Situation with a friend. Did I really do the right thing?

Aspie1 · Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 1:24 am Post subject:

This post is about a situation with a friend. If you remember my thread about me joining other people who talked at the movies, this is about the same person. She acted a certain way, and I responded in turn. I'm curious to see if you think I did the right thing.

An unpleasant event took place the past weekend. I went with two of my friends; call them O (female) and R (male) to an amusement park. (For information, I knew O for 4 years and R for 1 year.) O and R, however, are more acquaintances to each other than friends. At one point, much to my surprise, O started acting very erratically, such as taking to random strangers she saw, flat-out demanding that me or R refill her water bottle (in retrospect, I should have refilled it out of my bladder), and stopping to look at every stall, kiosk, or vendor she saw. (She had a history of acting erratically before, but it was never like this.) I started to get angry, while R managed to remain more calm. Eventually, R and me got fed up, and demanded to go home ASAP. O went ballistic, and started yelling at us about how boring we were. In the car, she yelled at us for most of the way, basically telling us about how she's so much better than us. I was driving, so you can imagine how hard it was to concentrate.

O was the second one to get dropped off, and I needed four shots of rum to calm down afterwards. Next day, she calls me and goes ballistic on me, demanding that I apologize for mistreating her. (Where did I mistreat her, may I ask?) I responded by telling her that I never wanted to see her again. With mild fearfulness in her voice, she said that she had some of her stuff at my place. I told her I'd send her the stuff in the mail, and hung up.

I decided to take the high road, so the day after, I did just that. I took her stuff to the post office, and had it shipped to her home address. I included a note into the package, telling her not to contract me. Given the way O treated me, I don't think I'll be friends with her again. I don't plan on taking any further revenge either; I think knowing that I mailed her possessions to avoid seeing her will be punishment enough. Interestingly, I felt much better when I walked out of the post office with empty hands.