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Deinonychus
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 Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 12:13 pm Post subject: How did you behave as a child? |
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I remember getting into trouble alot and yelling at my mom that I couldn't wait to turn 18 so I could leave. Well I'm 22 now and still live with my parents. The reason I am asking fellow AS members here is I see my childhood behavior in my little sister. So I was just curious how felllow AS people behaved as children. (interests aside I'm thinking of how you upset your parents etc.) People don't understand how hard it it to live (I'd have to pay for an Apartment take a bus etc. truthfully I'm not ready for that.) 
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| Same. I was incorrigible and very difficult to raise. I was very stubborn too. |
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anbuend
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My dad says I used to start screaming "for no reason" and was impossible to console.
I remember getting in trouble a lot for being overloaded, and doing, or failing to do, various things, because I was overloaded.
Once the effects of bullying sunk in, I can remember my parents telling me over and over, "I'm not Rae," where Rae is something I'm substituting for the name of one of the bullies. Because they said I was becoming defensive and lashing out at people as if everyone was Rae or someone like her, and often lashing out before anyone could actually hurt me. During that same time period they referred to me as tense and negative. That has more to do with hard-core bullying than autism, but bullying is pretty close to universal.
My mother said that she got a lot of very lengthy and detailed reports on my behavior in parent-teacher conferences -- it was considered misbehavior and also was considered strange for a child my age. Some teachers liked my weirdness, other teachers couldn't stand it.
I also apparently had her so well trained not to make extended eye contact that she started getting performance reviews at work saying that she wasn't looking her patients in the eye anymore.
If I knew how not to do something that would get me in trouble, I didn't do it. I was extremely sensitive (more than most kids) to tension and anger and did anything I could to avoid it. Unfortunately a lot of things I got in trouble for, I couldn't help or couldn't figure out what I'd done wrong. Nonetheless, I was considered stubborn (my parents always tried to turn it into a positive -- "persistent") and often difficult.
I can for instance remember vividly a whole day I spent among a group of children. I tried to silently put up with their meanness to me, and thought I'd done a very good job. And yet somehow, even though I'd never even spoken to an adult and barely spoken to other kids, one of the adults angrily accused me of tattling on the way home. I still don't know how a child can tattle to an adult without communicating with that adult.
I had trouble understanding language -- from no understanding at all, to understanding significantly less than I "should" have. When I did understand language, I frequently took it literally. One time a teacher kept saying, "Write incomplete sentences," and she put so much emphasis on "incomplete" that I wrote an entire paper full of sentence fragments. She got angry at me and told me that I knew she'd said to write complete sentences and there's no way I could have heard otherwise. She didn't believe I'd heard "incomplete" instead of "in complete". That kind of thing.
I was always "overly sensitive".
I've never been dxed with AS, but was at one point dxed as PDD-NOS then later as autistic. Regardless of official categories though, there are a lot of similarities. They never considered AS because of the kind of language trouble I had early on, and even a surprising amount at the time of evaluation.
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veruniel
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| I was actually very quiet and well behaved. But I was extremely depressed and had a habit of weeping or self-mutilating when no one was looking. I remember being very secretive about hitting myself and getting angry when I cried, because I knew my parents were doing a very good job of raising me and that I was very fortunate, and I felt like an ingrate. |
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zeldapsychology
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Well usually my little sisters behavior consists or "rudeness" examples:I WANT POPCORN NOW! YOU ARE GOING TO GET ME POPCORN! (my mom walked out of the store) (Shut Up and Hush are things she says alot aswell.) My mom cuss at her sometimes which IMO doesn't help but I try my best to stay out of it. It's sad I see myself in her.  |
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KateShroud
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| My parents split up when I was five. Some of my fondest childhood memories are of going to Dad's house on Wednesdays and every other weekend and causing trouble. My mind was always active from a very young age, and I told Dad I was bored so many times he got sick of hearing it. While he was playing video games or trying to go to sleep at night, I would break things, sneak candy, torment the animals, etc. Although I was small, it would take him about ten minutes to hold me still enough to give me a spanking. I got in trouble at Mom's, but not for the same reasons. I left home when I was 18. |
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I read some of the comments and started thinking about why I was such a difficult child. I think "overload" and feeling disconnected and different from the other kids caused a lot of my behaviour too.
