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Bonita-Azul
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 Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 11:46 pm Post subject: All people on the spectrum want to be alone? |
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So I was reading an article in a magazine my mother had, and they stated how mostly all of the people with ASD rather be alone. Now its funny, i'm very in my own world at times, but I can never ever live on my own, too many self help skill problems, and i'm a "threat" to myself due to how much self injury i do. Except i dont ever want to be alone either, I dont know if its because i was molested or raped or abused/tortured, I need to be living with someone. I however loooove my alone time, but couldnt ever imagine living alone. As much as I cant understand people, couldnt live without them. Do you agree with that above statement how mostly all people with ASD rather be alone? Would you rather be alone, meaning living on your own, away from society, away from any kind of human contact?
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Josie
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Most of time I love being by myself.... I like always my dogs or my cats with me.
I can never make it on my own. I always need some kind of help. |
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jawbrodt
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I have been living alone for three years, after finally moving from my parents house.  I enjoy being alone for the most part, but, I need human contact every day or so, or I get very lonely and depressed. I don't think I would ever want to be completely alone. 
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Malsane
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| Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 11:53 pm Post subject: |
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| I can never speak for anyone else, but I like to be alone. But I also like to have some contact. I need it to be fairly limited, but I do like contact. I would like a girlfriend. I would like to have more friends. I guess I just want social interaction on my terms, escape whenever I need it. |
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jayssite
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| Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 11:58 pm Post subject: |
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I hate being alone
edit: ... but not more than I hate failing at socialization. So the accurate wording would be that I prefer to be alone.
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anbuend
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| Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 12:00 am Post subject: |
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I like a little of both being around people and being alone.
I don't think the thing about autistic people in general wanting to be entirely alone can possibly be true, because otherwise we'd have no particular desire for an autistic community, and clearly whenever we get the chance to form one, we do.
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Spokane_Girl
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No not all people on the spectrum want to be alone. There are some who want to have friends, want to have a relationship, have kids, etc.
I would not rather be alone. It is always nice to have someone to tag along with you so you are not alone. I have a boyfriend so I keep it at that, I am not interested in having other friends. I see no point in it. It is nice to have someone play video games with or travel with but then I just want to be alone, no one to bother me, not having to wait on them, etc. It's me and my own rules. Sure when I become a parent, I have the right to say it's time to go because I don't want to be somewhere anymore such as at a playground or at a play area in a mall.
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-JR
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I think they have it backwards, basically putting the horse behind the cart. I want to be left alone because I know I can't handle social events. I wish to be able to handle social events. I really don't want to be left alone, I just want to feel normal.
Now, I have self dxed, and I don't feel any need to cloister myself, no need to be down on my habits and history. I am free as the kite I lost as a 12 year old child.
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mikebw
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You only have to look at the Love and Dating board to see that this statement isn't true for all people on the spectrum.
As for me, most of the time I'd rather be alone, and be left alone.
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ooOoOoOAnaOoOoOoo
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I'm not sure if that's true or not. I don't know about everyone with an ASD. I admit I have lots of issues that interfere with me being like everyone else and I obsess on that. I am sure I annoy others, not on purpose, just me being who I am.
I think I need a very specific type of person to share my life with or it just won't work out. I would rather be alone than with someone who is abusive.
I try to learn more about myself all the time.
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Ishmael
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| Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 12:41 am Post subject: |
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| Yeah... I hate people, so, I'm gonna have to go with "Yes, I prefer being alone." |
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jayssite
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| Ishmael wrote: | | Yeah... I hate people, so, I'm gonna have to go with "Yes, I prefer being alone." |
Yeah I suspect this is pretty much the consensus here. Most of us prefer to be alone, but it seems to be only because we don't like trying to socialize with NTs. |
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jawbrodt
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^I think that anxiety plays a large part. It does, in my case.
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RedSands
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I enjoy being alone for short periods and as long as I know it isn't going to be a permanent thing. I lived alone out of necessity for a number of years, and in the worst of it, every day was like a big, black nothing and I got really depressed.
But then, I can't stand being around lots of people either: oddly, it feels too similar to being alone.
The best is having one or two people to live with or at least see on a regular (daily or close) basis. With occasional get-togethers that don't exceed the number of people I can fit in my living room. |
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Omar
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| Omar be seriously doubting that anyone (aight, maybe some people) would seriously rather stay alone, rather than interact - if they had the ability to do so. In the end, I see "would rather" to be a phrase conditioned on havin the autonomy to lead your life and make the decisions based on what you truly want, and wit some cats wit dis condition, Omar just don't see that. |
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