left to be spontaneous, I tend to do the same things almost obsessively. |
I feel the same way, but I simply cannot exist in an environment that I have no control over, the input overloads me. I think being "scheduled for" freaks me out because it makes me feel like I will be trapped in a sensory overload unwillingly. This has happened a lot. |
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cyb0rg
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Joined: Jun 29, 2008
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 1:31 am Post subject: |
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| Tracker wrote: | | I dislike when people make up stupid schedules and plans which directly interfere with my progress. |
"I have never let my schooling interfere with my education." Mark Twain |
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youknowandy
Blue Jay
Joined: Mar 16, 2008
Age: 31
Posts: 97
Location: Twin Cities, Minnesota
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you've described very well how i feel about the subject. i have gone from elementary school to my adult life minimizing the number of commitments that i have. i hate that boxed in feeling. i've made allowance for a single weekly scheduled commitment, and that was youth group, intervarsity christian fellowship, and now bible study. but i get stressed out going to bible study once a week, so i made everyone understand that i would only be attending once every other week, which seems to work great for me.
i feel bad sometimes that i am so spontaneous with my friends. i know that someone with a life needs advanced notice to be able to prepare to do something with me, but scheduling something in advance causes me stress as the appointed day approaches. i usually do keep commitments, but i might be a wreck beforehand.
for work, i am fortunate to be at a place that gives me a little flexibility in my hours. our policy is that we need to be there during the core hours of 9 to 4pm, and then just make sure to put in 8 hours of work. because i'm such a night owl, i have gotten permission from my boss to come in at 10am. It's tough to stay there for 8 hours straight. Eventually, I'll often hit a point where my mind just turns off. I'll stare at the computer screen with a dumb look and try to be productive, but nothing happens. I soon become aware that staying at work is counterproductive, so I head home. Fortunately, my house is only about ten minutes away. This usually happens after 4pm, so I'm within my rights to go home without telling anyone. I'll engage in some kind of enjoyable activity to get my batteries recharged for anywhere between 2 and 5 hours, and will then head back to work to finish off my last two or so hours. Often, I'll just skip going back to work and come in on Sunday instead to make up for all the hours for the week.
this works out well for my peace of mind and i am able to hold a great job and high standard of living with it. it doesn't work very well for a social life though, but oh well. it is one of the main reasons i am very concerned about my ability to raise a family though. if i had a family, my pressure release valve system that i use at work just wouldn't be practical. and then, i would be very concerned about being able to perform at work as well as my ability to perform my role as a husband and father. i don't know if i can handle both at the same time.
i tend to be repetitive also when left to myself. my two-month long "themes" that i do keep me from falling into the same routines and let life pass me by without experiencing or accomplishing much. i am starting my "Vegetarian Theme" for two months on July 1st, where I'll concentrate on learning how to eat vegetarian dishes at restaurants and at home. my current theme is "Outside Theme", where I make sure to have some activity outside during the day (usually involves some kind of exploration). My previous theme was my "Basement Theme", where I had a friend come over to my house once a week to finish my basement and I rearranged my house to take advantage of my basement space. This goes back two and a half years, with each theme lasting 2 months. |
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Age1600
Bonita-Azul
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Age: 23
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Location: New Jersey
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 4:43 pm Post subject: |
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Everyday waking minute of a day, i'm on a schedule, strict schedule have to be a certian way, and everything has to be done the same way, same time, same everything.
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MrMark
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Age: 50
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 4:49 pm Post subject: |
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I prefer a schedule. I have a letter from my doctor on file with my employer oblging them to put me on a regular schedule. Additionally, I have the freedom to structure my day more or less as I choose. I do better with structure, but ideally it should be self-imposed.
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liloleme
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Joined: Jun 09, 2008
Age: 41
Posts: 399
Location: California
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 5:20 pm Post subject: |
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| I need my schedule. Its alright If I chose to change things in my day but when it is done by someone else or an act of god...or whatever....I loose my head! |
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Lightning88
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Age: 19
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Location: Indiana
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 5:27 pm Post subject: |
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Agreed. I love making them (as it's a lot of fun), but living with a schedule is almost torture! I like being surprised as to what's going to happen. Knowing everything is boring.
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MusicGrl23
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Joined: May 18, 2008
Posts: 28
Location: PA, United States
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 7:59 pm Post subject: |
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| I actually don't think that I could live without having some sort of general schedule. I don't like having a strict schedule that I am forced to stick to, but I like having some kind of a schedule so that at least I know generally what I have to do or what will be happening on that day or time. I also get kind of stressed out if I don't have a general schedule to follow each day. |
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Rislaja
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: Jun 14, 2008
Age: 18
Posts: 27
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 8:24 pm Post subject: |
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| I love to make schedules for myself, but I pretty infallibly ignore them once they're finished. I love having deadlines, though, and am quite a bit more productive with them. |
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Aalto
Deinonychus
Joined: May 04, 2008
Age: 17
Posts: 373
Location: W. Yorks, UK
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 8:33 pm Post subject: |
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| I'm best with schedule at work, otherwise I get a buzz from doing things spontaneously. |
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