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Loborojo
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could we say that there are more lonley aspies then Nts? Does an idiot savant feel lonely?
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tomamil
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of course?
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I don't know if there are "more" but I do know that I'm lonely to a depth that I can't even express in words and that nobody in my life seems able to understand. :/
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RubieRoze
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I've always lived with the realization that I was alone - like an impartial, intellectual acknowledgement of my emotional situation.
Only when I hit my late teens did I start to have feelings of loneliness. These feelings come and go these days, and only really bother me if I let them. 
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| Jose Chung wrote: | | Then, there are those who care not about extraterrestrials, searching for meaning in other human beings. Rare or lucky are those who find it. For although we may not be alone in the universe, in our own separate ways, on this planet, we are all... alone. |
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 5:16 pm Post subject: |
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| All I know is that I feel lonely. |
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NeverMore8123
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I can say from experience that aspies can be very lonely whether were more lonely than autistics I dun know, it's hard knowing that your brain works differently from other people and no matter how hard you try socializing, they will always be one step ahead because it comes naturally to them and you will look out of place,awkward or strange..
It's especially lonely when you don't know any other aspies, I think without the internet I would be so lonely I probably would have killed myself
So thanks internet 
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ZakFiend
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 6:09 pm Post subject: Re: do autists feel lonely? |
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| Loborojo wrote: | | could we say that there are more lonley aspies then Nts? Does an idiot savant feel lonely? |
When I was younger I did, but now I don't personally... most people aren't worth bothering with because their prejudices are automatic and subconscious, so I only go for high quality people. |
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Loborojo
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As a youth I have tried to kill myself thrice, the lst one nearly fatal but they found me in the forest.
Had I know why I felt so lonely or that I was outa place because I was an aspie, would I still have tried to kill myself?
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| Yes, I do anyway, but I'm getting better all the time as I'm working on my social skills. |
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prillix
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| All the time, and thats why im moving 3000km away from everything i've ever known. Kinda ironic isn't it. |
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yes- in different ways.
now i am lonely because i have noone to share things with. i do not speak to anyone anymore- unless its 'thank you' in shops. id odnt mind too much, but sometimes i long to have someone cuddle me and tell me it will all be ok,a nd kiss me. though i dislike people touching me unasked, i miss affection,as i have none at all.
i am also depressed that i am rapidly aging, with no prospect of marriage and a family, which makes my life seem pointless and bleak. i have lied to my family and said i have a well paid job- seeing them is stressful because of maintinaing the lies.
i never go out; i am too afraid to meet poeple. i dont 'seem' aspie on first meeting, but then on closer inspection seem 'odd', but not weird enough to be on sickness benifit, as i am.
i hide my symptoms well on cursory meeting, but i long to sit ina pub and drink and smoke and talk and laugh.
i am very lonely. though i dislike vast amounts of people, i long for friends and affection (though not the constant hugging/kissing type!).
its like food- i want to eat a lot of cherries, but it makes me very ill; id like to go out and live a normal life, but it exhausts me, depresses me; but i still want a little. |
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okelay_
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I'd say yes. cause with autistic people, it is harder to find like-minded people or to make friends.
NTs may feel lonely as teens,then they grow up,it's usually a temporary things.with autistics, it is not. |
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SabbraCadabra
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Don't know about "lonely" but I certainly feel "lonesome" sometimes.
Sorry if that sounds anal, just seems a better word to describe what I feel. I can be alone by myself and long to see just one certain person, but to get to the point where I'm so depressed and alone that I don't care who visited me, I would definitely call that "lonesome".
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