I also got bullied a lot, had trouble understanding why the other kids hated me. I got in a lot of trouble for being too talkative and leaving home without telling everyone where I was going. I also made lots of messes.
My mom often made me fix my own meals, she thought it would be a good idea to make me as independent as possible so she made me do a lot of the tasks most parents do for their "NT" kids.
I made messes in the process. Another thing she wanted me to do was my own laundry and I would spill the laundry detergent all over the floor. |
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Reodor_Felgen
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I was usually peacefull and friendly, but I had a short fuse, was very stubborn and I never did as my parents told me--whether I agreed with them or not. From the age of 2, I started running away a lot, but as my mother got used to it, she didn't worry.
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Bradleigh
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I was a very quiet emotional child, though I got a bit crazy in highschool.
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Ah_Q
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I didn't start talking until I was about three. And even then I didn't talk much. I also did the screaming for no apparent reason thing.
I would throw and break things when overloaded. One of the most memorable times was when I smashed a glass coffee table with a metal piggy bank.
I think most of my teachers really didn't like me. I think only my second grade teacher really had any patience or understanding. I would always play by myself. I would say strange things. During recess I would only want to swing, and when I couldn't do that I would just pace around the perimeter of the playground. Other kids would see this and follow me around and mock my the things I would do with my hands and my manner of walking. This bothered me because it completely disturbed my thought processes and I would get in trouble for hitting them.
I remember often not being able to understand the things teachers said during class and would be accused of refusing to do my schoolwork, though, really I had no idea what to do with my schoolwork. I was also accused of "zoning out" often during class. I found having to remain seated at my desk unbearable and would constantly have to get up to pace. Another reason I had trouble doing my schoolwork was because I had terrible handwriting and writing was and still is very painful for me.
I tried to just put up with the bullying but sometimes it was just too much, espicially if I was already overloaded from something else. It was pesistent, day after day with no end and I would just snap eventually. I was known for screaming and and hitting and biting other students. I spent a lot of time isolated in some room in the office for this. |
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Lets see....I was kind of eccentric and oblivious and sorta lived in a weird sorta fantasy world...where I had pretend games but they were very real to me...I would "be" certain characters...and spend long periods of time as that character
I had no sense of boundries..and would wander far from home unsupervised and randomly go to people's houses. I didn't really understand the games other kids would play..and relied alot upon mimicry....i had little understaning of the concept of personal propery.....and i got somewhat worse as I got older.
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Reodor_Felgen
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I remember that when I was a kid at 3-4 years of age that I wouldn't eat my food if it wasn't sliced in seven pieces. If it was sliced in six or eight, I wouldn't eat it.
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IdahoRose
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| I was very quiet and spent a lot of time playing by myself. |
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wisteria
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I remember my parents always being angry with me, but I can't think of many really bad things that I did... maybe a few times where I damaged or broke things. In school I did once do something outrageous and got in a lot of trouble-- but that was the only time I had gotten in trouble at school. I was considered a "great student" up to that point. There was one other time after that where I hid from bullies behind a piano in a storeroom, so I got in trouble for leaving the classroom without permission.
But at home, I think my parents were just generally outraged and disgusted by my "weirdness." I could do no right. I'm pretty sure my dad is an aspie so there were a lot of issues with noise (I made too much), privacy (I invaded his), routine (I disrupted his), his major, frightening meltdowns that we always seemed to trigger in one way or another. |
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PunkyKat
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| My mother says that if you took it personaly I was a very mean baby. She says that if one of my brothers tried to hold me he had scratches up and down his face like a wild cat had attacked him.I was always in trouble either at school or at home. It was like I couldn't do anything right at home and at school I was always testing the limits. I found it hard to behave the way people wanted to to be nice. I was always being teased at school and when I tried to defend myself I was the one who got in trouble. I had no regrets about hitting or even biting teachers. Sometimes they deserved it. If my parents didn't take me out to homeschool me I would either be in jail or dead by now. |
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