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breakfastsurreal
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 Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 12:40 pm Post subject: I might be an aspie... |
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BUT two things I notice about myself that are remarkably atypical are:
1) I try really hard to fit in socially, and I can get depressed if I isolate myself...even though social situations make me uncomfortable I feel like I need them for my own sanity
2) I don't have problems reading people's emotions at all...I am quite good at it and am very intuitive in that sense...however I do have trouble feeling emotions for other people...I understand the emotion and try to understand but I can't really put myself directly into their shoes. |
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lelia
Pika
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 12:55 pm Post subject: |
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| Well, come on in and tell us more. |
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Funaho
Deinonychus
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Location: Detroit, Michigan
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 12:59 pm Post subject: Re: I might be an aspie... |
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| breakfastsurreal wrote: | BUT two things I notice about myself that are remarkably atypical are:
1) I try really hard to fit in socially, and I can get depressed if I isolate myself...even though social situations make me uncomfortable I feel like I need them for my own sanity
2) I don't have problems reading people's emotions at all...I am quite good at it and am very intuitive in that sense...however I do have trouble feeling emotions for other people...I understand the emotion and try to understand but I can't really put myself directly into their shoes. |
Hmm you remind me of myself, especially #2. I can pick up emotions so strongly that it's overwhelming, though it seems like I only really read the base emotions (anger, fear, etc) and the nuance is lost. I also, like you, can feel the emotions but the cause behind them baffles me.
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breakfastsurreal
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 1:24 pm Post subject: |
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I guess I have a lot to say, but couldn't possibly think of where to start or how to structure this post...so it was a lot easier to say what does not identify me with AS. What does...well that's a long list...I wouldn't say that any one of my symptoms is extreme, and as an adult I have learned to adapt to a fairly normal lifestyle. We are positive that my husband has Asperger's, his symptoms are much more extreme and he is more "textbook" than I am.
I suspect that my mother might be AS also, and I also think she may have had a rough pregnancy with me. I was born 2 weeks late but was only 5lbs. Physical affection as a child made me cringe...it still does, from my parents, but I don't have that problem with my husband...in fact it's the opposite for me now...I crave it from him. I have always had issues with eye contact. My parents would force me to look them in the eyes whenever I'd talk to them and this always made me so uncomfortable. As a young child I had friends, but would try way too hard to "be cool" and was very much overly sensitive. I wanted so badly to be just like all the other girls. But in reality, I think I really enjoyed being alone more because it was less stressful and came more naturally to me. I think a big part of my trying so hard was because of my Dad's job. He was a public figure and as a family we were almost forced to be outgoing and be in the spotlight a little bit...so I was trained to be like this. In third grade my teacher suspected something was wrong with me...I was almost insulted, I thought she felt that I was stupid because I never visibly paid attention in class. I was just a very quick learner and only needed to hear a concept one time before I "got it". I had very high test scores in spite of my inability to pay attention. My parents took me to be evaluated (this was before AS was in the DSM-IV) and I was tested and had a very high IQ but was never diagnosed with anything. They just put me in the gifted/accelerated learning program. I did pretty well in this class and really enjoyed it. In high school I was evaluated again and given an ADD diagnosis and put on adderall. I loved my adderall too much and became dependent on it so I had to quit taking it. As a child I think I had trouble reading people, and picking up social cues. I don't really have trouble with it now. I have always been a great speller, and great at memorizing facts. Sometimes I feel smart, but stupid at the same time...think Jessica Simpson...I have a lot of "DUH" moments! A lot of times I am the last one to pick up on the punchline of a joke...I also try really hard to be funny sometimes and VERY rarely am I actually that funny to other people. I have learned over the years to be quiet and not as outgoing, because whenever I tried that I always made a fool of myself...or at least felt like I was a fool. I always did really well around church groups, maybe because they were so nice and didn't want to actually treat me like a fool even though that's how I acted. I am very clumsy, and have accidents all the time. I ALWAYS stub my toes, at least once a week usually more. I like to be in charge of making plans...I can't stand for anyone else to dictate my routine, and I get major anxiety if I am told I need to be