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DomesticAdvocate
Tufted Titmouse
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 Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 2:10 pm Post subject: Does anyone here have a child 18 years or older |
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that is succeeding well on his own with As and multiple diagnosis?
What does that look like for them? Do they live with you? Do they have roommates? Are they able to be gainfully employed? Are they happy? Have they found a niche that suites them?
I have a 12 year old that has multiple diagnoses, primarily adhd and aspberger's and they are testing to find out why he is having other difficulty cognitively.
I think he is brilliant and amazing and encourage him with support and programs and we have a large team for him, but I just wonder what other moms experience with their adult children as far as their self sustainablity goes. |
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KID
Emu Egg
Joined: Jul 13, 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 7:30 pm Post subject: Autism/Aspergers/ADHD or not? |
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Hi it could be that your child has SPD/APD just like me. SPD/APD is ver similiar to Autism/Aspergers/ADHD. Or he could have food allergies/lead poisoning maybe? I know lead poisoning and food allergies can mimic anything including Autism and ADHD.
It also depends on the person with the Disorder. I know a few of my friends who have Aspergers and they have jobs. One friend lives at home while the others are happily married. Again it all depends on the person. |
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DomesticAdvocate
Tufted Titmouse
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| Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 8:24 pm Post subject: |
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Thank you for the feedback, it is helpful for me to hear different perspectives.
I really appreciate your reply. |
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Phoenix
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Location: new england
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| Posted: Mon Jul 14, 2008 6:56 am Post subject: |
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i don't have a child who's over 18, but my hubby has AS & ( i suspect) ADHD. he graduated from 2 different colleges with an Associates in Marine Science, and a Bachelor's in Biology....his family worried that he'd be alone forever & not be able to take care of himself....fast forward to today- we have 3 children & have just taken in a foster child. he has a successful business.
as AS is a spectrum, so much depends on where they fall on the spectrum.....my son who's 16 is , i believe, higher on the spectrum than my hubby..... |
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Tufted Titmouse
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| Posted: Mon Jul 14, 2008 11:22 am Post subject: |
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Wow! That is really encouraging to hear you talk about that. The therapist told me that there isn't a test to measure my son's intelligence although she says he is extremely bright.
It gives me hope to hear that you and your husband are in a successful relationship as well. My son really wants to go to college and I believe he can although I was told that it would be extremely challenging for him. From what I can tell, most things are extremely challenging for him and he is progressing. My vote is he will be able to if he wants to.
The view of the spectrum from here as my son turns 12 is so different from when he was younger for me. |
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Phoenix
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Location: new england
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| Posted: Tue Jul 15, 2008 6:57 am Post subject: |
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there are iq tests out there to measure his intelligence....don't know what the therapist is talking about.............
again, i can't say it enough- hubby's family never thought he'd be able to live on his own-let alone be married......you just never know. what you can do to help your son be successful is work on life skills. cooking, cleaning , self-care, money management skills. these are all skills they don't teach in school ( well, reg ed), and skills that he could start working on now. |
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BugsMom
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| Posted: Tue Jul 15, 2008 3:14 pm Post subject: |
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My sister is 19 and has a PDD-NOS diagnosis, but she has many Aspie traits. She just finished high school and is going to college in the fall. She is extremely talented in art and music, and she has a new boyfriend. She is doing very well  . |
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Ana54
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Don't worry about him. That's underestimating him.
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Tufted Titmouse
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 11:16 am Post subject: |
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This is encouraging.
I'm interested in this question because I am trying to provide the best future for him. He is making great progress. |
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fbug
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| DomesticAdvocate, whatever you do defiantly do not allow anyone to dictate what either of your kids are or are not capable of achieving. I was unfortunate enough to have someone say that it was not recommended that I attend a four year college. This person was totally wrong since I now hold an associate's and a bachelor's degree and I have just been accepted into graduate school. I didn't even need to take a GRE or GMAT exam because a had a high enough GPA during my undergrad programs. It's truly disgusting how some "professionals" can so blatantly underestimate people who are quite capable if given the opportunity. |
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Tufted Titmouse
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Thank you fbug!! That is actually what I was just told by a professional and I just blow it off because I teach my son to make his own way.
I know he is brilliant, he loves science and he is fascinated by things that I would never notice. My bet is that he will attend college on his own terms and rock it. |
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lucy1
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My son is in a flat, he is working and managing to manage himself.
We did go through some awfully stressful times in his teenage years, but fortunately once we got a diagnosis things began to turn round.
My son has diagnoses of social phobia, anxiety, depression, learning disability --- but much of this can come under the umbrella or be associated to aspergers.
Anyway - having the diagnosis meant we were able to access help in the way of a mentor, someone who my son agreed to work with to find his independence. It worked, and he is now independent. Which feels really good from my perspective, and my son doesn't have depression anymore. |
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Tufted Titmouse
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 9:52 pm Post subject: |
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lucy 1, hi!
Thank you, I really like what you said about the mentor. I will use that idea, I just spoke to someone today that said he really needs to be around older kids.
I also like what was said about life skills . |
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KID
Emu Egg
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 10:55 pm Post subject: From KID. |
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| Your welcome DomesticAdvocate |
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Snowy Owl
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| Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 1:09 am Post subject: |
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| Your son is welcome to post on Wrong Planet. If he has any questions about what its like to live life as an aspie then going direct to the source is the best place to get answers. After all, would you rather find out what works and what doesnt from talking to people with only theoretical knowledge, or would you prefer to ask the people with actual expierence? |
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