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ericc
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 Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 3:46 pm Post subject: I don't know what to do |
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don't know what to do
When I was a kid, I had a cousin that I felt very close too. He felt like an older brother to me even though he was a few months younger. He had the ENTP personality type based on the myers briggs test and I was sort of ENFJ. As kids I felt like he was the leader and I was the sidekick. I only saw him once in awhille and I would cry each time he left and my parents would get pissed off at me when I did. He was so fun. But as years went on, he grew sick of me and wanted to hang out with his friends more which made me feel jellous and kind of said. Then when I was in 2nd grade, I saw my first Tomboy. She liked me but it was kind of shocking to see a girl behave like a guy, plus it reminded me of my dear cousin. To that day I never looked at women the same way again. I feel that I never admitted it until now. I Love Tomboys because they remind me of my cousin. I know, it's weird. I can't help it. My cousin was like a brother to me and I've been an only child all of my life. My uncle who's the father of my cousin I'm still angry at because he used to get angry with me if I was stressed out. I have Asperger's Syndrome (Social blindness disorder) But that's a different topic. But anyways, no one knew how close I was to my cousin. I feel like I want to meet a women someday who's simular to his personality type (ENTP).
I'm not sure If I'm sounding clear.
What should I do? Personality Psychology can go so far.
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JohnHopkins
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| Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 3:50 pm Post subject: |
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| I'm not sure you can have a healthy relationship with a woman who is reminding you of your male cousin. Are you actually sexually attracted to these women? |
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ericc
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| Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 4:00 pm Post subject: |
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| JohnHopkins wrote: | | I'm not sure you can have a healthy relationship with a woman who is reminding you of your male cousin. |
Well I'm not attracted to women who act like their gender role, only girls who like to play rough and boyish. My cousin was very boyish, he was like a brother to me. I felt that he was always the leader and I was proud to put myself as the sidekick when we were kids.
I'm not attract to my cousin if that's what you thinking.
It's just the personality type and the boyish fun I like in women. It's very unlady like but that's how I like them. I love Tomboys, not pretty women.
| Quote: | | Are you actually sexually attracted to these women? |
Yes I am and I'm not ashamed of it either. They are called "Tomboys".
Watts from the movie "Some kind of wonderful" is a good example of what I mean.
You see, I've been an only child all my life and even though I was always glad that I never had a younger brother or sister. I do wish that I did have an older Brother or Tomboy Sister.
Maybe that's it too. |
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JohnHopkins
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| Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 4:15 pm Post subject: |
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I wasn't saying there was anything wrong with it.
If you're attracted to tomboys, then go for tomboys. There's nothing wrong with that.
It was the cousin association which was a bit iffy. You don't want to end up lying in bed post-coitus and saying 'you're a lot like my cousin, you know.' |
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ericc
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| Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 4:17 pm Post subject: |
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| JohnHopkins wrote: | I wasn't saying there was anything wrong with it.
If you're attracted to tomboys, then go for tomboys. There's nothing wrong with that.
It was the cousin association which was a bit iffy. You don't want to end up lying in bed post-coitus and saying 'you're a lot like my cousin, you know.' |
We all have the right to our opinions, right? LOL |
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JohnHopkins
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Exactly. As long as you're not picturing your cousin while you f**k these women, you're fine.
Everyone has different tastes in women or men. Big dicks, small dicks, fat asses, little titties, long hair, shaved heads, tattoos, anal piercings, dog collars, amputations - everyone's got their own tastes, and unless you're hanging around a playground with a bottle of lube and a zoom lens, you've got nothing to be ashamed of.
Just go for it. Tomboys can be pretty hot!  |
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donkey
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there does seem to be a fixation with a period in childhood, very early childhood that you havent seemed to moved on from.
i remember when i was very young i had some core well founded and good memories.
i am unconvinced that this behaviour is related to your As diagnosis.
i have met and discussed As issues with many and i have never heard of this.
there may be more going on here, i am reluctant to call it a problem, but it doesnt sound healthy to me.
do you feel you should see someone about this?
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ericc
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| Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 5:43 pm Post subject: |
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| donkey wrote: | there does seem to be a fixation with a period in childhood, very early childhood that you havent seemed to moved on from.
i remember when i was very young i had some core well founded and good memories.
i am unconvinced that this behaviour is related to your As diagnosis.
i have met and discussed As issues with many and i have never heard of this.
there may be more going on here, i am reluctant to call it a problem, but it doesnt sound healthy to me.
do you feel you should see someone about this? |
Like my pharapist, I'm afraid too.
I don't think that it's just my Cousin that relates to why i love Tomboys, but the fact that I was an only child all my life and when my cousin came to visit once in a great while, It was the biggest event of the year to me.
Be was a big brother or a leader to me even though I was older than him.
Like I said before, I think it's because I was an only child and the wish to have an older compainion. The idea of having an older brother or a sister. And if you can combine the two that kind of explains why I like Tomboys. |
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ericc
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yeah, maybe that's why I really want to date a Tomboy. Because they are like an older brother too me but they are girls. Older and taller than me so it can make me look like a little brother. LOL Even though I'm not related to the Tomboy.
I know, this is getting weird. LOL |
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donkey
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well it can be seen as healthy as not many people your age really know exactly what they want and why.
but for the same reason it makes it appear unhealthy.
why are you so specific in the look, age and sex of a partner.
i know the verbal response, but what is the real answer?
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ericc
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| Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 9:57 pm Post subject: |
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| donkey wrote: | well it can be seen as healthy as not many people your age really know exactly what they want and why.
but for the same reason it makes it appear unhealthy.
why are you so specific in the......... l |
The boyish look and behavor that Tomboys have reminds me of how much fun it is hanging out with guys. But to me it's sexy if you have a crush on it.
Not too old. I'm 20 so between 19-23 for me. Just my attraction preference
I'm attracted to women because I'm heterosexual.
It seems like I might sound like I'm homosexual since I like boyish behavor and look. I tried to see if I really do like guys deep inside, but I can keep pushing myself and it still doesn't work for me.
Only Women, So therefore. I'm stuck where I was never ment for this world.
Love is hard to find for anyone,
me...... It seems impossible!
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Popsicle
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| Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2008 2:58 pm Post subject: |
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| To me you do not have a problem. You seem to know what you want. Now you just have to find it. Good luck! |
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