someplace at a certain time. I have never had a job for longer than 6 months. I think mostly due to anxiety, especially if I start thinking about how we are supposed to go to a job for the rest of our lives, or at least until we retire. No amount of money is more important to me than not being stressed out! I am a good worker when I am working though. Never been fired or had any issues, other than just a "fight or flight" instinct that I have to run away when things overwhelm me. I waited tables a couple times, and I know I am exceptionally smart, IQ-wise, but it always REALLY bothered me that people who I considered not very smart would run circles around me when it came to waiting tables. I just never got it really and was always messing up and it stressed me out really bad. I am very sensitive to noises and smells. I can smell something a good 5 minutes before anyone else picks up on it, and lots of times people think I am crazy when I say something smells bad because they don't smell it. I can't stand background noise. If I am not in the room and focused on it, then it bothers me. For example the tv on in the other room...that's the worst! Or sometimes my husband's music on in his computer room. Also I have to say things in my head first before I say them outloud...like especially when I'm about to make an important phone call or go through the drive through, like I don't have intuition to just know what to say unless I think about it first. I think its a huge reason why I did so many drugs for so long..they took me out of myself, and I felt like I was better able to relate to other people....I was more outgoing and "smooth" rather than being socially clumsy I think. Also I have problems with lying. I CAN'T do it! Even if I try, I start smiling and turn really red. Sometimes I also have problems with oversharing. I don't know what is and isn't appropriate to share with certain people. I see it as just being really honest. I don't like to keep anything from people, and am pretty much an "open book". I used to embarrass my family a lot when I was younger with this.
So that's really all I can think of right now...what do you think? Sorry it's so scattered and one huge paragraph. |
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breakfastsurreal
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 1:31 pm Post subject: |
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more things I have thought of...
-I have obsessive habits, like cleaning my plate, and biting my nails..I MUST do it
-Once I start something I MUST finish it...especially cleaning or some kind of task that I don't really WANT to do.
-When I was younger I used to think that I was the only real person and that everyone else was a robot...they all charged their robot batteries while I was sleeping |
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2ukenkerl
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 2:01 pm Post subject: |
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breakfastsurreal,
You sound a lot like I am. Frankly, you may have AS. Take that as a compliment!  |
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Austral
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 2:18 pm Post subject: |
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| i am shocked at how similar our experiences have been breakfastsurreal, more so because i had never heard of this condition before this morning! |
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breakfastsurreal
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 3:03 pm Post subject: |
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| to be honest I always just thought I was depressed and socially akward. I never ever thought to even consider a form of autism, because when I think of autistic people I think mentally retarded. Not saying that they are, but that is just what I always thought...I was ignorant I guess. |
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aintnowreck
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| breakfastsurreal wrote: | | to be honest I always just thought I was depressed and socially akward. I never ever thought to even consider a form of autism, because when I think of autistic people I think mentally retarded. Not saying that they are, but that is just what I always thought...I was ignorant I guess. |
Well, this is what the general population thinks: retards...
Apsergers are autistic so they are retards... how sad.
Because you eat salad and broccoli, does that makes you a vegetarian?
You know better.
I stumbled by chance on an AS description before being diagnosed, that chance made me do the testing and found out after that it is what I am.
Am I a retard? Socially, maybe a bit. And I don't care.
I also have an IQ of 160. Who's the dumbass?
We'll never stop fighting for who we are. NEVER.
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2ukenkerl
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 3:24 pm Post subject: |
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| breakfastsurreal wrote: | | to be honest I always just thought I was depressed and socially akward. I never ever thought to even consider a form of autism, because when I think of autistic people I think mentally retarded. Not saying that they are, but that is just what I always thought...I was ignorant I guess. |
Again, SAME WITH ME! |
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Deinonychus
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 4:14 pm Post subject: |
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Hello.
Welcome to Wrong Planet.
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