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hakemon
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 Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 4:22 pm Post subject: Friends with Benefits |
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Has that term ever crossed anyones mind? It did a month ago, and to me personally, I like it, but I understand most don't.
For example, last weekend I enjoyed the "benefit" with a friend, and being able to shrug it off and continue being friends as if nothing ever happened I find the most interesting.
But once again, I understand some people look down on it.
What's your stand on that situation?
EDIT: PS, I understand it's not technically love, but couldn't find a better spot to put this.
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greenblue
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well, I personally would think it's cool. To have a 'friend with benefits' and get around being in a relationship.
On the other hand, how many 'friends with benefits' she will have, would you be the only one?
With things like this I think I would worry about my own safety, STDs is what it comes to my mind when lots of other people are somehow involved, I am not sure how much guarantee condoms give you on safety to prevent STDs, that is one of the reason I would promote being loyal to one's partner  But that's me.
Although if someone could enlight me a little about this, in a positive way, it wouldn't hurt
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ToadOfSteel
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| Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 4:39 pm Post subject: |
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| Some people like the idea of no-strings-attached sex, especially the ones that don't feel any emotion with sex and use it only to satisfy biological needs. I see that as a sign of vanity, although my opinion is not shared around the world. In my opinion, the only option one has for true no-strings-attached sex is one's hand. |
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hakemon
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| Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 4:50 pm Post subject: |
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From what I've learned so far, here's what's allowed: Cuddling, kissing, etc, anything associated with feelings for the other. Just pure "benefits".
For the 3 times I've done this (2 with one friend, and 1 with another), one of us casually asked the other if they were up for it, and if yes (almost always), we just do it, and when done, cloths back on, and back to whatever we were doing.
I personally never asked first, don't have the guts too...
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hakemon
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| Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 5:26 pm Post subject: |
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I just went with one of my friends again, but she broke the rules!
She kissed me at the end!
So what do I do? She said it was an accident, but now we'll look at each other differently now.. 
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| Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 5:29 pm Post subject: |
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"" but now we'll look at each other differently.. ""
no reason too, bet you feel pretty much the same way
as before the kiss, just try to enjoy - she kissed you,
could be alot worse in a way  she could have kicked
you in the groin or something for example. If she said
it was an accident, just let it be and continue, but i`m
pretty sure she likes you, not many girls kisses someone
they dont like. Dont think it to death, just enjoy |
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Funaho
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| Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 5:39 pm Post subject: |
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I've had the same on-and-off FWB for a little over a year now. it's someone I've known for the past 7 or 8 years. I think they work well especially for those of us who are quite likely never going to land a "real" relationship. It makes me feel like I'm at least not ENTIRELY undesirable...
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ToadOfSteel
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| Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 5:42 pm Post subject: |
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| Funaho wrote: | | I've had the same on-and-off FWB for a little over a year now. it's someone I've known for the past 7 or 8 years. I think they work well especially for those of us who are quite likely never going to land a "real" relationship. It makes me feel like I'm at least not ENTIRELY undesirable... |
And what about those of us that do want to land a real relationship? I'm not specifically referring to you, I'm just wondering how, in an age where more FWB relationships exist than more committed ones, can I find someone to spend the rest of my life with? |
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hakemon
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| Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 5:47 pm Post subject: |
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| ImTheGuyThatDidThat wrote: | "" but now we'll look at each other differently.. ""
no reason too, bet you feel pretty much the same way
as before the kiss, just try to enjoy - she kissed you,
could be alot worse in a way she could have kicked
you in the groin or something for example. If she said
it was an accident, just let it be and continue, but i`m
pretty sure she likes you, not many girls kisses someone
they dont like. Dont think it to death, just enjoy |
Ok, I guess so. Thing is, I do find her a bit hot..
(And if anyone remembers be and that other girl getting together, it didn't work out)
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Funaho
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| Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 5:48 pm Post subject: |
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| ToadOfSteel wrote: | | Funaho wrote: | | I've had the same on-and-off FWB for a little over a year now. it's someone I've known for the past 7 or 8 years. I think they work well especially for those of us who are quite likely never going to land a "real" relationship. It makes me feel like I'm at least not ENTIRELY undesirable... |
And what about those of us that do want to land a real relationship? I'm not specifically referring to you, I'm just wondering how, in an age where more FWB relationships exist than more committed ones, can I find someone to spend the rest of my life with? |
erm, let me rephrase: for those of us UNABLE to ever land a "real" relationship.
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Averick
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| Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 5:57 pm Post subject: |
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I think that this route is key to understanding more of NT intention and fluid operations.
But of course, be careful for gosh sakes!! |
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JohnHopkins
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| Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 5:57 pm Post subject: |
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If all you want is sex, it works great. I had it for a short time, and it was awesome.
It can help you punch above your weight as well. I mean, hot damn...
You just have to make sure feelings don't end up involved, or at least, not if it's inappropriate/only from one end. |
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hakemon
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| Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 6:06 pm Post subject: |
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Gah! I keep looking at her differently. Everytime I look at her, I remember the kiss and feel she wants more from me.
Another thing we don't do, is get intimate.. But I feel she wants to.
Crap, this wasn't supposed to happen. Here I talk about how great it is to be free about it, and now I get caught up in my own words..
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hakemon
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| Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 7:26 pm Post subject: |
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Ok, I talked to her about it. While the kiss was more of a thank you, it was also cause I'm one of her favorite friends..
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ProtossX
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| Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 11:51 pm Post subject: |
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| Funaho wrote: | | I've had the same on-and-off FWB for a little over a year now. it's someone I've known for the past 7 or 8 years. I think they work well especially for those of us who are quite likely never going to land a "real" relationship. It makes me feel like I'm at least not ENTIRELY undesirable... |
excuse me funaho u told me u hadn't had sex with ur FWB in a little under a year now i mean ur not gettin anymore sex then us so stop tryin to brag man u havent seen ur FWB in like 11 months |
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